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  • Someone actually said to me at my parents' funeral - "It's ok, I'm an orphan too." WTF?!?!?!?!
  • "Every one has to go some time." I was just in the emergency room with my daughter* who is six. She was crushing-out on a cute 14 year old boy in the waiting room. She already has issues of fear about her dad's age.** When she told this kid how scared she was to be in the hospital, he told her not to worry, that he was used to hospitals. His dad died but was in and out of hospitals for a long time and well, ya know, "everyone has to go some time, man." *She stuck a Q-Tip in her ear and damaged her ear drum. **She is my husband's late-life love child. He's in his 60's and we've taken him to the hospital with heart trouble which made my daughter useless for weeks, scared that every day was the day he would die, even though the doctors kept telling her that it wasn't his time.
  • 'Well, you know, they weren't THAT important to you, were they?'- said to my cousin Izzy when her dad died last year.
  • congratulations!! >.< wen my grandfather died and sumone sent a bounquet of flowers and at the back of that ribbon says "congratulation" in a watermark print.. though we know its not intentionally and its not the sender's fault but its odd...
  • it depends if the person died ore just broke up with you..if the person just died and someone came and told me "well it was he`s time anyway and life goes on" and if someone just broke up with me the worste thing they could say would be"there are more fish in the sea, you will find someone new soon enough" i dont want 2 know that when my heart is broken..i just want 2 cry and crye untile it stops hurting,also when someone i loved died i just want 2 be left in peace alone..and i dont want people giving me theire condollence...iam weired i know..but that is how iam.. peace=)
  • suck it up, they are not going to come back
  • Stop crying that's what my Dad said to me when my Grandmother passed away Sorry, I misunderstood the question earlier
  • &quot;It's not like you really wanted children anyway" Niiiiiice. Yup, that made me feel soooooooooo much better.
  • im glad it wasnt me
  • Hey, you know...none of are going to live through this anyway!
  • Death is the natural end of life God takes people in death to be with him. God takes little children to become angels. Some people are tormented after death. Death means the permanent end of our existence http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/6/1/article_02.htm
  • &quot;Well, I would say that you'll see them again one day. But I doubt you're going to hell, too."
  • I went to a funeral for a member of my husband's family and the preacher used it as a way to preach very condescendingly about hellfire and people gone astray. Being non-Christian (and not knowing who if anyone there knew) it was very uncomfortable for my husband and me, to say the least. We came there to pay our respects and say goodbye to a loved one, not to be a captive audience listening to how we were going to hell. We understood that it would be a religious funeral, but it would have been much nicer had he actually talked about the good that the lady had done in her life instead of making it all about the sinners among us.
  • WHO CARES. THEY WERENT ANYONE ANYWAY.
  • &quot;I hope you're in his will." would seem like a more realistic thing someone might say... Unrealistically someone could say, "I hope they burn in hell!" I hope I never hear anyone say that... I would ignite!
  • When my wife died, a gentleman said to me with his wife by his side, "I know how you feel." I know this man and he has never lost his wife, so NO, he does not know how I felt at that moment, and I told him that. Well, later I felt bad and called him and apologized, he said to not worry about it,, that he didnt really know how I felt ,just was trying to make me feel better.
  • Get over it.
  • I never really liked em' anyway.
  • &quot;You are still young you will meet somebody else" I assure you that is the LAST thing anyone wants to hear
  • &quot;Look at the bright side." "You should feel sad."
  • The worst thing: "You must be happier now that (s)he is gone."
  • Can I have his car
  • &quot;Welp. He's dead now."
  • I heard this said to a young widow: "Well, dear, you're young, you'll find another soon."
  • A conversation in my local pub some years ago:-The landlord said to a customer "what's up with you fred " Old Fred replied "my wife died yesterday."The landlords reply "Really get to the bookies while your luck's in." I'm not joking this was an actual conversation
  • Its your fault she is dead,you should have went with her.
  • It should have been you. That's cruel.
  • I'll give this a shot. It wouldn't be too far a stretch of the imagination for me to think of something totally tasteless to say to someone who just lost someone. Let's see... Lost a spouse? 'So, when we goin' out?' or 'Let's go back to your place and I can console you.' Lost a parent or grandparent? 'Geez, I never thought they would die. They must have been around when dirt was born.' Lost a child? 'Well, you better get back to it. You have one to replace.' You asked what could someone say and I answered. Though I'm not that insane to actually say such things to people. The thing I tell myself is 'Don't worry. Their pain is over.'
  • so. have you read the will? what are you getting?
  • i think the worst thing a person can say to someone who is grieving is: I know how you feel. because you dont know how that person feels. you may have lost your mother and think you can relate but no, you really can't. people's relationships differ fomr one to another and what two peole may have shared as (for example) mother and daughter is most likely DRASTICLY different from another mother and daughter (even in the same family) People ALL grieve differently and deal with the loss at different rates and in different ways.
  • It doesn't matter because they didn't love you anyway
  • You'll get over it
  • i thought they would of passed sooner than that..
