ANSWERS: 73
  • I would be irate. Thats incredibly insensitive of your husband, and you should definitly tell him so.
  • Yes,you have every right to be mad,I would be mad.Your husband should have been paying attention to you at your wedding,not his ex...why did he even invite her?! I bet he wouldn't like it if you invited one of your ex boyfriends and flirted with him,and ignored the husband.
  • Yes. I'm sorry. It's not the "right" thing to do. But I would hold a grudge. It's supposed to be YOUR special day. He shouldn't ever have taken his eyes off of you. More than anything sounds like me told her more than once... unacceptable. Take your time to simmer down.
  • Yes you should be mad. And why didn't you attack his gf?
  • i agree you should be mad, his attention on that day i would think should be on one person only, he also should realise a ex in any relationship can make his new partner feel awkward.
  • Yes you should, because he's married now, and is kinda commiting adultery.
  • Smack his balls hard!
  • It's one thing to be at the mall on any ordinary day and comment on a pretty girl walking by, but ON YOUR WEDDING DAY! I would be fuming! That was beyond rude and was completely unacceptable!
  • Don't do this and I don't recommend it either! However, if it were me, I would divorce him and take half of everything he owns... :)
  • I would be mad from the get go....first to invite her and then by disrespecting you but giving her any attention at all. He was rude and I hope things go up hill for you but with that kind of behavior at the wedding.....I don't think I could last one day with that man but good luck to you!
  • This question reminds me of this one - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/1603437 Makes me wonder how genuine these questions or questioners are. But if this is true, you have my sympathies.
  • well! i hope you have a happy, long lasting marriage!
  • Yes be mad. It seems an odd thing to do to even invite her to your wedding. You should share your feelings with him - he needs to know and take account of your feelings.
  • Absolutely! It's sounds to me like he wasn't quite ready to get married. I'd have to think long and hard about staying in this marriage! That day was YOURS, and yours alone!
  • Hell yea u shud be mad..Id be mad 2, hell..Did u confront him he was wrong??
  • lesson learned then; wear skanky dresses get more attention.
  • Is annulment still an option?
  • Oh my gosh!! This is like a nightmare! You need to tell you husband how upset you are. He should definately apologize.
  • You have every right to be mad. Were you aware she was invited? Explain your feelings to him and stress how much he hurt your feelings and demand an apology!!!
  • I would be mad but why would you allow him to invite his ex to your wedding? There is no way I would have allowed my husband to invite any of his ex-girlfriends to our wedding.
  • I would be pissed from the moment he invited his ex-girlfriend.
  • i dont think i would have cut the wedding cake, i wouldve mashed it right into his kisser. Tell him how upset you are cause he sounds like he probably doesnt know what hes done wrong, bit of a dickhead i think.
  • It's not a matter of whether you should be mad because getting mad doesn't accomplish anything. However, there is a problem if he is inviting ex-girlfriends to his wedding. Relationships with those a person was once romantically involved with should be severed once the person gets married. He is supposed to become one flesh with you; thus, there should be no emotional connection of any kind with former girlfriends. As I said, getting mad about it won't help, but you should address it with him. Be very sober, sincere and calm and tell him that you were disappointed by what he did. If you're hurt, tell him so. And point out that it's not a matter of jealousy but the fact that you want to be the only woman in his life, and that when he has these associations with other women, it makes you wonder. Of course, perhaps he was just being polite with her. Why wouldn't he say such things to you? Well, as the saying goes, "Familiarity breeds contempt." People tend to not feel pressure to be polite with those close to them -- it's just man's nature. As I said, though, regardless, he should not have former girlfriends as friends is he is married.
  • He should not have invited her; it was your day and his to share with family and friends-that can be mutual. He could have let his ex gf know he was getting married so that you wouldn't be receiving a call or some kind of letter from her. It's important that ex's bow out so that the new relationship can strengthen. I could say that you should not be mad, jealous or insecure, but it's human nature to react and you are reacting for a reason. Be cool, realize that he made a really dumb mistake, he may make more because of a lack of awareness. Find a way to talk to him some day when it can be a conversation without you having those awful feelings.
  • Id be so mad, I better be all my man sees if/when we get married. I would be very offended,Im sorry. I agree with everyone else you should talk to him. (I hope things work out well.)
  • I would be mad if this really happened. But I am such a cynic that I tend to wonder if this is a real circumstance. Because if it did I would be furious, walk out and never talk to the man myself.
  • It's definately not a good way to start a marriage, but it also sounds like you're insecure and cannot handle your husband having an ex. Is that what he really "said" or is that what you "heard"? In the end you must "like" your spouse. Just remember trust is a must and that you can get sex anyplace! You must have had a clue of his ways BEFORE you married!
  • YES!! i'm so sorry. That isnt something you should have gone though...i would be so angry!!
  • So in other words he had love in one hand and shit in the other.Hum They would be using the wedding flowers for his grave....Game over sucker.
