ANSWERS: 7
  • You might as well forget salvaging this marriage - obviously the wife has decided to move on. Now I am not a fighting man, however I do know to bring a gun to a gun fight, not a knife. In other words you are entering a fight, if you need a weapon you need to at least match the weapon of your opponent.
  • In a tough divorce settlement, the only winner is the lawyer, so cave in to everything she demands but keep the monetary settlement reasonable, and remember that she abandoned you and hijacked your family. Give up on the family getting back together - that way, if she does come back it's a good thing, but if she doesn't it means nothing. Hope for the best; prepare for the worst, but put yourself in a situation that minimizes potential damage to your long-term future. Don't give away the store - being overly generous with child support and alimony won't bring her back, but it can place your future life in dire straits. Plan a fresh start for yourself.
  • I am really sorry you have to go through this. The only thing you can do now is get yourself a lawyer, protect your interests and try and keep the emotion out of it. I know this is easier said then done, I have been where you are now. But once lawyers get involved it gets nasty. The good news is once its all over you will heal and be a stronger person because of it. I wish you all the luck in the world and my thoughts are with you. Stay positive stay strong.
  • In my opinion the best solution would be to admit to nothing, hire a couples counselor and a lawyer, if I had unlimited funds.this doesn't make sense however if you want to save marriage but you think wife and son are nasty.A mediator or couples counselor should help you resolve the conflicts in your heart.Try and solve by using all your commitment and determination.
  • If you are referring to your wife and son as "nasty", I am guessing that there is little hope to save the relationship. I'm guessing there is no prenup. Depending on the reason for her leaving (any abuse, cheating, etc on your side), you may do best to be as nice as possible. If she is leaving because she "found someone else" or something, be tough.
  • You need to grant the divorce and fight for a fair division of assets... At this point, based on your wife leaving and your comments, your marriage is not "savable" - once the divorce is clean and over, you need to focus on saving your relationship with your son - and being the best father you can be. Maybe... MAYBE... someday your soon-to-be-former-wife will see you've changed and make an overture toward reconciliation. It is a long-shot. You'd be better off getting on with life and preparing yourself for a new relationship in the future...
  • Wife and Son are nasty , Your the one who did horrible things on the Internet and Cheated on your wife as well - Again STAY IN THERAPY and let them help you work through this

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