My husband blames me for every small thing that goes wrong. Sometimes he blames me for things that ve not even happened. Idont understand why does he do that & What can I do abt this?
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He is emotionally and mentally abusing you. You need to have a "sit down" talk with him to stop this behavior, or it will get worse. He uses transference and projection of his own feelings of low self esteem and failure into you, as a stress release valve. Tis behavior is dangerous for your well being.
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This is passive-agressive behavior. It also sounds like you're a handy target. If he couldn't blame you, he would have to start taking responsibility for himself. Many therapists will tell you that we teach others how to treat us. So the natural question is, do you want him to continue treating you that way, and if you don't, what are you going to do to teach him you're not going to put up with it anymore? Something else to think about: Do you have children? If so, you are also teaching them that this is how men should treat their wives and women in general. When I realized that this is what I was teaching my son and daughters, I finally screwed up the courage to insist on marriage couseling until the problem was resolved. The good news is, we are still happily married, and I now have a loving supportive husband and father of my children.
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he is trying to destroy your self esteem so that you will be more easily dominated in a negative way
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all i know is that i would never do that to my wife. She should feel loved not blamed.
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