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  • WHEN I WAS 8 I STILL WET THE BED AND IT REALLY WASNT MY FAULT I COULDNT HELP IT NO MATTER HOW HARD ITRIED. ALWAYS MAKE SURE THEY GO TO THE BATHROOM BEFORE BED AND THERE ARE THINGS YOU CAN BUY LIKE THEY HAVE THESE BUZZERS THAT YOU PUT ON THEM AND THEY'LL WAKE UP ONCE THEY START TO PEE OR IF IT DOESNT STOP THEY MAY HAVE A BLADDER PROBLEM SO TAKE THEM TO A DOCTOR. IDIDNT HAVE A BLADDER PROBLEM I JUST WET THE BED.
  • It could be a a physical or psychological problem. Screaming won't help, they have to outgrow it. Actually this is more common than you'd think.
  • Stop asking friends, relatives and neighbors about it... You have come to the right place.. a random group of strangers. Realistically, I think divorcing the person that is causing all their emotional turmoil would be a good start but probably not the most feasible solution.
  • Curtail their ingesting fluids in large quantities after supper - if there ain't no pee there, there ain't no pee to pee. . Whatever you do, if it's a boy don't put a rubber band around his willy. It hurts real soon but after an hour or two that abates, but that doesn't make it right - the willy still turns black and falls off if you forget to remove it.
  • I would take her to the doctor to make sure everything is working properly. Especially if she always had this problem. Other than that try to wake her up to go pee before you go to bed. And limit liquids after 4 pm.
  • This can be an heredity problem,a sleep problem,when they are very heavy sleepers the body does not get the signals,or a small bladder that just has not grown with the body and can nt hold much. His doctor can test for this and find the cause. it is not the childs fault in most cases,but can be hard on him as it will curtail his sleepovers. As I am oldfashioned,I used thicker cotton pants with plastic pants to help control the amount of urin in the bed and layered the bedding so that when it got wet,he could just strip one layer and change the pants and go back to sleep. A plastic mattress cover would help as well. A great many have this problem and some have gone into late teens and even adulthood with it,but most stop before this.
  • No Soda after 5 pm, no water after 8. Empty bladder before bed and set an alarm for 1 or 2 in the morning and empty bladder again. As a parent you need to enforce things like this to avoid further bedwetting. You don't want low self esteem as a result.
  • My son wet the bed until he was 9. I had to stop giving him drinks after 7 (bedtime was 9) & made sure that he went to the bathroom b4 he went to bed. He still wet the bed because he was (& still is) a VERY deep sleeper. Just explain to him that when he has a dream that he is in the bathroom or any other dream about water, to FORCE himself to wake up. That did not work with my son, but I to him to the dr. & they prescribed DDAVP for bed wetting. It works. if nothing else works, try it. It is not harmful & has no bad side effects.
  • I would say that all the above advice is pretty much right on target, but I would add "BE PATIENT". I know it seems like this problem should have corrected itself by now, but some little peeps are a little slower than others, and also some can be extremely heavy sleepers. My son was and continued to have episodes of bedwetting until he was 10 or 11. Try not to make a big deal out of it, but ask the child if he thinks he has a problem that needs a doctor or if this is something ya'll can work through together. Talk about restricting the fluid intake and waking up in the middle of his sleep cycle to use the bathroom. Good luck!
  • use diapers and wait i did it till i 16
  • Do not punish or humiliate the child. He didn't WANT to wet the bed. Make sure he goes to the bathroom right before going to bed. If he says he doesn't have to go tell him to try anyway.
  • I agree. It is not his fault. If he is still wetting the bed at 8, this problem will probably continue until he hits puberty. Of course you want to limit fluids, make go to bathroom, etc.- this is common sense, but this is a sleep disorder, that is probably inherited. Both my brother and I routinely peed our beds until we were each about 13. My sister wet her bed nightly until she was 11-12 and started getting her period. As my brother and I went through puberty our bedwetting diminished considerably, but I still have a problem wetting my bed and I am 36 years old. It is not unusual for me to have a bought that lasts several days, and then be dry for weeks. My brother told me he stopped entirely by the time he got out of college, but his wife and my mom both confided in me that he still has more than the occasional accident. My dad wet his bed until puberty as well as both of his brothers.
