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  • I'm not sure that I know where it says that in the Bible. Would you give the passage, please? Although virginity is "assumed" in the Bible, I don't think is specifically forbids much besides adultery and rape. Even those passages that people say specifically condemn homosexuality, seem to me to be more about homosexual rape.
  • no. religion was designed to placate the populace into compliance. now that's done with laws that are written to revoke our rights, and then hastily passed when the opportunity presents itself (the PATRIOT act was sitting on a shelf, just waiting for something like 9/11 to happen) if anything, consider why you follow your religion if it doesn't supplement your lifestyle in a positive, agreeable manner.
  • Im pretty sure that it says you should have no sex outside of marriage.
  • If you intend to follow the Bible, then yes. However, you may change your mind about not wanting to get married; many people do. Regardless of the turns your life takes, God has a plan for you. "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them that are the called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28
  • Yes. I, on the other hand, am free to do whatever I want. Hehehe.
  • Yep. Sucks doesn't it? Or, you could realise that the words in the bible are the words by people who believed god spoke to them. But how do we know that's the case? They might aswell be have been higher than a reedwood full of monkeys on a bad mushroom trip, and thought both god AND their bed talked to them, but decided only to copy down the words of god
  • I'm going to have to side with LoriK1 here. You can't base your interpretation of the Bible on something you believe to be implied. It never once, anywhere, says that we are to stay virgins until marriage. Granted, dedicating yourself to wait for one person is a beautiful gift to your new spouse, but you'd have to move into the realm of over-interpretation of references to adultery to classify it as a crime. Religion tells us that we're supposed to stay virgins until marriage, not the Bible. The Bible also does not define the criteria for what actually makes a marriage "legal" in the eyes of God. The vows we exchange and the ceremonies we perform are a blend of Catholic and ethnic tradition but have no foundation in scripture. Reading passages from the Bible at the ceremony does not establish a marriage in the eyes of God. Only the long term fulfillment of vows, not their initial exchange, will garner God's respect. I'm sure that you still want to honor God in your body as well as in your heart and mind. That's why you asked the question. Maybe some day God will grant you a beautiful encounter, maybe even a fulfilling long term relationship with a good person. But how you honor Him is between you and Him. Don't let anyone tell you that you can't enjoy that experience and still find favor in God's eyes.
  • Dude, you can have sex with whoever you want as long as they are of age and consent to having sex with you. God is not going to punish you for that. Just wear a condom and make sure you use your own. Don't ever use a condom that a girl gives you.
  • the bible says the kingdom of heaven is not for fornicaters... check what fornication means and there is your answer
  • But in the letter to the corinthians it also says if you are not already married you should stay an unmarried virgin, doesn't it. You are only obligated if you believe it. You are doomed even if you get married according to st paul.
  • If you truly believe then yes i guess so. But i do not believe in the Bible so not for me.
  • First of all, I admire your desire to live life God's way. Remember, God knows you better than you know yourself, loves you immeasurably (he gave his very life just to be with you) and he laid down the rules so that you could have the *best* of life and complete happiness and fulfillment. To quote Billy Graham on the matter: "We have to have rules to live by. And what we're saying is we're going to play a baseball game without any rules, we're going to play a football game without any rules, we're going to live a life without any moral rules. Well God has laid down certain rules and said "If you want the best of life, if you want complete happiness and fulfillment, live by these rules." And one of those rules is that 'thou shalt not commit immorality.' "Most pychologists today and most psychiatrists I think would agree with the Bible, that there are very serious problems involved. God did not say 'thou shalt not commit immorality before marriage in order to keep you from having a good time or having fun.' He said that to protect you. To protect you psychologically, to protect your body, because today venereal disease is at an all time high dispite all of our problems and illigeitmacy is at an all time high inspite of all our medical science...And all of these things God has said "I want to make you happy, I want to help you, and I've given you some rules to live by and this is the rules." "...The Bible clearly teaches that all sexual relations outside marriage are wrong in God's eyes. The Bible bluntly says, "Flee from sexual immorality" (1 Corinthians 6:18). This includes any kind of sexual activity apart from marriage. "Remember that God gave us the gift of sex in the first place—and He intended for it to be a source of joy and happiness for us. But He also intended for it to be restricted to marriage. Why? One reason is because it was to be a sign of the unity between a husband and wife. It was, in other words, meant to be an