Can a large traumatic change like a cross country move when someone is young cause the person to be uncomfortable in secure relashionships later in life?
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RFlagg
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Yup. It's also possible when a kid lives with frequent moves, like military families do.
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The word "traumatic" indicates that in a specific case it may later have or be believed to have a negative, social influence. In general, It would be difficult to ascribe relationship difficulties, to a single event. More than likely, a cluster or pattern of negative experiences shapes the social personality. There are so many variables in the life equation, that isolating a single one that points to a specific complication is very tenuous.
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Yes it can. When we move at any age it can be traumatic. I mean you are leaving your safe place, the place you have known for that part of your life. I think when we move, we feel sort of lost and alone, and that is scary to us. As we get older, those fears may manifest into something larger such as fear of abandonment, not feeling safe, and insecure. All or one of those could cause a fear of getting too close to someone else, and fearful of losing them ,or possibly they will leave you to feel those same feelings all over again.
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I dont think that one event would cause such a large issue later in life, but I think that it could be the doorway for other issues to devlop. Take this for example, say the child was moved cross country, and then they were uneasy around other kids because of being new, and then those kids were mean to her (as kids are) which could cause some insecurities and self-esteem issues which could cause depression and repressed feeling which could cause some relationship issues later in life.. But im ranting now.. And as for your question, I dont think that one instance would be a huge detrement to the child's psyche.
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