My little sister is 14 and pregnant i dont know what to tell her n i feel guiltly beacuse im 16 with a baby myself. i dont want her to think its okay but i dont want to be a hyprocrite. i feel horrible am i a bad influence.
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You are not your sister's keeper. There comes a point in each of our lives when we have to realize that we are truly responsible for only one person in life, ourselves. I don't mean that we shouldn't care or help or guide those we love, just that no one can live our lives for us anymore than we can live anyone else's life for them. This includes watching loved ones stumble. All we can do is be there for them to help get them back up again. All we can do is offer our support, not carry them. Best wishes to both you and your sister! May what sorrows and pain life brings you be outweighed by joy.
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Don't feel guilty I'm sure you aren"t to blame for your sisters mistakes she surely has a mind of her own. my sister was pregnant at 16 and cruelly suggested I would be no different to her. she was so wrong! if anything witnessing the struggles she had being a young mum put me off for life. So your sister knew the pitfalls courtesy of you and it made no difference go figure!
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No, not a bad influence. Your sister is going to make her own choices just like everyone else. This is all that I can say: Let her know that your there and that you care for her no matter what. Its not easy to be a parent at any age, but when you have someone there you know you can turn to it'll makes things a little easier for both of you.
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You're not a bad influence at all. After all, she made her own decisions. If anything, you know better than anyone else how she feels and can be a really good supportive sister. I am sure everything will be much easier for her having you around. You sound concerned and kind; don't beat yourself up over what's happened in the past. Good luck to both of you.
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If anything your the authority on the subject not a hypocrite. If u tell her from your past experiances, then it's helping her. And you should tell her these things and if she chooses not to listen, at least shes not alone and you can help her, maybe you both could lean on eachother for support and what not. either way, you can help her =). Dont let your sadness burden you either, just work twice as hard and youll be ok.
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