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  • Some parents are like that. It doesn't reflect on you. It reflects on your mom. I don't know that its something you ever really get over, I know my mom didn't. Often it starts with your mom not liking herself very well. If she doesn't think she measures up, she isn't likely to think that a child that sprang from her body and was raised by her is very good either, at least that was the way it was with my grandfather. All you can really do is understand that while you may not be able to please her, you can please your Father in Heaven. You can please yourself. And you can learn to love yourself so that you can love your own children some day.
  • I can imagine it's upsetting, but there may not be anything you can do. It sounds like you're doing all the right things, and she's still not happy. It's important to remember that parents are flawed human beings like anyone else. Don't automatically blame yourself for her lack of appreciation - it may be that she just has a problem showing those kinds of emotions.
  • She may have a problem showing emotion. Talk to her explain how you feel about this, she may surprise you.
  • Suicide, Ignore me - bad answer!!!!
  • In the animal world when a child 'comes of age' they are ejected from the home to cope on their own. This also happens when human kids get to a certain age. Instinctively the mother distances themselves from their brood to ensure that they can cope on their own. Cruel to be kind comes to mind...
  • I am sure your mom doesn't hate you at all. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this. It is very important for everyone of every age to feel important and have someone tell them that they are proud of them. I am sure your mom does not do this on purpose. She is probably very proud of you. However as parents and adults we sometimes get so wrapped up in our problems that we ignore what is important and don't take the time to pay attention to our kids. I would tell your mom that you would like to talk to her and tell her how you feel. Maybe she doesn't realize and maybe she needs someone to talk to as well. You two can help each other out. Good luck to you.
  • My parents are the same way.. every since birth they have been letting me know that I was a failure and every day I talk to them on the phone they remind me of that. They never bring up the good things I have done (college graduation, becoming a mom, etc) but they will be the 1st people to tell remind me of the mistakes I made 20 years ago. My bother has given them trouble all his life, stole their money, been arrested, etc. and he's now king. I have always been good, never been in trouble. they STOLE money from me and now I am treated like shit. I had to aceept the fact that NOTHING I do will ever be good enough for my parents and it's made my life so much better. ultimately you will have to do that too. I have been waiting 37 years to hear my parents say "I am proud of you and I will die waiting for that". you have to move on and accept that no matter what you are important and you are special. You parent's are like mine..TOXIC. there is a great book out called "toxic parents".. you should read it

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