I don't know but isn't the real quesiton, "Why do women stay with men that cheat on them?"

Becasue they are not only incapable of being honest with their wives, but of being honest with themselves about what they need to do.

Cuz they have no clue what they want.

Many reasosn. Some just claim to be unhappy but in reality are just unhappy with how much sex they get from the Mrs or the qaulity of it thereof. In most cases when men cheat that is all it is about is sex. Then you have those who don't know what they want. They think they are unhappy til they see how badly the hurt the person they were supposed to love so somne will stay out of guilt.Some men don't like the thought of their kids calling another man daddy so they will stay in the marriage just to prevent the wife from having another man that the kids may like better than him and start to call dad. I can go on all day listing all the possibilities of why men do shit like that. The bottom line though it cheating is wrong in the first place. If you ain't gettin it as much as you would like take a cold shower they work wonders in that situation if that doesn't do it for you try masturbation. It is less risky than cheating considering all the deadly std's out there plus something like that is less likely to break your wife's heart if she found out.

They were only unhappy and were using an affair to substitute the unhappiness they were trying to get rid of. Some are scared of never being able to find anyone else. Desperation.

It is just a thrill, not a longterm committment. I gave my bf the option when we first met of being able to sleep with other women, but under certain rules. they couldn't be from work, they couldn't be someone he would see everyday (like someone that owns a favorite restraunt of his, or someone that works at the same coffee shop he goes to every single morning), they couldn't be much smaller than me, and he must always use protection. both of them, no exceptions. well, needless to say even though he was able, he only cheated once and broke just about every rule so now he isn't allowed freedom.

First lets take a look at the word cheat. An act of lying, deception, fraud, characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage. Usually in ones own interest and often at the expense of others. The breaking of rules, in this case the marraige vows are broken. I think that the reason why a man stays w/ the wife that he told the other woman he was unhappy with is because, he wasn't unhappy in the first place, because if he were unhappy, he wouldn't be (sneaking) around w/ the other woman in fear of being caught, and end result his wife may end up leaving him. Just think, this is his wife, the woman that he once upon a time fell in love with for some reason or another, and knew that one day he may or may not want to have kids with her. If he was that unhappy he would just say hey I'm not happy its not working I want a divorce, "Oh and by the way I'm going be with MaryAnn or whoever." More than likely when a man cheats on his wife and tells the other woman he's unhappy, and then turns around and goes back to the wife, its all about sex. Lets say he does leave the wife and goes to the other woman, what chance does she have. He already cheated on the woman he once fell in love with and said I do. So what makes the other woman think that it's going to be different. It's not because he still hasn't figured out why he cheated on his wife. You do the math.

It is a lie to get the other woman to feel sorry for them and to accept the little bit they are willing to invest in the relationship. What are they going to say to the other woman, I have a great little wife that works her butt of, she puts up with a lot of my bull. She works full time cause I don't make enough to support us by myslef, she takes care of the kids and the house and is home alone right now so I can be here screwing you. Get real he tells her what he thinks she wants to hear and she is dumb enough to fall for it and settle for a cheap affair after which he will crawl on his belly back to the wife and leave the lover alone. Which by the way she deserves

Divorce is expensive....cheating is cheaper.

I did it because the other woman made me feel younger, and after 20 years of marriage - I didn't feel needed. My wife is the love of my life. I wished I could take back everything I did, all the pain I caused her and the fact I used another woman to get a quick lay every couple of weeks. It ruins your self-esteem to stoop to this level.

"Because they're true little Bitches all along!!"

whose saying the wife would wanna keep a cheater?

my husband is the love of my life and i have known for about 4 months that he is chatting to and meeting women through a married and dating website. I was so hurt i cant tell u how much. i couldnt bring myself to challenge him, which surprised me because im quite strong. We have 3 kids and when i really considered the consequenses it was terrifying. I keep a log of his actions and chats and even installed a webwatcher on the pc (thats how I truly found out) I started this so i could have evidence when he denied the 'encounters' but so far cant do it. i have put huge effort into our relationship sexual and otherwise and this has been great he is so loveing and gentle and seems so happy . but on checking it seems to have escalated his encounters. i just feel so hurt im paralised and when hes with me I almost dont believe what hes doing is real. i always said Id be gone if someone disrespectead me enough to cheat on me so why on earth am i still putting up with it.

they arnt unhappy they just want to have their cake and eat it.

It scars you for life, when your the wife.....I can never truly trust a man... I broke up with my husband...but for what the lover he had he never ended up with....so I guess it was the sex not for committment. This lover/ex....she broke up a marriage for a brief fling....I know b/c even when my husband was trying to work it out with me, and try to be sorry...she kept calling him...as if he owed her something. His lover, was a ex girlfriend, that just didn't like the fact that he got married to me. So once she helped ruin the marriage, she took off. Well, I will be scarred, I don't know why women do that to other women?

Cheating is an act of 100% pure selfishness. It says to your mate..."my needs, wants, desires, are more important than you, your feelings, your broken heart or broken trust". This is a character flaw which is not likely to ever change. Trust is broken permanently. It can sometimes be patched, but it will NEVER be the same. Lose the loser, and get on with your life. You deserve better, and life is too short.

Why would a man go to someone who helped him cheat on his wife? NO offense. The other woman apparently has no morals, is pretty much asking to be used as a "sex toy", and so on. That's not to say the husband's behaviour is innocent. It's not at all. He shouldn't have been cheating in the first place. In fact, he should have been spending more time with his wife and communicating with her more. There are many reasons a man would stay with his wife after being found out. Also, just because he had sex with another woman, it doesn't mean that other woman meant anything to him at all. More often than not, it was just a thrill or the guy was using her to get sex. That really doesn't say much for his character, but yeah. Also, there are times that cheating makes the person doing the cheating realize what he or she had.

why does the wife take him back seems to me shes as bad

Men cheat because they arent happy in the relationship. But they stay for the sake of the children and not having to pay child support.

I would disagree. My ex received plenty of great sex from me whenever he wanted. I believe he cheated because he felt I didn't support him in his career and found someone who he felt did and is actually in his same line of work. Go figure!