  • Maybe it isn't as serious as it looks, considering you married him, but yeah I would be severely pissed off. I would be mad enough that if he were going to get together with her, He would. That was really unkind and humiliating. Maybe he is one of those guys that thinks marriage is for "good girls" and lust is for pigs?? you know?
  • Oh hell yes be very mad..I never got how pretty I was in my Wedding dress either..And I have been with him for 29 years..Be extremely angry..
  • You should have called-off the wedding at that time. You are in for a rocky marriage. His eyes should have been only on you and not his ex. Watch him closely. Its not over.
  • Hell yeah you should be mad. How much more inconsiderate could he be!???? Just based on that, he doesn't sound like a guy you should've married. Sorry. Good luck, but it looks like you should be seriously considering getting the wedding annulled before you have to go through the divorce processes when you eventually find out he's cheated on you left and right.
  • You're a better woman than me, I would not only be furious but the wedding would have been OVER and she'd have been tossed out on her skanky dress. The EX should never have been invited there to your wedding in the first place. That just isnt done, maybe with younger people now it is.... In my opinion, your wedding is a sacred event and the guest list should certainly NOT include anyone you used to have sexual relations with. Its just not right. Period.
  • Very much so.
  • If I were you, I wouldnt have put out on that wedding night
  • OK...but it is time to get over it. If there was alcohol involved, then he was acting like an ass due to his drinking...let it go. If he hadn't been drinking, he was acting like an ass for his own reasons...who knows? Either way, say something like "I felt humiliated and hurt when you kept complimenting her and you never once complimented me on my wedding day! I need you to apologize and acknowledge what an ass you made of yourself. Then I will never mention it again". Then, if he does, you NEVER throw it up to him again if there is no repetition of the behaviour. If he doesn't, then you have a MUCH bigger problem that that one incident...and I would suggest you get couple counselling right away before it escalates into a disaster for you.
  • You have GOT to be kidding!!! If it were me I would have handed the ex my bouquet and let him have her. No way would I have married, or stay married to, a man who would do something like that to me on my (our) wedding day. It is a clear sign of things to come and why waste time on someone like that?
  • I would have been mad too! I think I woulda called the wedding off right then and there! Why did he invite her, and this is your wedding day, he should have been telling you how beautiful YOU look thousands of times!
  • I would have demanded she left!
  • god you married the guy, she is JUST AN EX
  • Yes. But that's not very nice of your husband to do that. I know some guys are like that, they want to show off to his ex... or feeling pretty special and powerful to bring his ex and "current" woman all together for HIM. I'd say good luck to you, if he shows more sign of being a jerk... Leave.
  • That's something else. I would have embarrassed the hell out of both of them. My husband would have been crying in front of his family if i let that nonsense go down. Please let him know how you feel and don't keep it in.
  • Mad, no....confused, yes. Y was she there, why was he boostin her up, and y didnt he say anything to you. Why did you marry this dude?...I woulda let him go on the honey moon by himself...gave her the other ticket, kicked him in his arse, her in her knee....and stopped the wedding.
  • An ex-girlfriend should always stay that way. In my opinion, men ought to stay totally away from their exes. Either that, or get back together with them, if you cannot live without them. Otherwise, you are two-timing and stringing both people along.
  • You had the right to be mad, but it would not be wise if you stayed mad. Tell your husband you did not like it and then get on with your lives and make your marriage a success. If he's a good guy, he'll understand that this is the last time he saw his ex.
  • I would be so pissed off. Ha ha...I don't know how you went through that crap. I would have kicked her skanky little (or big) butt out of there in a heart beat. He would have gotten a new butthole that night. But I guess that its just like I guess on the wedding day the attention should be on the bride/groom. She is to be seen as beautiful and commented upon. So for him to do that crap is pretty mean.
  • I think you should tear him a new one........
  • Look, if his ex looks that good to him, then she can have him! Annul the marriage and find yourself a gentleman! I think your husband is a fool for having his ex around at the wedding! But, then to compliment her and not you! I remember I did not see my bride, in her dress, until she was coming down the isle. She was so pretty, in my eyes. The music was playing and soon the three horrible days on the bus to get to her, faded away. We had a simple wedding, nothing fancy. We enjoyed one night in a nice hotel and then climbed aboard a Greyhound bus for California (3 more days). But, I love her and I would have made sure that her wedding day was memorable for many reasons and not because of a skanky dressed ex!
  • Your husband sounds like a real jerk. He invited his ex? And then couldn't stop complimenting her. I'm with Nice Guy in Bay Area...get an annulment. It's never going to get any better. Why prolong the agony?
  • Well, first off ..ther would have been NO wedding unless his EX was off the guest list ... PERIOD ! Then; when he began Complimenting HER ... that would have been when I would have went HOME alone .... You were treated very BADLY by this jerk , who is now your husband .... Straighten him out NOW .. or he will do this kind of thing the rest of your life together . +5
  • you should be mad, but you should talk to this with your husband ı think. because if he doesn't know that this situation makes you sad he can keep on doing this. after the speech if he is continuing to do this to other girls just think twice about your marriage.
