This may sound a bit lame to you, but it is the best advice I can give. 1. Don't decide that you are definitely going to have sex. If it works out that way then fine, but if you feel you have to have sex then it is going to be bad. 2. Make the setting right. If you have dimmer switches for your lights then turn them down a bit, or use a lamp or candles - mood lighting. Have some relaxing music (tunes are best) playing in the background. Think about what you want to wear that will help arouse him. 3. Take it slow. If you are desperate to have sex then you lose the pleasure and it fails miserably again. You maybe can massage him. Have a little massage or baby oil handy and take your time with it. Make sure he knows that you want to be relaxed as well, though, so he can massage you too. 4. Make love, don't have sex. If you want to rut like a pig, then you will help your purely physical side, but making love is about joining emotionally as well. Whether it is straight sex in the missionary position or if you want to try something a bit different, giving time to get it right is a great help. 5. Have an open mind. Before you even start there will be some things that you are not prepared to enact, but think about what you might be interested in. You can be tied up or spanked or have anal sex or golden showers, or all sorts of other things. If he seems to be leaning toward something, perhaps giving you a playful smack on your bottom, you can tell him that felt quite nice and he can do it again if he wants. 6. Don't rush away after. It is difficult to judge when to clean yourself after sex, but reaching orgasm, saying "That was great" then walking out to clean his stuff off is not the way forward. Having a little kiss, telling him you are still having mini orgasms, things like that will make him feel more confident and will help your future lovelife. I hope that all goes well for you. You can let me know by posting a comment. Good luck.

Communication. talk to each other and tell what each other likes in sex. everybody's different and different positions and techniques usually fill the bill. You cannot produce, if you are not informed.

Well my girlfriend always starts by kissing me on the lips then goes all the way down to my penis and then sucks on it and it always makes me cum like crazy!!! P.S. this is "yum yum's" boyfriend answering

First of all dont panic. There are times when sex just dont go the way we would like. It is important to be intimate with each other and discover what each other likes. There is no sexual rule to follow as everyone has a different set of expectations . Just respect each other and take your time but dont have sex simply for sex sake and never allow anyone to pressure you into doing so. Good luck

Truthfully - I love it when a girl is desperate for a pee. It took me a long while to be able to say that to anyone - even long after no longer being a virgin. Still - my experience is that for girls - they all have their things also and if they don't lead me to it - it probably won't really be good for them also. Tell him your deepest fantasy and what you like - and tell him ahead of time that that is what you expect.

Deleted answer..... at 16 you dont get sexual advice from us old folks as u stated. Thats morals. heres one of your past postings............. But if she addmits to having sex.. Please do not yell at her. Otherwise she'll never tell you anything like that again. My mom yelled at me when i tried to talk to her about that stuff. And now i dont tell her much of anything. I'm afraid she'll be mad at me or yell. Just be very understanding.. i hope this works..

ask, him i know alot of people our age dont ask enough questions. ask him what he's comfortable with and tell him what your comfortable with and then explore diff positions are great sometimes its as easy as that. and if you have time fourplay, its supose to turn you on. dont just wait till he's hard and then start fucking, make him lust ffor you, tease him. i know i love it when my gf tease's me, and remember the dont act sexy, BE SEXY! when a girl thinks she's mot sexy its a turn off and the more turned on the two of you are the better your sex will be

Your most powerful sex organ is your brain. If you don't know whay to do or how to di it. Watch some adult movies with your man. The older ones are the beat to learn from. John Leslie, Kay Parker are my personal favorited but? It just might show you some new techniques. Talk to each other and say "I like that or that looks like it feels good etc".

Find a new boyfriend. If your sex sucks now, it'll never be great. Additionally, you should practice. Just try not to get pregnant. Or infected. Swallow, don't spit.

Doing a male's penis is kind of like sucking on An ice-cream-cone, You run your tongue up and down and around and around on the head of the cone,in this case the knobby head of his penis,so called glans of penis. You can also take it into your mouth and suck upon it then alternate with licking and sucking as you work your way down the shaft of his penis. Do keep in mind that the knobby end of his penis is what induces his orgasms,and you'll need to prolong his sexual arousal as long as possible. So lots of tonguing of the shaft-of-penis will keep him aroused but prolong his ejaculation. Most men will want you to swallow their semen,cum. They feel that it's a form of personal rejection when women spit it out. Don't be afraid to let your tongue stray into the valley beneath his ball-sack,as that is one of the pleasure zones that gets over-looked when we make love. If you both have showered,and are clean,there are no off limits to any area of your bodies. Any tongue play or finger play of you anus can be quite sexually arousing and also very pleasurable. You can go to "Redtube Anal Sex" and get some visual trainning in how to become a better lover. But do keep in mind that Slow and Easy are the key words when learning to give Head,doing a man's penis. And don't try to take it all into your mouth at first, until you have learned to master your gag reflects.You need to be the one in control of the Penile-Action at all times,not him. Do hope this has been helpful And the two of you grow into oneness along with your loving,caring sexuality. Doug.

no one has good sex at 16 and yes, i know im talking to a 16 year old

If you both are not virgins, then come to me and let me train you.

he needs to feel comfortable with his manhood, the only way that will happen is if a woman approves of him not his sexuality, make it quick and non-senual so there is no pressure just get the first time out of the way quickly strip down jump on the bed and say i miss you so much, let's do it. then get dressed with a smile don't let him know of any dissapointment, cuddle. this worked for me, i loosened up and was back to normal within minutes.