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  • You get out of this relationship as quickly as possible!! Despite..how much you "care or love him" -
  • It's really in your hands if you think it was an accident or not. Don't let your emotions get in the way of what you truly think it was though.
  • As much as it might hurt for a while, it's better in the long run if you break off the relationship before it gets worse. If they hit you once, they can do it again.
  • How was it an accident?
  • Next time he does it, leave him. Once could've been an accident/reflex. It probably wasn't, but let's give him the benefit of a doubt. Note: He may regret it every time, but that won't keep him from doing it again. I repeat: THE NEXT TIME, leave him. No more chances after that, buster. If this ISN'T the first time he's done it, you should've left him already.
  • Hit him back with a pipe. If i does it again, hit him harder, with something solid like a hammer. If he doesn't get it he will, or soon he'll be another wife-beater dead!
  • "Accident?" I don't think something like that could be an accident. My husband hit me once. I used to say that was always wrong, no matter the circumstances. In our case a verbal argument got WAY out of hand, I slapped him, he hit me back. We forgave each other and it hasn't happened since. You have to look at your own circimstance. Can you forgive him? Do you believe it was a one-off? My advice is that IF you forgive him now, you must leave him if he does it a second time.
  • yes the common "I didn't mean to do it and it will never happen again". It WILL happen again and it will get worse and worse until you are dead. Don't mean to sound harsh but abuse does worsen. You might think he loves you but he doesn't. Love doesn't hurt/abuse. Leave while you can. Better a broken heart than leg, arm, back, etc. It WILL--WILL get worse.
  • i was going to tell you to read the poem on big daddy's profile but ab will not let us view those right now. i would be out the door ... been there done that and it does not stop it only gets worse. he will lose his temper again because we all get angry at times. edit. if this is for real and not a mind game please comment, your question is bothering me on so many levels. +5
  • accidents happen... though in 6 and a half years of marriage, I may have accidentaly bruised my wife (wrestling), I never hit her and wonder what scenerio had an accidental hit worthy of being called a hit. and I find it hard to believe a guy would cry over an accident unless you were blowing it out of proportion. heck, in 6 and a half years of marriage, having 2 cyber affairs and 1 relapse with the second... my wife only saw me punch in anger once... and the target was a steel door (but she was the antagonist) {the sentance structure was unclear... she was the cheater}
  • How did the accident happen? Need more info.
  • Accident? An event that happened by chance. What, his arm was just flayling around and happened to find your face or body? Give me a huge break! . This is simple: "If someone hits you, it means they don't like you" . It's so simple that my 3 year old niece knows that. LEAVE, AND LEAVE NOW.
  • See the following. If you recognize yourself in any of them, get out: Signs of abuse, even early on - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2872392 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3766947 (controllers) Signs of abuse, and what to do - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3384385 Would you stay with a guy that dont treat you right just becouse you love him? - (Mostly assuming abuse:) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5438372 Just to make you think about abuse: A poem © 1992 by Paulette Kelly I Got Flowers Today I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night, he finally killed me. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.
  • Get out of the relationship right now, if he insists on contacting you, call the police. This is exactly how it always starts. If you have any self respect get away from that guy. +5
  • make a note of the time and date and what happened and stick it on the door of your refrigerator. so when it happens again, you have a paper trail.
  • Kick him in the nuts and move on. The end.
  • I feel bad for both of you. Honestly, when you are raised in a high drama household and violence is the only way you've seen people express themselves, despite the fact you hate it, it is what your natural instincts are. He probably cried because hitting you goes against everything he believes in, yet he can't help the fact he has urges to. I don't know why he hit you, but it sounds like he really hates himself for doing it. I feel for him, because my dad is the same way, and I know he is just a victim of his own father, but it is still not acceptable. If he is struggling with urges to hit you, he needs to seek help for this problem. Until he does that, as much as you love him, you shouldn't be with him. You have to ask yourself how much you are willing to take.
  • "Accidently" walk out the door and "accidently" dont come back.
  • I bet he did! He cried out of pure fear. Is your brother or father in the armed forces? LISTEN! PLEASE listen.....HE would not have CRIED unless it was on purpose. There is alot more to come. His crying indicates he has ALOT of pent up frustration. He will release it at different times on whom ever is around and LET'S him. Get away from this guy. Tell your parents. They have to be made aware of this. Don't think you are protecting him by not telling, what you will be doing is caring about yourself and your family.
  • hit him back,obviously
  • Don't believe and trust him. They keep doing it often and often. That's why I left boyfriend.
  • He's a pig. Get rid of him. You already know this or you wouldn't be asking. Get him gone. What excuse will he give you next time? If he is around to do it again, then shame on YOU.
  • Although the first reaction is to agree with the previous poster,it would be useful to have one or two more details, such as, how long together, any history of mental or physical abuse during the relationship, was the argument particularly fierce, what was the trigger that made him hit you etc. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not looking for his justification for lashing out, I am trying to evaluate the likelyhood of him repeating this behaviour. In your opinion, is the relationship worth working at? If so you must try to look objectively at what happened and why, and when your both feeling calmer and relaxed, discuss what happened, how it made you feel and if anything in the relationship has changed because of the incident. I suppose what it boils down to is this, was the relationship satisfying and fulfilling before and were you sure that this was the one for you, because if not, you will have to consider whether it's even worth looking at the why's and wherefore's. It's highly probable that once someone has physically attacked their partner, they will do it again, but it is not a definite. It's your call, good luck and let us know how you get on.
  • leave him! they all say that and look what happends...they do it again! don't fall for it.
  • If he hit you once, he'll hit you again. Leave him
  • Dry your tounge as good as u can then LICK his ASS as hard as u can. When he cumzzz, catch-n-Swallow. Then let him put his feet on your back as he watches the game!!!
  • Id forgive him, if his tears were legit. People deserve second chances especially if its legit and he accidentally did it out of anger. But if he gets angry like that again and DOES hit u again, i suggest leaving him ASAP. I hope it was an accident, i hate people that hit their spouses intentionally. I litterally hate the crime (I cant emphasize how much i hate it).
  • Did he try to make you feel better? If not or just gave you a dirty stare or looked away if your cried my advice that he is an ass.
  • There is NO EXCUSE for abuse! Abusers always say that they are sorry and won't do it again! That is BS! You need to get the hell out of there why you can!
  • once a hitter always a hitter!!
  • If when he hit you, he wanted to hit you, get rid of him. He'll do it again no matter what he did after.
  • If, before you leave, you can quickly make sure that he gets the psychological help that he needs do so but do not stay; get out as quickly as possible.
  • I'll give you two answers, the right one and the one that most people gave me when I had a similar situation. Many people asked me what I did to deserve her hitting me. I was told to let it go, to not take it seriously, and that it must have been my fault. Don't listen to any of that.   The right answer is to leave him. Period.
  • get a baseball bat or a stick or something and totally beat the F@#$ out of him and when hes down beat his nuts until they turn into a bloody mess, then ram bat up his ass. That will make sure he leaves u alone
  • How did he accidentally hit you? Did he fall down the stairs and you were at the bottom? If it was a punch cause he was mad... That is how the cycle starts... beaters always say they are sorry, feel bad and beg you to forgive them... Until the next time they get mad. Then it starts all over again.
  • A bitch pose-ta get her funky ass beat. If you'd close ya fuckin mouth n stop tryin ta b a man you'd b better off HO.

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