expression of their mutual commitment and love. But sex outside marriage easily becomes selfish, and even boring. "God knows what is best for us, including this important area of our lives. Why ignore His way, when it is best for us in the long run? The Bible warns, 'There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death' (Proverbs 14:12) The Bible also promises, 'Blessed are they whose ways are blameless' (Psalm 119:1). "...With God's help we can follow a far better path." Hebrews 13:4: "Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex." 1 Corinthians 6:13-20: "It may be true that the body is only a temporary thing, but that's no excuse for stuffing your body with food, or indulging it with sex. Since the Master honors you with a body, honor him with your body! God honored the Master's body by raising it from the grave. He'll treat yours with the same resurrection power. Until that time, remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master's body. You wouldn't take the Master's body off to a whorehouse, would you? I should hope not. There's more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, 'The two become one.' Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever - the kind of sex that can never 'become one.' "There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for "becoming one" with another. Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don't you see that you can't live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for? The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body." As far as remaining unmarried and a virgin, there's a great section on the bible about this: 1 Corinthians 7. It's the apostle Paul writing about marriage, singleness and just what you talked about. Here it is in the MSG. (The capital words are mine) : SEXUAL RELATIONS WITHIN MARRIAGE "Now, getting down to the questions you asked in your letter to me. First, Is it a good thing to have sexual relations? Certainly - but only within a certain context. It's good for a man to have a wife, and for a woman to have a husband. Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality - the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to 'stand up for your rights.'" THE GIFT "...Sometimes I wish everyone were single like me - a simpler life in many ways! But celibacy is not for everyone any more than marriage is. God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others." GET MARRIED IF YOU CAN'T MANAGE YOUR DESIRES/EMOTIONS "I do, though, tell the unmarried and widows that singleness might well be the best thing for them, as it has been for me. But if they can't manage their desires and emotions, they should by all means go ahead and get married. The difficulties of marriage are preferable by far to a sexually tortured life as a single." ADDITIONAL STRESS "...There's certainly no sin in getting married, whether you're a virgin or not. All I am saying is that when you marry, you take on additional stress in an already stressful time, and I want to spare you if possible." KEEP IT SIMPLE "I do want to point out, friends, that time is of the essence. There is no time to waste, so don't complicate your lives unnecessarily. Keep it simple - in marriage, grief, joy, whatever. Even in ordinary things - your daily routines of shopping, and so on. Deal as sparingly as possible with the things the world thrusts on you. This world as you see it is on its way out. I want you to live as free of complications as possible." TIME WITH JESUS FREE OF DISTRACTIONS "When you're unmarried, you're free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God. I'm trying to be helpful and make it as easy as possible for you, not make things harder. All I want is for you to be able to develop a way of life in which you can spend plenty of time together with the Master without a lot of distractions. DECIDING "If a man has a woman friend to whom he is loyal but never intended to marry, having decided to serve God as a 'single,' and then changes his mind, deciding he should marry her, he should go ahead and marry. It's no sin; it's not even a 'step down' from celibacy, as some say. On the other hand, if a man is comfortable in his decision for a single life in service to God and it's entirely his own conviction and not imposed on him by others, he ought to stick with it." SPIRITUALLY AND MORALLY RIGHT "Marriage is spiritually and morally right and not inferior to singleness in any way, although as I indicated earlier, because of the times we live in, I do have pastoral reasons for encouraging singleness." GOD DEFINES YOUR LIFE "Don't be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God's place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life....Friends, stay where you were called to be. God is there. Hold the high ground with him at your side." Jeremiah 29:11 (combining the MSG and Amplified): "For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace"/"to take care of you, not abandon you"/"not for evil"/"plans to give you the future you hope for."
  • Only if you give damn about what the Bible says, which you shouldn't.
  • Obligated by whom? Many people believe that everyone has the right to determine their own morals/ethics to live by (so long as they don't conflict with the law of whatever state they are inhabiting). If you want to have sex outside of marriage, that's up to you to decide. You may decide to follow a particular moral code already established (such as a particular interpretation of the Bible): that's your right. You also may decide to come up with your own moral code. It's up to you.
