by chaos99 on November 19th, 2006

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6 best frnds, wedding #5. Short notice-in Cuba. Hubby can't go, can't really afford it but said I'd fly in just for wedding. Everyone is mad at me for not taking whole week b/c mths ago we were considering divorce. I'm hurt/angry - am I overreacting?

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by Glenn Blaylock on March 31st, 2007
No, you are not overreacting. I don't think that your friends are being fair. I don't know what your relationship with your husband is like. However, this is the most the relationship between husband and wife is more important than any other relationship. Your friends have no right nor should they be trying to interfere with that relationship (unless your husband is abusive). If they think that it is more important for you to spend time with them rather than working on your marriage, then they don't understand the importance of marriage.
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- I agree, but I hope the person with whom you share a second name doesn't spot your spelling mistake and grammatical error or else he may give you a lecture.
  
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  by Brian I on March 31st, 2007
- Well done for spotting the spelling mistake. He might still have something to say about the lack of clear meaning in sentence 3.
  
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by outdoorperson on January 18th, 2007
its sad, but its true...
if you tell your friends something that they want to hear....then your friends will never forget what you said..

you said they dont like your husband...so when you told them about problems you were having with your husband, your friends heard what they wanted to hear...they do not want to believe right now that things are better with your husband...

think about it...if your friends do not like your husband then your friends probably think you should be hanging out with your friends and not your husband....
and since your friends do not like your husband, they will probably be insulted when you choose to hang out with him over them...after all, if they dont like your husband, then they will never understand why you spend time with him..

they see him in a different light than you do
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by Katie on March 31st, 2007
No way!! They are being selfish. I am sure they love you, and that is why they want you to be there, but they need to grow up and expand their views. You have a husband to whom you made a serious commitment. Your relationship with him is more important. Maybe mention to your friends that $$ is tight and that you felt pretty lucky to be able get there at all!!
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by CalvinCD on November 19th, 2006
I do not think you are even one bit. Your friends are asking way to much of just one person. If you can't make it then they can be upset with themselve for not giving you a bit longer notice, and if they knew money was a problem for you and they really wanted you there then they should have had it closer or they should have piad for your plane ticket.
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- Thanks for the response. I guess what I'm really upset about though is the fact that these women, in their 30's, who have been my friends for many years have decided to be mad at me for choosing to take the bulk of my vacation time with my husband (because they don't like him).
  
  I wish I had never told them about the problems we were having in the past and I feel like I can never tell them anything again.
  
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  by chaos99 on November 19th, 2006
- You should be able to tell your closest friends about problems you may be having. That's what friends are for. They can offer their advise, but the final decision is up to you and it's your friends that should understand you and back you even if they disagree. If it is an abusive relationship, then that's another thing...but if things just aren't working out, but next week all settles down.....it's your life. Friends should support you in your decisions. What do they not like about the hubby?
  
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by BrokeDog on March 31st, 2007
NO, you are not! Number 1, it's always difficult for people who are getting married, to expect other people to fly in to attend their wedding. Money is tight nowadays, (for most people), and air fare is not cheap. Number 2, a REAL friend would stand behind you, thru thick and thin, as you try to make your marriage work. And, number 3, I agree with "Hed", if they really wanted you there, they could send you a plane ticket.
Do NOT feel bad, and don't worry about it. Good friends will understand, and if these friends don't, you are better off without them.
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