  • Well he/she was a prick/bitch anyway.
  • Dude, Do you mind if I date your mom?
  • &quot;will you be dating soon? how about dinner? maybe drinks?" I heard this at my best friend's step fathers funeral ask to his mother by a 'friend' of the family. She did go to dinner with him. That was sick.
  • at my grandfathers funeral my aunt was crying alot and my uncle went up to her and said "why are you crying he wasnt ur real dad anyways" i wanted to slap him but my dad wouldnt let me.
  • should you really wear that to a funeral?
  • Well, I think the worst thing that someone can say to a bereaved parent who just lost a child is "I understand" or "I know how you feel". You don't. The best thing anyone can say to someone who is grieving is "I'm sorry" and "I'm here for you", and then leave it at that. Do not drop the person like a hot potato, do not smother the person either. Just be there but be aware of that person's feelings.
  • Did you dip your face in their ashes or are you just looking a little pale?
  • &quot;Get over it! People die everyday!!" "Better get used to that!" But the absolute worst thing someone said to me after my mother died, was a stupid old Japanese bitch!! Sorry, but she was!! Her: " Did your mother die?" Me: "Yes.." Her: "How did she die......AIDS?? ahhahahaha" Everyone just went silent as this stupid bitch sat there laughing at her own joke. I've never punched a woman before, but that was the closest I have ever been! I just looked at her shaking my head..
  • &quot;everything is going to be O.K." When in reality everything isn't going to ever be completely o.k....they just a loved one who can never be replaced.
  • I have often heard people say to someone who has miscarried or had a still born baby .... well, you never really knew that baby and you can always have another.
  • the worst thing you can say is "hey, things happen". some people just have some nerve to say this..
  • I know just how you feel. Useless thing to say..
  • Sucker!
  • hey shit happends
  • I didn't go through all the replies given but one thing that always seems to stand out to me at funerals is the saying, " They look so good don't they?". I often wonder if that is said out of respect because of how an individual passed on or if they are being inconsiderate- sometimes I find it difficult to tell the difference this day and age with the generational gap.
  • Said to my ex girlfriend at her moms funeral.Just to let you know.when you walked away we stood the coffin up before they burried her so she wouldn't be rollin in her grave knowing what a shitty daughter you are.
  • This has happened more than once to people I know, right at the wake or the funeral: "So will you be moving now? I'm a realtor, here's my card." "So will you be selling your mother's house? I'm a realtor, here's my card. You should do this right away, it doesn't do anyone any good just sitting there empty."
  • the good old one "i know how you feel"
  • &quot;He/She diserved it!"
  • &quot;Better sooner than later"
  • Honestly, I think the worst thing I heard at my mother's funeral was one of two things. "At least she's in a better place/At least she's not suffering anymore." or "Everything happens for a reason." Both are equally lame and insulting to someone who is mourning the loss of a loved one. I wouldn't have thought those statements would infuriate me as much as they did when my mother passed away.
  • &quot;they weren't that great of a person anyways!..." as said by my bestfriends EX boyfriend and her gramma's funeral. he was such an ass!
  • I said an awful thing that hurt my mother deeply. I was in shock when I said it. My mother and father came on Christmas Eve and stayed the night. On Christmas day my father said he was not feeling that well and they left around 2 PM. At 5:11 the phone rang. I was taking a nap. It was my mother. She said in a dry matter of fact voice, "I think your father is dead." I said, "What?". Again in a very calm voice she repeated it. Then, and I have no idea why, I said, "Well you don't sound very upset about it." Then she just fell apart and started crying. At the same time it was sinking in with me. It was something I will regret for the rest of my life.
  • at least it's one less expense to pay
  • It was his (or her) time to go.
  • gotta admit, lifes better now that their gone
  • is his car for sale yet?
  • &quot;Oh, well, at least it wasn't on my birthday" (I know someone who said something like this to one of my friends when my friend told them that they were going to have to put her dog down =X)
  • &quot;Cheer up! We'll get a new grandma!"
  • At my father's (step dad) funeral two years ago a woman came up to me and asked who I was. I told her I was his daughter and she said "Oh, but he wasn't your real father dear". I mean how cold is that? I was in too much of a state of shock to tell her off, it felt like someone had shoved a dagger through my gut. He was my father for 20 years, that is more than half my life. He's the only father I had ever known. It was like he just died and then someone took him from me again in a different way.
  • I hate to hear "It was his time.", "It's God's Will" and "It's the way he would have wanted to go". My fiancee just passed at thirty three in a horrible bus vs. car accident and I can tell you that it wasn't his time, he wouldn't have wanted to go that way and God had nothing to do with taking a good man who never did anything wrong from his family at such a young age.
  • So I guess this means your single?
  • remember when Ronnie died and you said you wished it was me, well guess what, I am dead, dead to you as can be... -Eminem (Cleaning Out My Closet)
  • There are worse ones than this, but when my aunt died (aunt by marriage) and my other aunt (dad's sister) said to my uncle (her brother) "Join the club bro" (her husband had died a few years earlier, so she's like Join the clubs of dead spouses jeez)
  • I loved her many times too mate, you shouldnt have fallen for that prostitute.
