I always feel like everyone hates me. I never fit in because i try to hard. I try to be really nice to them all because i did something really bad a while back and im frightened they will tell everyone. anyone got any advice on getting my life back.
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you might consider seeking professional help.
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Everyone does not hate you. Most people in the world do not know you. Some people really like you I am sure. Some people (most) feel no emotion one way or another toward you. Many people would like you if they knew you. Some people may not like you - or they may just be angry. That is not the same as hate. They could change. Just be the best you that you can be. Make right choices. Smile. Be helppful. Show an interest in people. Ask how they are ands listen. Show an interest in them. You will soon be making friends. All the best to you.
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Make new friends, but don't be overly nice about it. Being too nice is seen as you trying to hide something about yourself. It's like your being too fake.
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Yes, make a choice to take your life back. Right now, you are letting others control you, control your life, and control your decisions. While past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior, you can make a choice to not let this occur. Get what help you need to not be in this place, to move on and be happy.
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STARRRGAZER, WE ALL HAVE DONE THINGS THAT WE WISH WE HADN'T. WE ALL HAVE PEOPLE WHO DON'T LIKE US...AND I FIND THAT WE DON'T NEED THEM. THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE IN THE WORLD THAT YOU COULD DUMP ALL THE PEOPLE WHO AREN'T NICE TO YOU AND YOU'D FIND MANY MORE PERSONS THAT WILL MAKE BETTER FRIENDS...ANMD LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES..DON'T REPEAT THEM...READ A BOOK ENTITLED:'HOW TO WIN FRIENDS AND INFLUENCE PEOPLE. IT'S AT THE LIBRARY. GOD BLESS YOU.
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You may be feeling guilty for the bad thing you did and imagining that everyone hates you like you may hate yourself. If it's something you can talk about to someone, please do that. If even one other person knows what you did, it isn't a secret anymore and you may more easily be able to get on with life without this burden.
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You say yourself that you never fit in because you try too hard. You see, you know the answer yourself. Also, its you that hates yourself, not 'everyone' else! You feel guilty. Well, if you learn from how bad you feel about whatever you did not to do that sort of thing again, then a good result has come about. So feel grateful for your mistakes, we only learn from painful things. Forgive yourself. Love yourself. Be yourself and move on with your real life. Stop trying too hard! Good luck!
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im feeling the same way right now. some 7th grade friend drama. it makes me so depressed, because i feel like even if i think im being myself, im not because i still dont feel comfortable around the people im trying to be friends with, and it makes me seem like more of a freak and on top of that, i havent been the best person i can be. i feel like crap. but reading this question and knowing that im not alone, makes me feel a ton better. hang in there sweetie, we'll make it through.<3
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i know for a fact not EVERYONE hates you but that's a normal feeling. don't care if they rat on you they must be bad people if they threaten to. hang out with the people you can fit in with. it would be better for them to rat because then you would be free from that grudge and not everyone would hate you for it.
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Make amends for the wrong that you did and proceed forward.
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Just try and be yourself, if you are having to try and be nice, obviously this isn't you being genuine, as it should take no effort. You will have to regain their respect and it will take time, but eventually it'll work out. Good Luck
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Maybe a lil hard to do but you shouldn't have that thing haunting you for the rest of your life.. It's like inside a war,they throw you arrows and you just defend yourself with a shield..Then the arrow won't stop until you die.. But if you dare to remove your shield knowing the danger,of course and kill all the archers,no arrows will be shot towards you anymore.. The moral is,you have to be brave and fight them,regardless whatever their threats to you.. Sounds hard but it's effective..I know
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I feel the same way! I'm always the "odd man out." I don't know how to talk to people. I have no idea what to say. It's really awkward and embarrassing. And I also have issues in my past that I am embarrassed about. I wish I could get over being so shy and sensitive. I don't know what advice to give you, but I do know how you feel.
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It sounds like you hate yourself for doing that bad thing. Therefore you are compensating in behaviour towards others. Thing is, they do not know you have done a bad thing and think of your overrated kindness as 'what is his/her problem'. And probably are annoyed by it. If they do know and hate you, why are they still there? Even if they did not forgive you they have accepted it. People tend to get annoyed by people who try to hard, all they want to see is the real you, not a person who is obviously wearing a mask all the time. Dont be so hard on yourself, you have made a mistake, compensating will not make it go away, accepting it neither but it will help you to move on and grow into a bigger person.
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Be friends with people because you like them; not because you are afraid they will tell someone about something you did. You are letting them hold you hostage. You don't need to have to try to fit in. If you don't "fit in" with these people, you may try hanging out with a different crowd.
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I think the best thing I can advise is to get some different friends, if you feel thing 'thing' is hanging over you then you'll never be able to relax & just be yourself. Try to remember that lots of people have done really bad things during their lives, but you just cant permanently live under a cloud.
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