  • this might be causedbybad dreams or something he is frightened of at school etc dont make to much of a fuss make a joke about leaving a clean sheet next to his bed as if it were perfectly normal and leave one there when he goes to bed he will be thinking about it
  • go back in time and take him out of diapers sooner
  • Has he always had this problem? If so, then he could have a problem with his urethra. My son peed every night, some times he'd wake up just afterwards. His Dr. sent him to a specialist and he (my son) had a twist in his urethra, He got it fixed and never wet again.
  • If you haven't taken to the Dr. yet, I would start there. At the age of 8 it is not normal. In many cases the issue is physical and correctable.
  • give him genes with a larger bladder, my bother in laws entire family (and sisters children) had that problem till puberty. the problem is that you can not think your way out of peeing while you sleep so do not make a big deal about it... they probably already feel horrible, when they shouldn't... wetting pants while awake is a choice, while asleep is not.
  • Limiting liquids later in the evening is one part. You also need to help him build capacity and control. Take him to the store and buy him his favorite soda or juice. Then, once or twice a day have him drink a whole soda then play a game of "How long can you wait". This will help build capacity. Then, when he does go, have him stop and start the flow several times. This excersise will help make the muscles stronger for more control. Do this for a few weeks and see if helps.
  • When I saw this question it took me back 50 years and it was just like it could have happened minutes ago. Please don't humiliate the child in front of anyone. Make it a private thing and listen to see what has changed in her life. I was being molested at that age and if my mother had bothered to ask me .....things would have been very different. I am not saying your child is or ever has been violated but I think it important to find out what has changed for her. Could be not wanting to start a new grade when school starts up...could be many many things. Please ask.
  • Take them to the Dr, and make sure there isn't something medically wrong before you do anything else.
  • Take them to the doctor, it could be a weak bladder Plastic Sheets Show compassion, dont ridicule!!!!! Make sure, they dont have liquids, two hours before betime Make sure they go to the bathroom before bed Set an alarm to wake up during the middle of the night, to make them go to bathroom
  • hi there,first you can withhold liquids before they go to bed,drinking will fill up the kidneys and the urge will be too much for a sleeping youngster to handle,thus he/she wets the bed.hold back the water,soda for at least 3 hours before bedtime.see if this helps.
  • Don't panic or make a big deal out of it. The 8 yr old can not help it. There is a very large genetic bias associated with childhood bedwetting. My father wet his bed into his teens as did his brother. My brother (2 yrs older) and I routinely wet our beds through high school, although it slowed down (stopped in his case) by the time we got through puberty. My younger sister peed her bed every night until she was about 13 and then stopped as she went through puberty. It often has to do with the production of a hormone called ADH and although limiting liquids before bed and other common sense parenting will help, it probably won't solve the problem. The old adage, "he will grow out of it" is probably true, because puberty helps the production of ADH. Meanwhile, resit the urge to punish, humiliate, etc. This is the worst thing to do. My parents were pretty cool, but I wish my Mom would have been much more discrete about it.
  • If your child has always wet the bed and it's starting to make him lose self esteem, then I suggest using a bedwetting alarm. My child wet the bed everynight until he was eight. At 5 & 6, it didn't really bother him, he just wore pullups and was no big deal. But by eight it was definitely chipping away at his confidence. We researched bedwetting alarms. I recommend the book Seven Steps to Nighttime Dryness, it helped me understand. My child loved the book, Prince Bravery and Grace -Attack of the Wet Knights (wet nights). Its a kidfriendly way to understand how to stop bedwetting. Within two months my child was dry every single night. Get the books, then a bedwetting alarm. www.braveryandgrace.com has lots of positive info on how to stop bedwetting.
  • I have a problem with my 8 year old girl wetting the bed, I wet the bed til I was 11. I put pullups on her everynite and sometimes she overflows them. My husband and mother-in-law talks to me like I'm an aweful mother by not breaking her and my mother-in-law make like remarks to my daughter every now and than. I talk to her doctor and he says she is at the age where they still pee to bed or they quit, she is to young to have her bladder test for inmature bladder but how do I keep my enemies away, aka husband and mother-in-law.
  • "potty train" him
  • Give the kid a diaper.
  • Wake him up frequently in the night to pee
  • Don't punish them. Many times it cannot be helped and their body has to mature before they can stop. I had 3 children. The oldest one never had a problem. The next 2 did. I was a bed wetter. It can be genetic. We tried alarms with our kids but one of them was a sound enough sleeper that they slept right through it. Impossible to imagine but they did. Ask the doctor first and then just be patient and kind, they will eventually outgrow it.

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