  • My Dad died of liver damage, so the common thing I get is: "He was a drunk! He got what he had coming to him!" and he wasn't a drunk.
  • &quot;At least he didn't suffer before he died." which, to me, is like saying: "At least he didn't lose his torso before the shark bit his leg off." Comparing a "worse scenario" to what's currently happening will not make it a "better scenario." As far as the bereaved are concerned, HAVING SOMEONE YOU LOVE *DEAD* IS THE WORST SCENARIO POSSIBLE IN THE UNIVERSE.
  • dont cry they wouldnt want you to be upset. i feel like saying what do you want me to do laugh because ive just lost someone close people always think its appropriate to say well at least they are not suffering anymore and they are in a better place now. i really dont want to hear it when ive just lost someone in my family.
  • &quot;It was Gods'will". That's the xian excuse for everything.
  • personaly I think that the worst thing to hear would be o well
  • have a good cry...it will make you feel better...as if! In my opinion the best thing to say is as little as possible. Just sit with them and be there for them. Let them talk if they want to, but just listen. oh yeah, here's a good one to a family that has lost a number of young members over a few years:I think your family is cursed....eeeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkkk!
  • This is the worst... Ha ha she's dead, and I'm so happy. In loving memory, of her demise. when her ship was going down, I was there watching her drown. Ha ha she's dead, ha ha she's dead, ha ha she's dead. Ha ha she's dead, the joke is over. She was an asshole, and now she's gone. when her ship was going down, I was there watching her drown! Ha ha she's dead, ha ha she's dead, ha ha she's dead!!! From the Green Day song, "Ha ha you're dead".
  • &quot;So... um... do you get any money out of the death?"
  • when my best friend died in a car accident her mother told me that god would send me another best friend. but on an average i always hate when people tell me that everything will be okay. i know it will be okay and i know they only mean well but i just don't want to hear that at that moment
  • Who inhereted the belongings? I hope I did, I sucked up to that loser my whole life.
  • Well, you knew it was going to happen
  • So what's happening with his/her apartment?
  • Hey come on man cheer up! I mean your dad wasn't THAT great right? No need to cry over that wrinkly dead guy right?
  • I can't believe how many people say things like that. I guess people just want to say something and don't realize how it will come out. Sorry you guys, I was trying to add a comment to another post and messed up here.
  • They're in a better place now. Oh, that one makes me want to spit fire.
  • &quot;Well, the funeral is the hardest part." It was said to me when my grandmother died a few years back.
  • &quot;turn that frown up side down and get to ur fight" said to me by my cuzins Fiancé at the same cuzins funeral
  • one day i assisted my friend to her relative funeral, and there were these people with cameras and they asked me, how well did you know the deceased? I said she was a wonderful person she would be greatly missed, i saw pink flowers, turns out Mr. so and so, died of old age. I was embarassed and ashamed.
  • My grandparents raised me... they WERE my parents and the only people I was close to. At the funeral a so called friend of my biological mother told me... "You need to grow up and be more supportive of your real mother. She just lost her parents." I replied... "No way, seriously? So THAT was those people who raised me and who I just quit my job and school to take care of for the last 8 months while they died... thanks for clearing that up. Now, bite me."
  • My dad died when I was 11. When my friends dad died, a bunch of us at school were signing a sympathy card for her. When passed to one girl to sign she looked at the full card and said, 'I wish my dad would die so I could get a card like this!' I couldn't believe my ears!!!
  • well atleast you are still here hey you better ride life it may be you next laying their
  • After a miscarriage... Well, there was obviously something wrong with the baby It's for the best You're young, you'll have another You wouldn't want a baby with problems anyway the list goes on.
  • My boyfriend came in and woke me up and told me that his best friend was hit by a train. He said "Will's dead" and I said "No, he's not" I think that was fairly horrible of me to say.
  • &quot;Oh that sucks." That is just so rude!
  • the worst i got was when my grandpa, who i was very very close to, passed away and my boyfriend at the time didnt even acknowledge it. idk if that counts as something to say, but even on the day of the funeral he called me and rather than saying sorry or anything like that he talked about another girl...i realized i couldnt stand him anymore after that
  • &quot;look at it this way, you get some free inheritence stuff now."
  • Either "I know what you are going through" or "They are in a better place now" are both very insensitive things to say I think.
  • congrats for your loss.
  • &quot;get over it" thats a horrible thing 2 say
  • My uncle died unexpectedly in a car accident. The priest from his church gave a one sentence summary of his life, then spent 45 minutes telling us all to get saved or we'll burn in hell. Had to fight a strong urge to shoot the bugger.
  • so... was it your fault?
  • I had lost 2 of my children (seperate times) and had been told "It's better off this way"! I wanted to smash them when I heard that stupid comment :(

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