  • first why would you be mad at the ex? She was invited and she dress the part. Now how did you NOT know she was invited? If you knew she was invited why did you allow it? It sounds like he still cares deeply for her. But a bride is the one who should have ALL eyes on her.. So maybe you should take a break get the marriage annulled. Then if you really love him work on it, before saying you do.
  • Knowing me, I might not be mad. I might even agree with him and tell her she looks pretty. Then, I might pull him away and say "What do you think you are doing? This is OUR day! How would you feel if I invited MY ex's and did that to YOU? Look, buddy. I know you might not even be trying to hurt me, but would you please think before you say stuff?"
  • I would of been furious to first see his ex g/f there and then see him paying more attention to her than he was to you, his bride. For him to tell her how pretty she looked and not say one thing about how you looked in your wedding gown was very rude of him. I'm sure you looked beautiful. He is lucky you went ahead with the wedding. Unless all this happened after you were married? What has he said about it. * Have you told him how you feel? If not you need to talk to him asap and get everything out in the open. Holding you feelings inside will only allow them to keep growing until you feel like you will explode. Talk to him and find out why he acted like a fool at your wedding. If he has no good answers, an annulment might be your answer. I honestly hope you can work it out and he will admit he made a terrible mistake inviting her to your wedding.
  • stupid is what stupid does ...
  • no F-ing way. That is wrong in so many ways. If it were me, I'd leave him, and take his car and house. But that's just me.
  • hell yes be mad but you should only be mad at him for that. not her.
  • hell yes you should be mad. he shouldn't have invited his ex, thats wrong on a lot of different levels.
  • WOW! are u serious? he invited his ex? he got the nerves to do that and to compliment her? well maybe that was a red flag. i cant say much but if that was me, i would have cancelled the wedding. well first of all, yall should have settled things down before getting married. that sucks. its okay to be upset or a lil jealous but talk to him bout it so u can be reassured that he doesnt have anything for her anymore.
  • Yeah...Id be pretty angry...did you let him know how it made you feel and what was his exuse. Did you have a good wedding night or were you too angry?
  • that sounds like the shortest marriage ever. if he was that inconsiderate on YOUR wedding day, can you imagine the first year? good luck and run.
  • yes i think you have the right to be very mad. this is a very bad way to start a marriage. good luck.
  • ID BE PISSED!!!!! I definatly wouldnt of had an ex at the wedding, thats a bit akwarrd... I would of threw her out by the sexy dress as soon as she arrived. And him, well... Not cool!!
  • I think you have all the reason to be mad and I would be so angry on your place. He has to realize that if he chose you as his life partner he should be paying attention to you not his exes. Especially on your special day!
  • it is no use getting mad on a petty issue ,and you have long way to go.
  • Absolutely, you should be mad! I'd be mad if my man invited his ex to our wedding. I'd have thought it odd if I had been invited to my exes wedding.... Weird... Yeah...I'd be PISSED!
  • Mad? Hmm. I don't think I would marry a man that #1 Invited his ex & #2 Wouldn't make me feel like the most beautiful woman at OUR wedding. He's LAME!
  • O. K. I will put this in another way for you... Have you ever thought that you don't not inspire your man to give you the attention you deserve? http://www.albinafabiani.com/affection.html In my previous post to you I simply stated that it is better to learn the rules, so that you can break them properly, meaning: if you know how your man think/feels, you have more chances in the long run to keep him, as well as love him and LET HIM love you. Don't make the mistakes most women make with men. http://www.albinafabiani.com/why-he-leaves.html Learn the 3Cs that are unattractive to a man (no, it's not Coco Chanel)- C(ontrolling) your man, C(omplaining) to your man, and C(onvincing) your man. When a guy feels great about you, he makes a deposit into this account. When he is annoyed by something you do, he withdraws from it. When a man withdraws more than he deposits, the relationship is in trouble. http://albinafabiani.com/keep-him-interested.html Also understand there are certain things you believe about men and relationships that can actually be HURTING your chances at real and lasting love...in you case is believing your man is after his ex girlfriend on your wedding day...WOW... http://www.albinafabiani.com/truth-about-men.html And finally, learn the THE Magic Attitude that Inspires Honesty in a Man, especially if you want to share a happy life with him... http://www.albinafabiani.com/magic-attitude.html I apologize for not being able to give you the quick fix answer you have been looking for. Only a rare woman can understand men better than men understand themselves ... are you one? Wishing you luck...and long lasting relationship. Albina Fabiani
  • ask for an annulment, you so deserve better hun, and im sorry if this comment upsets ou but all women deserve respect and to be treated as if they are the only gawgus grl by there own husband! this is disrespectful! and that day was your day one your never going to forget its meant to be every grls dream! kick him in the nackers and tell him!!!! x x
  • And you went through with the wedding. Okay, well, you get what you are willing to accept and I guess you are willing to accept behavior like that for yourself. This question was asked two years ago. I wonder how your marriage is going. Probably not very good.
  • I agree with those who said you should have said something then and there. That not being the case you need to confront him about this right now. Before Miss Skank can cause too many more problems and end up ruining your marriage.

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