Honest?

Here are some pictures of me what do you have to say? http://s367.photobucket.com/albums/oo111/starheart17/?action=view&current=2009_0629shootphoto0045.jpg http://s367.photobucket.com/albums/oo111/starheart17/?action=view&current=2009_0629shootphoto0034.jpg http://s367.photobucket.com/albums/oo111/starheart17/?action=view&current=2009_0723shootphoto0062.jpg

Don't worry, I'm a 16 yr old guy and I have the same problem. So if your friends say you look pretty or fine, you just have to trust them. I have the same problem because I don't think I'm that great looking. But you also got to say to yourself, "well no one is born looking like a million dollar model." Yes by the way I saw your pictures. You are not ugly, poor looking or anything negative. from a guy's perspective, you can call yourself pretty. that is true and positive.

So you need your friends to tell you you are pretty before you will beleive it? Calling yourself pretty isn't going to give you confidence. Realising that true beauty comes from within will. If you need to label yourself, and I find labels very limiting, try calling yourself, intelligent, smart, funny, sensitive, passionate, creative. Don't use 'pretty' as the only label worth having.

You need to talk to your therapist and explain what you have said here. It seems like a lie to you to call yourself pretty, and you don't feel any better doing it. Pretty is not in a look, but actually in a feeling. Putting a smile on your face, and being nice to people can make them think you are pretty, and make you feel better about yourself.

You're a very nice looking young lady. But don't worry about labeling yourself. Do things in life that will build up your confidence and give you pride and a sense that you belong in this world. Claim your place here! That self esteem is what will draw people to you and in turn have you feeling better and better. But it comes from doing things, not from slapping labels on yourself.

Looking at your pictures, I think you are very pretty. Though you may look better with a smile (just a suggestion). I can understand the problem with self confidence, I have the same problem. I am not confident at all. And have questioned my choices more and more recently. I have been battling this for a while now.

Let me tell you something. If I were single and much younger, I'd be hitting on you. You ARE pretty. (And, no... I'm not a "dirty old man"... Well, not REALLY!) BUT, you don't want to call yourself pretty. You can see in a number of places and TV shows what happens when girls think themselves pretty. Many suddenly decide that only the studs will do, and stop looking at all the men out there, missing out on some really great guys. All you have to do is learn to be happy with yourself. Realize that there are certain things you can't change, easily, and just be happy with how you look. Don't let anyone talk you out of if... Remember, that this is all just their opinions. ALWAYS concentrate on what you like about yourself, and forget what you don't like. Soon, you'll find that you DO like yourself, that you look decent enough (your opinion, remember), and that you are worth others getting to know. Stop looking at and comparing yourself to supermodels, TV, and movie personalities, and start looking around at girls your age. BTW: This type of thing (not thinking yourself pretty or good-looking) has been going on forever. VERY few people will look at themselves and just KNOW they are stone-foxes. And those celebrities? They spend a LOT of money to look the way they do. VERY few of them would be recognizable without makeup. Give yourself a break. From the advantage of years, you are pretty. As for what you call yourself? Just be happy with how you look. If you are happy with "decent", then go with that. If you're happy with "cute" go with that. How about "fine"? And "attractive" is a PERFECTLY fine word. Listen to James Blunt's "You're Beautiful" or Joe Cocker's "You Are So Beautiful". Believe it. ;-)