Guys: Has it ever bothered you that a lady walking in your direction on a deserted street is probably wondering if you're a rapist? Ever cross the street so she wouldn't have to worry about it?
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I seriously doubt that women are so paranoid about rape,
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It doesn't even cross my mind if she did feel that way because i know that I'm not. I would just stay on the same side of the street, going about my own business.
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It doesn't bother me personally; I know who I am. But I'm sorry that her experience or indoctrination has been so bad that she might think that way.
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Nope. Never thought about it.
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Sounds like you are bothering yourself. As a woman I never worry about rape. I know I can take care of myself. Cross on by and stop worrying. =)
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There have been circumstances where it has occurred to me that a woman might feel threatened - alone with me in a car park lift at night, for example. In those cases I try to appear as non-threatening as possible.
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That would be the dumbest thing she could think of. If she's that paranoid what is she doing in a deserted street all by herself?!
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Are you serious? Okay, I'm not a guy, but I am going to tell you something...if I was that scared about getting raped, I wouldn't even be on the streets in the first place... maybe that's just me, but I doubt it.
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Wow...I never actually considered that they might know that Im wondering that lol
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Okay it kind of seems like everyone is attacking the asker...and Im not saying that I think every man I walk past alone might "rape" me. Aside from the whole "walking on a deserted street" thing, if you (a woman) were to walk past a man and were completely isolated for whatever reason, it would almost be irresponsible NOT to be cautious. There are some screwed up people out there and anyone who says they dont think about stuff like that is either lying or foolish
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Yes, I have done that sort of thing. I am large, and could be frightening to a nervous woman. I have deliberately moved myself away to minimize my threatening aspect. Conversely, when there are a group of louts on the street, I have moved alongside a woman to ensure she was not alone, and engaged here in polite conversation to reassure her as to my intentions, so far as I could.
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I would be more concerned if she's got her hands in her pockets, I know from experience that people carry weapons of all sorts and by both genders.
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No, because if I ran into me I would think I'm a rapist.
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No never thought that because im not a rapist, do all women think that of men these days, if so that is a sad thought.
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I'm not gonna lie... Yea lol, but only late at night... Because I know if I were a girl, i'll be scared as hell, so I just walk away from her so she won't have to worry about it.
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I very much agree with Tila. Being a woman I am not paranoid at all, but I realise all too well that I have to be cautious. That doesn't mean that I am restricted to daylight or certain very busy streets! I take my freedom, and I make sure I'm as prepared as possible. But being cautious is unfortunately always a good thing and sometimes a very necessary thing. I think it's something a woman should always be aware of, at least in the back of her mind. It shouldn't have to be that way, but there are many idiots walking the streets. I know this from experience. And I know quite some women who had some bad experiences on the streets. Not to the point that they where raped, but pretty close to it.
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Sheeet! I'm totally non-threatening, guy! ;-)
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Nah. I generally have a very laid back walk. It often betrays the fact that I stay high as much as I can. People generally aren't threatened by my appearance. Anyway, if I don't know them, the whole time I am passing them I am paranoid that they are a cop and I reek of weed.If they are worried about me being a rapist, then it evens out.
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I have walked behind many a women alone on isolated streets late at night and never really gave that much thought. I''m sure some of the women have though because I have noticed a few who have crossed over or who have turned a corner I know for a fact from seeing them before that they don't live on so maybe in the back of their mind they thought I might be a rapist following them and waiting for the right moment to grab them and drag them down a dark deserted alley and rape them.
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Oops that was meant as a comment :)
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I used to. Not anymore. If she's that worried, I let her cross the street.
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You're thinking about what other people may or may not be thinking more than I. I have enough trouble keeping track of my own thoughts without branching out. +5
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I like to chase them for a couple of blocks. They need to be scared so that they avoid situations like that whenever possible.
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Not even!!! If anything they WANT me to give them attention, they be diggin' my pizzazz and style...but I play hard to get because I know they secretly wanna rape ME!!!
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No, what if she wants to rape me?
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I don't think it has, but if someone was noticeably wary of me, I wouldn't push them to be further uncomfortable.
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Yes I did that. I also were afaaid of her too. YOu never know.
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nope... if she is thinking it about a clean cut guy like myself she is thinking it about EVERYONE. not that clean cut guys can't be rapists, but seriously you can't let fear rule your life. as we pass I give a friendly greeting and walk on. besides making an over action to avoid ehr might make her thing you might try to covertly follow her and this was a misdirection technique, paranoia can make anything evil
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Yes,I lived in a collage area of Cincinnati where some girls would walk alone at night(NOT SMART)I would cross the street to relieve them of the stress of me being a problem for them.
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I've done that a lot when I used to walk everywhere, didn't have a car, living in West Hollywood. It irritated me, people's body language telling me, shouting to me that they were terrified of me. I'd cross the street.
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If late at night & I think the lady might be worried I will cross the road or alter my pace. I don't assume she thinks I'm a rapist but I know that my sister & female friends have felt vulnerable walking alone after dark so I don't want to scare anybody.
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Nope. The idiocy of others is not my problem, nor my concern. She can run squealing across the street, if it is that big a terrifying terror. I ignore stupid people, and fully expect the same consideration from the 'tards.
Moongrim 
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