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He didnt find true love. He wants to cause more damage because he is just that kind of person. Make it look like his life is just going so great without you. When he is lying to himself and his partner. He may not be able to be alone because hes always on the hunt to find someone else to control and abuse.
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You're focusing on him too much. It's been two months and your concerning yourself how he is living his life. I understand that 5 years is a long time to be with someone, but it's over and he's gone. No more abuse. You're FREE! As for him finding someone else and saying he's in love, that isn't abuse to you.
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It seems to me that people who jump right into a new relationship are often very insecure as they can not be alone. I think it might be much better to take time to recover from a breakup, rather than get into a new relationship right away. I also agree with needled that he needs someone to control. There are people who prey on others who are vulnerable. Since you did the right thing and ended it, try not to let it upset you, though I know that is easier said than done of course. You have to just think about you and your life and future. It seems like you deserve a break from him. If possible, just sever all ties. If you somehow still have to have contact with him or if you tend to hear about what's going on with him even if you don't want to, then the best I can tell you is to try not to dwell on it. It'll take time for you to heal, but you will get there.:)
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I really can't add much to needled's response except that this long relationship has left you scarred and in pain. This is a very vulnerable time for you and you question your self worth. This abuser still has he hook into you. Realize how fortunate you are that you are free to move on, to heal and perhaps to find someone who can appreciate your other fine qualities. There are good guys out there just waiting for someone who is ready for a honest, two-way relationship. Healing takes a long time, and memories die slowly. Rather than dwell on the past, move towards the future.
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This is a guy who needs someone to dominate and abuse. You left, now he has a new victim. That's not "new love", it's just a continuation of his illness using a new punching bag.
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He isnt in "Love" with this new lady, consider her as a person to help him get over you. Sooner or later she will reliase why you left him. I hope all works out for you :)
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He's just trying to hurt you more. You will find someone one day. Whatever you do don't tell your next parter how you were abused. My friend kept telling her new boyfriends about her past and they would end up doing the same thing cause they knew they could get away with it. This last guy she didn't tell him about her past. They are doing great and have been together 3 years with no abuse.
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It's karma.. haven't you ever thought that he feel in love with her and she is not so much with him and later in time she will crush his stupid heart
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bad things happen to good people. it's a cruel fact we have to accept.
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I just have to answer you AGAIN - because I have just commented on the fact that your abusive ex has hooked up with a 53 year old living with her mother.... SO many times my ex used to tell me I was TOO INDEPENDENT - even if I were to carry my own bag - or cook my own dinner - (he loved to cook) - I was too independent. Then I looked back on the women he used to date (I was friends with him for years before we started dating and helped him with his relationship woes)... ALL of them had some weakness - One was living with her parents, pregnant with another man's baby, another was unemployed and just moved out of home when he started dating her = and actually it was one of his very good friends exes - he swooped in straight after the break up - ANOTHER was a young girl living with her parents..... and was under lock and key by her mother - he had to sneak around with her... he DEFINITELY went for the weak. I was the opposite - I stood up to him and have always been independent. GEES - my eyes just keep opening. x
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