My husband and I want two more children in a year or two (hopefully boys) and we're already arguing over circumcision. I want it, he does'nt. Who can pull rank on this? Is this a man thing that I should leave up to him?
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Ree26
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I vote with you. Explain to your husband why you want to have it done and maybe he will understand.
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My husband has the same view as your husband yet i have the same view as you. Our first son we had circumsised but he does not want to put any other boys we may have through it. It is just so much more hygenic to have them done. I think it comes down to the father ... what ever he is he wants his sons to be the same !!
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I have a nephew that is not circumcised and he had a lot of painful infections because of it as a young kid. Plus it just looks so weird uncircumcised.
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I feel very strongly about it, but if it's one of those father son moments I don't want to mess with that either. BTW I know it's rediculous when we may not even have boys or get pregnant, but we don't have anything better to do!!! That's marriage for you!
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Shouldn't this be the childs decision? It's his body and doctors have mixed views about the hygiene thing and they say that there's a lot of nerves in the part that gets chopped of and nerves = feeling = pleasure = so and so forth. idk really.
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Are his reservations over religious reasons (or lack there of)?
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If you are Jewish circumcision takes place at age 8. if not this is a medical site: "Existing scientific evidence demonstrates potential medical benefits of newborn male circumcision; however, these data are not sufficient to recommend routine neonatal circumcision. In circumstances in which there are potential benefits and risks, yet the procedure is not essential to the child's current well-being, parents should determine what is in the best interest of the child. To make an informed choice, parents of all male infants should be given accurate and unbiased information and be provided the opportunity to discuss this decision. If a decision for circumcision is made, procedural analgesia should be provided." http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/002998.htm It is important for both parents to make an informed decision if their boys should be or not circumcised.
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If you have a girl, are you going to circumcise her?... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_genital_cutting
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NO. It needs to be a joint decision.
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You and your husband disagree, and circumcision is only considered cosmetic by all medical groups in the world. So there is no pressing need to have it done at all. I would say let the actual owner of the sexual organs decide whether he/she needs to have cosmetic surgery , when they are adults.
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My parents had the same argument, except that it was my dad who was in favour of it as he had been circumcised. In the end they argreed on circumcision. When my brother was born he had it done and when i was i born they made the appointment for me, however i became quite sick and it was cancelled. Im of the opinion if the father has had it, its probably better to circumcise the son. Personally, in hindsight i think i would have prefered to have had it done. I think as a mother though, you have just as much say whether or not your son should be circumcised.
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Unless you're joined at the hip you should have no say what so ever on this issue!
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Actually, this is a decision which has more impact on the women in your future son's life than it does on either him OR the two of you. Circumcision renders the glans of the penis less sensitive and thus tends to delay the onset of orgasm in the male, making it more likely he will last longer with his mate. It also has a impact on male cleanliness, which means more for the female than it would for him. All things being equal, I think the two of you should take a good look at this and try to agree. Read up on both sides of the question and see what the drawbacks and benefits are, then make a mutual decision based on logic, not emotion.
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I made the decision when it came to my son being done. Idealy i would have liked that to be up to him, but unfortunately many doctors i talked to informed me it was quite painful to have it done later in life. A family member of mine can also vouch to that. Having many problems in his lifetime with infection etc. because he was natural. In my city it was hard to find a doctor to do it, apparently its not very common to have done now..which i found very odd and hard to believe, but the doctors where i delivered also said as a whole they dont recommend it and it is no longer considered a medical procedure. Like i said, after thinking long and hard i decided to get my son done. Not for religious reasons but to take away the risk of infection later in life. although it was hard to hear his little scream im happy with my decision and wouldnt take it back. You both need to think about the pros and cons and talk about why or why not you want it done! Either way your may have a happy healthy little boy in your life! Good luck to you!
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