Dear fellow AB users: an answerbag user (screen name is "sadbuttrue") killed himself on August 1. He (or she) said many times that he / she was considering it, and no one ever listened or offered help. How is it possible that we could let this happen?
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An online Q&A forum is not the kind of place that such people need help from. If they're to get help, they really need to get it from a friend, family member, or counselor. At least, that's my opinion, I've heard it said many times, others probably will disagree.
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We do what we can, some of us are 100's or 1000's of miles away, but we try. So many users, so little time, sad :-(
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How do you know?
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If this is true then it is very sad, but if a person is driven to do this it would not be because of answerbag and the help we could give would be minimal to say the least. There are idiots who would encourage him to go through with it but in the end it is his choice and his state of mind that drove him to it. I hope he has now found peace.
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We did not let anything happen. The person made a choice to take his or her own life. An online chat or blogosphere is not responsible for the decisions people make. If you elect to feel guilty that this person took their own life and you were unable to prevent it, that again is a choice you have elected to make.
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sad to hear, but it happens alot when someone says they are gonna do sometning drastic and everyone kinda says yeah yeah we'll see and then it does and you wonder damn what could i have done. thats how it goes.
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I have read many asking for help on this site and many giving good advice to seek professional help. No one here is at fault because the person chooses to end it all. There are some who will encourage others or become rude but for the most part the people here are kind and understanding and try hard to help. It takes more than asking for help but listening to those who offer it. Ignoring those who find it a joking matter. I feel for anyone who feels they can not cope and think that ending it will solve their problems but there is only so much typed words can do.
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Some people are beyond help.There is no way to know if people are serious or are just looking for attention when they talk about suicide.Either way there is nothing we can do, but give our best advice.
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How do you know? No offense, but how are we supposed to know this news is true? Call me jaded, but I take all info of this nature with a grain of salt. Too many times it has proven to be hoax. Anyway, this is JUST A WEBSITE. Sure, folks here are great, and many truly wish to reach out and help others, but the members of this website cannot and should not be held accountable for the desperate actions of one very unhappy young man. This person obviously needed PROFESSIONAL help. More than anonymous members of a WEBSITE can possibly be expected to provide. By trying to place responsibility on the members of AB you are showing HOW VERY LITTLE you know about the nature of mental illness and depression, if that indeed is what drove this individual to such a desperate act. I feel sorry for this young man's family, and for whatever hurt him so badly he felt the need to end his own life, but placing the blame on our own shoulders is useless. We are not trained to deal with problems of that nature. He needed REAL help....not unqualified "advice"
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We didn't "let it happen." It's not anyone else's responsibility if a person decides to end their own life. People "cry wolf" all the time. How are we supposed to know who's actually going to do it and who isn't? Also, an online Q&A forum is not the place to be seeking help if you're suicidal. My bet is that smaller than 5% of the population here is clinically and professionally trained to handle such a situation. If you're thinking of harming yourself, talk to a counselor, parent, priest, etc,.
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Ok i think you are full of crap i just looked this person up and there is nothing about them wanting to kill them self i think you need to find your self another way to scam points...- on you...Shame on you wishing death on someone else them blaming us!!!!
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I have attempted suicide many times and I can tell you that if a person wants to do, they will do it. A cop could have went to their door, forced them to the hospital, made them get help, they come home and then did it.. You cannot make someone live if they choose not to.. There was nothing anybody could have done online or off to have stopped what happened..I am sorry it happened but as I said, having been there many times and having been FORCED into treatment many times I can tell you that no matter how much a person reaches out to another person, sometimes it makes no difference.
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You are just looking for someone to blame. I cant imagine, no one from A/B not answering their questions, that obviously didnt make a difference, so to sit here and try to place blame on a community of people for the choice that a person made, is completely out of line. We cant control that persons actions, that person, made the choice, to commit suicide, nothing we would have, could have, should have said, will change that fact.
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Its very sad, if this is true, but there are so many phonies noone knows when to take them seriously. if this person was determined to do it, nothing that anyone on AB would have said, could or would have made a difference. where was thier family and friends who could have got them help.
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IF this is true, I am sorry for the person and their family. However, an online forum where people come to have some fun is NOT the appropriate place to seek help for deep-seated emotional and psychological issues. It is also not the place to try to make people feel guilty for their 'lack of caring' or failure to respond to what may or may not have been any real threat to off himself. When people have lost all hope and are determined to end their life, there is nothing that any other person can do to stop them short of placing them in a straight-jacket and a padded room. And if you aren't going to keep them there for the rest of their life, they will seize the next opportunity. If this is NOT true, then you need to seek some psychological counseling on your own behalf.
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I am going to sound a little heartless here so please forgive me now... Most of the time when people talk about killing themselves they are just trying to get attention(not always but this is a fact) I don't remember ever running into "Sadbuttrue" who i'm sure was a great person but it is hard enough to help the people know to stay out of trouble let alone those who we only do Q&A with. The main problem(as I see it) is that on here many people "cry wolf" if you will so we all tend to become a little callous towards the whole situation This fact is unfortunately Sad but True...May he find the peace he was looking for...
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Many people have said that we did not let it happened. The fact is that they are right. But, it's really sad that he (see profile) ar anyone can blame anyone in the internet for his suicide. It is even more sad that no one close to him was able to help him. It is terrible that he was not able to understand the gift of life. My heart bleeds for his family and my prayers are with them all. Just remember, we are not responsible for his decision, we are jsut people that try to do our best from a distant point on the Inet universe. There is no blame, there is only pain for a lost of a life.
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