  • If you want to live by the Bible standards , then it is important to abide by Jehovah's rules,, the Bible says he will judge those who commit immorality ,and in view of the times we are living in you need to consider your standing and relationship with God (2 Timothy 3:1-5) But know this, that in the last days critical times hard to deal with will be here. 2 For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, self-assuming, haughty, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, disloyal, 3 having no natural affection, not open to any agreement, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, without love of goodness, 4 betrayers, headstrong, puffed up [with pride], lovers of pleasures rather than lovers of God, 5 having a form of godly devotion but proving false to its power; and from these turn away. ...................................................... (Matthew 24:3-14) While he was sitting upon the Mount of Olives, the disciples approached him privately, saying: “Tell us, When will these things be, and what will be the sign of your presence and of the conclusion of the system of things?” 4 And in answer Jesus said to them: “Look out that nobody misleads YOU; 5 for many will come on the basis of my name, saying, ‘I am the Christ,’ and will mislead many. 6 YOU are going to hear of wars and reports of wars; see that YOU are not terrified. For these things must take place, but the end is not yet. 7 “For nation will rise against nation and kingdom against kingdom, and there will be food shortages and earthquakes in one place after another. 8 All these things are a beginning of pangs of distress. 9 “Then people will deliver YOU up to tribulation and will kill YOU, and YOU will be objects of hatred by all the nations on account of my name. 10 Then, also, many will be stumbled and will betray one another and will hate one another. 11 And many false prophets will arise and mislead many; 12 and because of the increasing of lawlessness the love of the greater number will cool off. 13 But he that has endured to the end is the one that will be saved. 14 And this good news of the kingdom will be preached in all the inhabited earth for a witness to all the nations; and then the end will come.
  • What the bible says is to not sin. That all sin leads to eternal separation from God and being thrown into hell for eternity where there is darkness, fire that torments but does not consume, and gnashing of teeth, plus the knowledge, shame and guilt of not have believed while you had the chance. But ALL have sinned and fallen short and are deserving of death....so God sent His one and only Son into the world because he loves us....Jesus was the perfect holy sacrifice - a lamb without blemish, God in man's body with man's temptations, feelings, pain, etc but he never sinned. He died for your sins IF you believe in Him and he took your sins upon Himself so that when you stand before Him on Judgment Day, the record of your sins in the books of life will have been wiped clean by the blood of Christ. But you have to repent of all sins - things you think, say, and do - and TURN FROM SIN and obey His word. One of the things we are called to do is not commit "fornication" which is to have sex outside of marriage.....cheating on a spouse or sleeping with a married person who is not your spouse is "adultery." IF you love Him, you won't want to sin...read the bible, start with the book of Romans and pray for wisdom to understand what you are reading and pray for faith.
  • Well it is considered fornication, a sin of the flesh. Ive had sex many times before I was married. ...but that is up to you, thats on you. If you feel that it is incorrect, and you will feel guilt of having sex before you are married...dont do it, its only a burden upon yourself, and you are sinning against yourself. But if you feel ok with it, thats on you...your choice. Nobody can stop you, we have free will.
  • Miranda, the Bible doesn't "tell us to stay a virgin until marriage." That idea has come from interpretations of Biblical passages by influential religious leaders. Mostly misogynists and celibate priests.
  • yep, 1 Corinthians 6:9- 9Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. that's if you believe the bible and I do.
  • Miranda, here's what the experts say about fornication which includes sex between two unmarried persons. The Greek word (por·neia) which is translated as fornication covers a broad meaning. Bauer, p.693, says under the word (por·neia) that it means “prostitution, unchastity, FORNICATION, of every kind of unlawful sexual intercourse.” Commenting on Jesus’ words in Mt 5:32 and 19:9, TDNT, Vol. VI, p.?592, says that [por·neia] refers to extra-marital intercourse.” Therefore, the Scriptures use the term por·neia in connection with married persons. The same dictionary, on p.594, in connection with Eph 5:3, 5, says that Paul “realises that not every one has the gift of continence, 1 C. 7:7. As a protection against the evil of fornication the [single] man who does not have [continence] should take the divinely prescribed way of a lawful marriage, 1 C. 7:2.” Hence, the Scriptures use the term (por·neia) also in connection with unmarried persons engaging in unlawful sex relations and practices.—See 1Co 6:9. B. F. Westcott, coeditor of the Westcott and Hort Greek text, in his work, Saint Paul’s Epistle to the Ephesians, London and New York, 1906, p.76, comments on the various meanings of (por·neia) in the Scriptures in a note on Eph 5:3, saying: “This is a general term for all unlawful intercourse.
