This is not a question. You should be telling this to the judge.

Welcome to my world. Fun ain't it? This is what I wanted for my son, but because of school only one parent can have majority custody. That fell to the parent that had custody at the time, him. And the child support is not for wifey, it's for the child so be prepared to pay. They don't care how much she makes, they only care what you make. Truth is they don't care what is best for the child, they only care what the law says. And it's scewed to favor on parent over the other.

sorry for the vague staement. not a whole lot of space for a question. I want joint custody and split costs of child. without smearing her reputation into the mud is this a feasable outcome?

Sorry dude, no I'm really sorry. Diovorce alone is bad - Divorce with custody is far, far worse. Your best bet is to get an attorney, bet the wife, er, ex wife has one and her's will stick it to you. A little on Attorney's BTW. I have yet to hear of one case where they tell nice things about the soon to be ex-spouse. In fact a "good" attorney is one who can make you loath your spouse and aim to get every single last penny/all of the custody rights/ and to use any and all means necessary to do that. My nephew, God bless him, went from knowing it was his fault to calling his soon to be ex The B#$%@ - that came after dealing with attorney who made her out to be the bad guy. Good luck

I may not answer your question but I just wanted to mention, I am going thru hell with my ex, he put a restraining order on me for no reason, maybe to keep from seeing my children ( I left him, he cheated on me with another man )I was a great mom, I know he is being vendictive. Why must people place the children in the middle for their own vendictive amusement? I offered help, the kids will hate him for not letting them see me in 6 years, I dont want misery just get along already whats so hard about that? sorry venting..

It doesn't matter how much money u make and give, they always want more and try and scare you for more, becareful how much you make, they can take alot and you will be homeless, I seen it happen. Best you make your money under the table so you can live right, otherwise you will get garnished. best luck to you all loving supporting people xoxo!

BIRD NEST CUSTODY It’s a form of access or custody where the children stay in the former family residence and it is the parents who rotate in and out separately and on a negotiated schedule. The children simply live at "home" and the separated or divorced parents take turns living with them there, but never at the same time. The core element of this arrangement is that each parent maintains a separate residence where they live when it is not their turn at the "bird's nest". When one parent arrives for his/her designated time, the other vacates right away, so as to minimize or eliminate the presence of both at the same time. The separate residence could be a rented room, stay with friends or relatives, or the parents could share the cost of renting a two bedroom apart, with each having a secured room. At times, bird's nest access can be coupled with specified access with the other parent say, for example, for dinner one night a week. Sometimes, this form of access or custody will end when the youngest child reaches the age of majority at which time, one parent either buys the other out of their interest, if any, in the former family residence, or it is sold and the proceeds divided pursuant to the matrimonial property regime or separation agreement. The arrangement can be expensive as it generally requires that three separate residences be maintained, the "nest" and a separate residence for each parent. The concept is somewhat novel and appears to have as its origin a Virginia case Lamont v Lamont. In Canada, Greenough v Greenough was a ground-breaker case in that the Court implemented a bird's nest custody order even though it had not been asked for by either party. Justice Quinn, in Greenough stated: "In Lamont ... the court made a bird’s nest custody arrangement in which the children (aged 3 and 5 years) remained in the home, with the mother staying in the home during the week and the father on the weekend. I think that the benefits of a bird’s nest order are best achieved where the children are able to stay in the matrimonial home, particularly if it has been the only residence that they have known.... "Time and time again I have seen cases (and this is one) where the children are being treated as Frisbees. In general, parents do not seem to appreciate the gross disruption to which children are subjected where one of the parents has frequent access. In this regard, I do not believe there must be evidence that the children are suffering before the court is free to act. To me, it is a matter of common sense. At the risk of falling prey to simplistic generalities, I am of the view that, given a choice, I do not see why anyone would select a living arrangement which involved so much movement from house to house." http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice The biggest hurdle is finding an attorney who works for you and not to just drain your wallet. If you want to learn how to do all this go to Dads House in Yahoo Groups. There's an educational manual in the file section that can teach you what you need to know. Take the time to learn what you can and should do. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/DadsHouse/ http://www.rcfp.org/taping/ http://www.fathersandfamilies.org/ http://www.parentalalienation.org/ http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=27395259