My grandma is about to die. I watched her fading and fading today. I have a small family that isn't close. She's in the hospital, incoherent. Do I visit and be a good grandson?
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If you are asking then yes. You don't want to have any regrets when she does pass away. I'm sorry that you are going through this difficult time.
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My grandma is dying, too. We have been close my entire life. I have a very large family -- and now we aren't close because I needed a separation for my mental health. I did what was right for me. I know how I feel about my grandmother. You don't do anything out of obligation. You do what feels right for you -- don't get hooked into the drama that especially thrives during times of sadness and difficulty. You do what you have to do. I am sorry for what you are going through. I can relate.
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You consider distance, expense, your job, and the impact on your family, etc. You then balance those areas with what your heart tells you is right.
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Do whatever you feel is right- if you think you'll regret not being there in the future, you should go. If you think she'd understand your need for distance and feel okay with that yourself, you've got your answer.
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You should go. You might regret it later if you don't go.
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Oh yes make her last moment really count for her. I bet she is proud of you and thats great that you set an example for others. Even thou you think she is not listening to you her spirit is and knows. You can still talk to her. Good luck!!
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If it's any help, i avoided seeing my Nan when i knew she was dying because it hurt so much to watch her fade, but i deeply regret that now. It sounds as if you are already there for her but if it's too hard for you i, for one, would understand.
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