Personal issues such as abuse. Maybe annoyance?

Hi, It was with interest that I read your question. I went through a really bad divorce some 25 years ago and my xwife denied me access to see my daughter. In fact my whole family was denied access and eventually I gave up due to the mental stress and rejection as I didnt want my daugheter being brought up in that kind of relationship. I have had to live with that decision all tose years and had to bury the hurt just to get by and start my life again. It is not always what is seems and sometimes the dad loses out due to a controlling wife. I have recently been in touch with my daughter after 28 years and she has been deeply hurt by my decision which I feel dreadful about and its going to take a lot of time and love to allow me back into her life. All the hurt I had all those years ago have resurfaced with a vengence and if I had my time again I would have changed things but back then it was so difficult and even years on I was denied access despite several attempts. Im case I felt I was never wanted as I never heard from my xwife about my daughter and my daughter never looked for me so I just thought she had been poisened and In would never see her again. If you want my advice I for one would welcome my daughter back into my life and each party should bury there fears and contact eachother and start to build a new life together and move forward as you cant change the past. The dad though has to accept he is to blame for the hurt he has caused and be a man and accept that, without that there is no reason for his child to let him back in. I hope that helps and lets you see another side to what you think has happened. As always there are two sides to every story. Allan