Can you choose who you fall in love with or do you think it is pre determined by both peoples experiences up to that point?
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You don't choose to fall in love, it just happens.
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Excellent question. I have not yet met one person who has consciously chosen their significant other.
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Sometimes yes and sometimes no. Sometimes the other person will practically force themselves on you. Taking "no" for an answer. I know of some instances of this by some of my friends. Sometimes they'll threaten you to scare you into a relationship. Although this wouldn't really be true love.
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no, you can't control your emotions.
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no unfortunantly :( everyone would be so much more happier if you could.
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i don't think so, its not in your hands
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I believe not.
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Past experience would indicate that I was completely unaware of any such feeling until it attacked me without warning and left me wrecked for life :)
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no because when you love someone your heart chooses not your mind
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I don't think so, it just hits you like a boomerang!!! Regards.
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I don't think so there is a country song that says "you can lead a heart to love but you can't make it fall" and that I do agree with
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Having been in various relationships in my life, I have to say that, No, you cannot choose who you fall in love with. How many of us can relate to the Vertical Horizon song, "Everything You Want"? I am betting pretty much everybody. We have all met that "perfect person" who just couldn't seem to find their way into our hearts, no matter how much we wished they were there. Therefore, I am more reassured every day that you cannot choose who you fall in love with...however, you can certainly choose who you decide to pursue a relationship with (say if the man you have fallen in love with is married, or treats you badly, or something like that) and you can love someone all your life and not be with them as long as you have accepted that is how it will be and have additionally opened your heart to others, as well. This is a long process, but it can be done.
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Of course and in fact everyone should choose carefully. Always ask youself why you love somebody. If you can tell then sorry myfriend, you might not really love him/her. If you really love someone, that because you love him/her the way they are. SO you should not able to tell exactly why you love someone. Love need a lot, and a lot of communication to achieve. Both parties have to open up themselve to let the other person reach inside. And that's the most difficult part!!!
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I believe you just fall in love, and sometimes often. I have been in love with multiple people at once even - for different reasons (I don't recommend it). The thing I have realised is it can be with the right person at the wrong time, or conversely at the right time with the wrong person. Life and love works in mysterious ways - I wish I could figure it out.
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I think it's pre-determined by something unknowable (ie. fate?) I want with every fiber of my being NOT to love the man I love but I am powerless, I can't get away from him, we were highschool sweethearts then broke up and each dated other people for a couple years, then at 20 we got together again, but circumstances pulled us apart and I met my now husband, moved 200 miles away, had two kids, he got married and had a kid, and now, 15years later we find each other again and we love each other like no time has passed, but it's impossible. So I really believe it's something grander than just experiance and chance, it's kismet!
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i dont think you can choose who you fall in love with, it just happens.:)
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We can choose to be with someone, love does it's own thing.
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i dont see why not
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