  • Based on God's instruction as it is found in the Bible, my answer as a gentleman is NO,YOU ARE NOT OBLIGATED TO REMAIN A VIRGIN UNTIL YOU DIE. You are obligated to remain a virgin until you marry. And if you fail to obey your Creator, Master and Ultimate Parent with the meekness that a created child should, then, you may, indeed, die with no hope of the better life, love and world that awaits the people who choose to foreve live to God's happiness and not for their own momentary pleasure and self-imposed hopelessness & death. See 1 Corinthians 6:18 and Psalm 37:9-11,29
  • No, you have free will. And even if it were forbidden by the Bible, who does never sin? Anyway, the sense of those verses is debated: "Today, liberal Christians in a wide number of denominations advocate that the teachings against premarital sex, divorce, and homosexuality were either misread throughout previous centuries or that they applied to ancient, not current, circumstances. Fundamentalist Christians tend to hold onto the idea that homosexuality and premarital sex are wrong based on numerous passages in the Bible that condemn sodomy and fornication. However, even conservative Protestant Christians in Western countries have largely downplayed the importance of Bible verses that condemn remarriage after divorce as adultery. Scriptures in the New Testament dealing with sexuality are extensive. Subjects include: the Apostolic Decree's (Acts 15) ban of fornication, divine love (1 Corinthians 13), mutual self-giving (1 Corinthians 7), bodily membership between Christ and between husband and wife (1 Corinthians 6:15-20), honor versus dishonor of adultery (Hebrews 13:4), and condemnation of sexual immorality including homosexuality (although some argue otherwise) (Romans 1:24-32). Even with the large number of Bible passages that address issues of sexuality, interpretation of these verses can vary. The issue of premarital sex is good example of how the same verse can be viewed in different ways. In modern English, fornication typically refers to voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to each other. Given that modern definition, a verse that condemns fornication (such as 1 Corinthians 6:9 which is often cited by various denominations as biblical opposition to pre-marital sex) would appear to be clear. However, in the New Testament, fornication is the word used to translate the Koine Greek word porneia into English. In Ancient Greek, the word porneia meant "sexual immorality" or "sexual perversions". Early Christians understood this word to encompass activities such as: prostitution, adultery, homosexuality, incest, and bestiality. Modern fundamentalist Christians tend to prefer the modern meaning of the word as premarital sex, or will even choose to broaden the term to also include actvities such as masturbation and pornography, while progressive Christians tend to limit the interpretation of the word to illegal sexual activities such as incest, prostitution, and pedophilia." Source and further information: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religion_and_sexuality#Christianity
  • I already prepared an answer but this site ate it.
  • The short answer is, YES. The Bible says to have nothing to do with sexual immoraltiy: according to all Jewish and Christian tradition, rabbis, and theologians until the l960s "Sexual Immorality" was any sexual acts outside of marriage, though some accepted a kind of polygamy: men who could afford it could also take one (or more if they had the money) life-long mistresses/concubines and not be in sin. "Life-long" here meant that a man, once he took a woman as his bride (or mistress) had to provide for her and their children for his entire life, and couldn't reduce their support if he took a fancy to someone else. For women, however, monogamy is the only option: for the woman "avoiding sexual immorality" means no sex with anyone but her husband (be she wife or mistress/concubine): i.e., making sure any and all children conceived were his, and also making sure her children had a father to protect and provide for them, if only for as long as he lived. Only if their husband died, or divorced or abandoned them could they marry another. For a woman to have sex (willingly) with a man WITHOUT the life-long support commitment from him also counted as sexual immorality. As for your perdicament, yes, it's marriage or celibacy. Otherwise, you're just a fornicator using another human being as a masturbating machine ... and letting them use you as one. Also, short of actual surgical sterilization, no contraceptive is 100% effective, and so you're risking making a child a bastard every time you have sex out of wedlock ... and killing the child in-utero is an even greater evil. But hey, if you don't care about honoring God, or His image in you or others, or even about honoring your own body and the body of prospective sex partners, go ahead and treat them and yourself as pieces of meat.
  • You have to decide for yourself if you are going to live within the teachings of the Bible. If you are Hebrews 13:4, Ephesians 5:1-3, will guide you. There are many more passages and easily found with a little research.
  • Read 1st Corinthians and you will find your answer.
  • The way this question has been asked begs for reasons to not have to wait instead of looking for the will of God. Maybe you should be asking yourself if you really care what He thinks. and if you do, read 1st Corinthians in the Bible.
  • you either believe in the bible and its teachings or you don't ... you either obey them or you don't ... it's that simple ...
  • thatis what it says. however God will forgive you if you arent a virgin when you enter the pearly gates. love isnt about a wedding or a marriage license.
