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  • Your mother sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. Have you by any chance watched the baby borrowers TV series that they had on recently. You have your whole life ahead of you. You cannot count on your ex to support your child. Men find ways of not paying support and get away with it too. The court systems are overloaded with these cases and you can talk to several single parents who get absolutely no support from the child's father. You better be darn good and ready to raise a child. Mine has severe chronic health problems that aren't going to go away. They have become a part of our life. I am trying to go to school at the age of 29 and take care of my child. It doesn't ever get easier, it gets harder. You need to stop and think seriously about what your goals in life are and how you plan to accomplish them. Many single mothers never graduate college to earn a degree that will get them a job that will financially support not only them, but also children. This economy is not set up to be able to live off of minimum wage and that's about all you are going to get without an education.
  • you need to focus on yourself and your child and what you can do for your future. your mom is looking out for you and i think that is great. i was almost 19 when i got pregnant and my son's dad is hardly in his life but i get by. money is important with a child, very!!! and no it never gets easier. i am 20, about to run out of my maternity pay and go on assistance and go back to school. luckily i have my mother stay with me 2 nights a week to help out and give me time to relax my body and mind. and prepare for the rest of the week. take all the support you can get from family and friends, it's what keeps you going. any other questions i hope i can help
  • Do what feels right... I have an 18month old with a guy who is completely worthless...we didnt know each other that long and he doesnt even want to see his son....i might get up to 229 a month from him..but i usually only see like 15-30...if I got pregnant again..i would absolutely give the child to a deserving family. knowing how hard it is to do it on your own isnt reality until you are there. i always thought if i could have an abortion..i could just give it up....you can chose the family, their health insurance will most likely cover you...and you can do an amazing, selfless thing and bestow a miracle on someone else. i dont receive any government assistance, but i used too, and thats another thing...do you really want to be another mother who gets welfare and has to delay your life? keeping it will be hard, and you never know what your childs father will do for you...but ultimately, the decision is yours..and u will do whats best..instinctually.. best of luck to you
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  • this is a decision that you can only make on your own. But I am happy to shed some light on the situation. If there is any doubt that the father will want to be FULLY involved in the babies life then you should seriously concider adoption. I know it is a tough choice knowing that the baby you are giving up is your own flesh and blood, but it is much harder to raise a child on your own. Even with the immense support of your family there will still be inumerable challenges ahead. Also you have to think about the child. growning up with out a father figgure or with a mothers rotating wheel of BF's is very trying on the child and can lead to major psychological problems. The ratio of crimals in federal jails shows thatmore than 70% of them grew up not knowing their fathers. Male or female, a child needs their daddy. I am not saying that if you choose to keep the child it is guaranteed to become a crimal... that is not what I mean. I am just trying to emphasize the greater emotional turmoil that children of single parents face as compared to those of 2 parent households.
  • Have you talked to him about it? In order for you to give the child up for adoption he must consent as well and give up his parental rights, is he willing to do this? If you keep the child know that he will be in your life, visitation right or child support, are you okay with that? Are you able to support the child, without government assistance? What are your future plans, school or career? I was in a similar situation and these are questions I had to ask myself, depending on how you answer these basic questions know that there is a whole new set of questions behind these.

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