You have to ask? Your answer is yes!!! Your boyfriend is not concerned with your feelings or emotions. He feels secure enough that you will let him get away with whatever he does wrong in your eyes because you suffer from what many women in your situation are plagued with...simply put if you have to ask for an answer to such an obvious question. You suffer from co-dependency!!! Your boyfriend is cheating on you when he's acting more like a boy than a friend....is he not? - Im happy to help, I hope your more the wiser, if you are, I did my job well.

Girl yeah it's cheating get out before you can't, He is going to keeping doing it to you,cause he see that you anit doing anything about it, so leave him.but 3 years is a long time tho, so you either talk to him about it or leave him cause if he meets up with this girl, and he likes her he is going to be with her 2.

No it's not cheating... But it is a problem...just talk to him about it. Find out what he's thinking and what you guys can do to fix the problem together. If you can't help eachother then move on. If you guys aren't in the same mind, you don't belong together. But don't just throw the relationship away. Think about it, then make a decision. And most of all make sure that YOU are happy with the situation. If you're not happy there is no use for the relationship either. good luck

well, let's see: He posted info on DATING SITE. HE MET SOMEONE ELSE ONLINE. HE IS ATTEMPTING TO DATE THEM. HE ALREADY HAS A GIRLFRIEND. THIS ISN'T THE FIRST TIME HE'S LIED TO YOU.... I'd say yes..... DUH. oh honey, I gave you 2 points out of pity. GET OUT and save yourself! Call Cheaters and humiliate him on TV the way he is doing you online!! And take care. It will be hard to get over. But try to imagine going through this with 3 kids and bills to pay... not so easy to leave. GO. NOW. WE ARE BEHIND YOU. click on pic

Yes. I doubt they were going to met up and play scrabble. End it, it's not worth having to wonder every day if he's going to cheat on you.

Don't worry about the semantics. "Cheating" or no, it was disrespectful - and more importantly, a sign that he is not happy in the relationship and still actively shopping. My unsolicited advice (you knew it was coming): just move on. Plenty of fish in the sea and all that.

I just had the same issue. last night my bf uses my truck to go see a chick...met her online, told her he was single (though we live together), but when I called her number, he hauled azz home. He came in and said he was over his buddy's house, then when I confronted him, he lied again until I threatened to call her. That's when he told me the truth. That it was "innocent", they were just friends and he didn't tell me because he knew I wouldn't understand. We've been together for years, so who goes out and meets female "friends" to hang out with. Then he blames me. I'm mean, I pushed him away. I'm never home, I never cook. I work 2 jobs, have a 4 year old daughter, and I am finishing up my LAST semester of college before I graduate in April. No, I'm not home alot, no I don't cook alot. But..that's a reason to blame me for what he did..in my truck no less. The girl described to me MY darn truck.

It's a "dating" website, because people who go on it are looking for someone to "date." Is that not the definition of cheating? Cuz if not, I am really curious to know what people think cheating is. The guys an a**hole who doesn't give a crap about you or your relationship. Would it be any different if he met someone at a singles bar or wherever people in your neighborhood go to meet other people, and then he decided to go home with a girl he met there? It looks like the same thing to me. To make it simple, if it's worth lying about, he's probably doing something wrong. Dump him.

yes! kick his butt to the curb you don't need him.

Most people think the question is about what to do about the boyfriend - but that's a trap. Viewing (judging) your boyfriend as anything is not a pursuit worth your energy; in fact, avoid judgments vehemently as they have a nasty boomerang effect - and then you'll sit and wonder why you keep having repeat experiences. Any proposition you sell yourself that sets you apart from others (above or below) will propagate a sense of isolation and self-doubt in you - whether you are sensitive enough to be aware of this or not. So, in simplest English, I wouldn't focus on him; let him be; focus on you. You might consider loosening your grip on the idea of possession or ownership that seems to accompany the label - "boyfriend." Both men and women trap themselves in this peculiar ownership nonsense....let it go.... 1. Get clear with yourself without condemning him; 2. Communicate your thoughts and feelings without any manipulative attempts to project guilt onto him; You might say when you're ready, "I'm ok with you being you, and, oh by the way, this is what I want..."; 3. Get out there and have some fun with him or without him.... -Nash- http://www.emergentawareness.com/

Remember a old moto and live by it...DON"T TREAD ON ME.

This question is 3 years old, I sure hope she got this answer much sooner than now.

I understand that our boyfriend having sex with another woman is not a good thought but even if he did not cheat on you with this woman he planned on meeting off of the dating site, it does show that he is disrespectful to your relationship. The fact that he would take the time and post a profile, check who has responded to his profile and then talk with them via them when you may feel hes doing something totally innocent sends the trust right out of your relationship. It's not the same as a guy that likes to look at playboy magazine. He is not being respectful to you as his girl if he even wants to be on a dating site. Unlike your last response, yes sometimes people need to ask because the man makes the woman feel like shes being stupid or over-reacting. I had a similar situation and it is very hurtful to learn that your guy is even intersted in joining a dating site when you feel that you are in a relationship. It really is too bad that all too often this happens and it can be really difficult for you to determine that this is what is going on. With the internet, passwords and alternate e-mail adddresses he can easily hide it even if he tells you that he no longer is just fooling around on the site. There are so many things they tell us to make us doubt ourselves when they are confronted. You know how you feel about this person and would you ever do such a thing to him?

If he lied to you, that's cheating. If he is meeting a girl behind your back that's cheating too. This guy is a cheater. If it walks like a cheat and talks like a cheat, guess what?

Hell yeah that's cheating,girl you need to come out of that relationship if he lies about you existing to meet other women when your not important to him atall.you should let go now that getting yourself hurt much more and more badly.Keep in mind that's the only thing you got to know about imagine what he is still doing out there or what other things he cam be doing

Absolutely it is - he knowingly and premeditatedly (??) initiated intimate interactions with another woman. Get rid of him, if you let him get away with it once, it will never stop. Good luck.

Um...YES.

yes it is cheating. if there was no intention of meeting it would be an emotional affair.... Effair. had they met it would have been an affair. as is it is somewhere in between and even an Effair is cheating.

have you and your boyfriend committed to seeing each other exclusively? if so, then yes, this is a violation of your agreement. if he has not made this commitment, then no, he's just dating.

Yes. My ex did that - I dumped him - and I am far better off. Good luck.

Wow, I bet your paying his bills too!

YES

i don't think he was meeting up with her to play uno +5

My best advice to anyone is what would you advise a friend to do if they asked you the same question? I don't know your boyfriend personally but what do you think he is looking for on there? Be careful some dating sites rig you into signing up but you actually have never been on there. Before you trip make sure HE DID INTENTIONALLY sign up then go from there. Personally if I seen that and it was my boyfriend I would be mad as hell. I wouldn't consider it cheating until he went and did something. But its definitely not ok.. that means hes thinking about other girls. Dont be a door mat, dont put up with his crap. Good Luck!

I am kinda going through something simaliar. my bf made a myspace and he put that he was single and so I made a myspace with a fake name and a blurry picture and started talking to him anyway I wanted to see how far he would actually go but the truth is that i trust him and I ended up telling him that it was me anyway befor I even tried to make contact with him ...but anyway yeh I think him being at a dateing website is crossing the line...and will lead to cheating...

This is definitely cheating and noone should put up with it. I threw out my babies dad because I found out he was in sex chat rooms all the time when I wasn't home.