• That's a hard one without any details. Not only do you have to deal with the information but whether you can trust what you know about them. Try and have an open discussion without judgement. Sometimes people are embarrassed and feel shame. You both have to honor each other's feelings and ideologies. Good Luck!!
    • newyorknewyork
      The question has a "given" that her past is becoming known and makes the guy uncomfortable.
    • Black Mystique
      Then it is a "given" that the relationship will not work. Can't be in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable.
    • Cruiser - IYNGUYCPL
      Way out of my comfort zone is a pretty painful place to find yourself and any woman who had been down that path might actually be a good match.
  • Apparently she wasn't up front about her past? Lied about it? If you're not comfortable with her past, time to say goodbye.
    • Linda Joy
      Seriously? Who is going to come out up front with the worst things they've ever done in their lives?
    • Archie Bunker
      It depends on how serious your relationship is, Linda. If she tried to hide it, that being deceptive. Lack of honesty will get you no where in a relationship.
    • newyorknewyork
      Lied? Let's say omitted.
    • Archie Bunker
      Semantics. But it boils down to the same thing. How much you are willing to overlook when you're being deceived.
  • Talk about it. But realize that the past is past. She is who she is today and there is nothing she can do to change that now, even if she wanted to. Better to focus on who she is becoming and wants to be.

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