I like a girl, and honestly can't stop thinking about her. How can I tell if this is just superficial high school love, or if it's the real thing?
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Jonnyjojogamer
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Well, I guess wait until you graduate to find out. Honestly, there is so much stuff to worry about in school without worrying about the "real thing". Maybe she is "the one", but wait it out before you start listening for wedding bells.
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You don't sound like you have a relationship with her. That is, by definition, superficial. Ask her out.
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Highschool? Puppy love. Real world? Serious relationship. Real thing? Marriage, kids, mortgage, car payments, bills, divorce, alimony, taxes and if your fortunate, death.
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you'll know when real stuff knocks you off when you see the person you love behind what an ordinary eyes can see.. example.. you still like her on her dirtiest clothes, sweating or anything that that doesn't pleases the eyes' beholder.. or no matter how annoying or stubborn she/he is you can still be with them.. and there are much more.. but just as what they said.. there are many things to worry about :) live your life properly :)
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If it's real then you coudl say to yourself that you would most certainly die for her because you couldn't live without her, tell her how no matter how bad your day was when you see her your the most happiest person on the planet. Try to compare them to someone you know you love like example your mother, and see how much they are to you the same.
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Pinch yourself and see if you're dreaming or not.
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(duplicate post - deleted by author - rdrainer.)
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If you're in High School, then it is probably the dreaded superficial high school love. Enjoy it while it lasts. Treat her like a lady and always be respectful to her. Be nice to her friends, and understand if she already has a boyfriend and be respectful to him, too, if she does. Find common interests and enjoy doing things together, and give the bond of friendship time to grow, but keep a comfortable level of pressure on to keep her attention. If you do these few simple things for thirty or forty years, it might grow into the real thing. Biologically, humans are brought together initially for one reason (lust, usually, caused by a recently discovered hormone), then stay together for a year for a different reason (to allow offspring to be born and initially protected), then grow old and smell bad for a completely different set of reasons (alimony, child support, no place to go, great sex and cooking, etc.). The point is: It takes at least a year for the initial hormone response to flatten out to a point where you're not thinking about your pecker 24x7. So, be patient.
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You CAN'T! It all depends on who each of you are. You will either each grow into the love, or you won't. And much of THAT will depend on whether you share principles of Love, integrity and honesty in your life. As Jesus said, IF you build your house upon the rock (your life upon goodness and love for God, truth and each other), then when storms come and beat upon that house, it will not fail. That's all there is to it. The rest is just overcoming challenge, and toughing it out.
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Time. When she becomes more than a girlfriend - she becomes your BEST friend - that's the only way to truly know. Enjoy it for now!
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Every time you fall in love it's real because every time you are a different person so your first love is just as real as your last. My advice is to treat every relationship like you want it to last forever and if it doesn't you shed your tears and move on.
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if you cant stop thinking about her stay with her, this only happened to me once but i was too late and i hate myself for that. you are not alone
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