What has changed about the discipline of our children today to make it so difficult to do?
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Zack Be Gone - All Hail Firebrand.
ANSWERS: 10
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I find that spanking when done rarely and when it is done without malice or too be hurtfull ,is alright.Reasoning is always the best way though children will test you to see how far they can go,and if they have no barriers what can they learn about human interaction. Society is structured that there is at least some semblance of order.
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Parent's before the 70's weren't trying to be their kid's friends. They provided a home and food and sent them to school. They didn't give a rat's ass if their kid's were mad at them or sulking because they weren't getting what they wanted, and they wouldn't hesitate whacking a kid that took their anger or sulkiness too far. Kid's were taught to respect other people, say please and thank you, and if you can't say something nice don't say anything. And it was enforced.
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So many parents today let their kids push them too far. The parent tries to be their buddy/friend and seems to be afraid to punish. If they do punish, they let the kid off the hook to quick..."Go to your room with no supper....OK I'll bring you your supper.....But no computer.....OK you can use the computer for an hour or so." crap like that. Wishy washy junk that the kid sees right through. Like the screaming kid at the check out..."What do you want Billy?" "Here hows this...no OK how about that..? OK this should be nice...NO Hummmmmm... I'm thinking...{Slap this kid silly and give him something to cry about}
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The increased "atomization" of families. In the old times, there were other adults participating in raising the kids, not as much as the parents, but involved to some degree or another (for example, grandparents, aunts and uncles). Today, as a result of many factors, families have become small, with a reduced number of participating adults, often busy, sometimes single parents, etc. Under these conditions, raising kids is significantly more challenging. This is not to say some people don't do a good job, many do, but it's considerably more challenging.
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Spare the rod and spoil the child. I am not talking about "child abuse-" I am talking about stressing the seriousness of inappropriate behavior with a rare swat with an open hand on the behind. That and the fact that so many parents are wimps---they forget who are the adults in the family and leave everything open to negotiation. Nothing wrong with "because I'm the mom and you're the kid."
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It all started with the New Age CRAP about they are little people with a say in the matter and positive sanctions. Screw the opinion of a kid when he has only been in this world, thanks to me, for a few years. Negitive sanctions like a pop on the ass does SO much more.
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Everyone else has made some very points. What I would like to add is that punishment is virtually nonexistent in schools because the teachers and principal's haven't the option anymore. I know that some did abuse that option, but most used it with discretion and it may for a much better learning environment.
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Ya know, i really think it has a lot to do with our lifestyle in general. everyone is spoiled. I am currently 25. I remember when I was 16, i wanted a car so bad , but my dad made me save my money and buy my own car even though he could have easily purchased me a new car. But, i also didnt have a tv, computer, or phone in my room much less a cell phone. Today teens as young as 13-14 have cells, and their own computer and such. they dont haev to share what the whole family watches on tv, or share time on the computer, and mommmy and daddy are buying them new BMW's and such.
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Discipline hasn't changed, society has. We're lazy. People don't want to put in the time and work it takes to be good parents anymore.
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People are terrified that if they do discipline their children, all the children have to do is dial 911 and the authorities will come out, take the children away, and charge the parents with child abuse. Everyone tries to tell people how to raise their children, and then children think they rule everything.
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