  • Would you realy let an old book to control your life? For me it's just stupid. And what if you will marry a guy and on your first night you will discover theres nothing in his pants? ;p
  • Well, considering that the purpose of having sex is to have children and raise a family, and it is not approved by society to have children outside of marriage (not to mention that it is tough on the child going through school to explain to the other kids why his mommy and daddy aren't married like the others), then if you did have sex without marriage, you would be breaking all sorts of moral laws. If it makes you feel better, it is kinda' obvious that everybody is doing it anyway! Whether or not this would bother you throughout your life depends on how strongly you are committed to following the Bible.
  • You are only obligated if you believe. Maybe the best advice is to consider sex a serious business. You can sleep with anyone you want, but it diminishes exponentially the experience you have with someone you truly love and trust. Maybe you can wait for that one right person. In that sense, you are still keeping sex a sacred thing.
  • Did it also tell you to nail God to a cross?
  • May I first discourage listening to rhetoric. The definition of pre-marital sex in the Bible is Fornication. If your ideal is pleasing God, abstinence is a serious consideration. Fornication is, however forbidden according to scripture, which isn't subject to interpretation, per se. If you don't plan to get married then why do even want to have sex? As a society we are fixated on sex as a form of expression or as a pastime...the only only mammals that have sex for fun are monkeys and dolphin...virtually every other animal in the animal kingdom uses sex as a method of procreating... Ideally, sex for the sake of fun takes away the sacredness of two souls coming together to participate in the beauty of creation... Ultimately the choice is yours, but using the Bible as a basis for your question would indicate to me that you may in fact be an aspiring Christian or are already practicing therefore, as a minister myself, I would strongly advise you to first define 'Fornication'...go to Biblegateway.com and do a keyword search in the King James version for 'Fornication' and then pray for guidance from God... Society has lost any interest in God and pleasing Him just the same so I really wouldn't not trust anyone suggesting that virginity is not an implied commandmentin the Bible, the Torah, the Qur'an, and is also required in Hinduism... I hope this helps...but try not to focus all your energy on sex...there are many...many...many more important aspects of life the getting your freak on...lol
  • Not if you join one of the older mainstream churches. They seem to have two views on the subject.
  • As one of Jehovah's Witnesses, I have received excellent Bible knowledge on this subject. So there is no way I can side with ANYONE who tries to teach the Bible having NO KNOWLEDGE of the Sacred Scriptures !! I cannot accept anything that does not have God's own Word to back it up. And certainly no one of us humans is to make any personal "interpretion" of a clearly stated command from God the Creator and Ultimate Master of man. Only Bible prophesies and symbolisms need interpretations. And these too come from God. Miranda correctly noted that "the Bible TELLS US" to avoid premarital sex. And with great clarity here the Bible can back that up. It plainly indicates at 1 Corinthians 7:2 that in order to engage in sex that is morally acceptable in God's eyes "each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband". I like Miranda's fearful concern with what God's viewpoint might be. According to Psalm 111:10 that's a good start. You go girl!! Examing the question, it appears that Miranda's real concern to be addressed here is the worry that obedience to God may be a thing to no avail if her lifetime is a thing that is to run out of time. And the Bible can rid her of that worry. It plainly states that if we make a start toward getting to know the true, that is original, God and His Sonly Spokesman Jesus Christ we can gain everlasting life in a New World of earthly life to come according to John 17:3 and Psalm 37:9-11,29. The scriptures there in Psalm state that it is the un-meek wicked people who choose to do as THEY wish, rather than as God wills whose days of life will be cut short. FOOLISH DISOBEDIENCE TO GOD'S INSTRUCTION - EVEN IF OBEYING IT IS A CHALLENGING TEST FOR US - MEANS MISSING OUT ON AN ETERNITY OF TIME TO ENJOY, Maranda. Remember, disobedience costed our first parents, Adam and Eve, an eternity of perfect life in an earthly paradise of their own - one they could have passed on to us children of inheritence without the drama and death we now have . Embrace the real life and never let it go. And picture this, even if you happen to die faithful to God before the New World arrives, you would have an assurance of being resurrected back to life so as to be a part of it's perfected society of people !! See John 5:28,29. Yes, Miranda. It is those who choose not to walk in the fear of God who are running out of time. And that is why 1 Corinthians 6:18 states states that the temporary enjoyment of sins such as fornication is suicidal.

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