After reading so many questions from women who put up with abusive husbands and boyfriends, I'd like to know- why do women have so much trouble seeing their own worth?
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I have often wondered the same thing. I am a "guy thing" so, I really have no clue. I have known some real angels who had it all over the lumps they were hung up on. Why were they selling themselves so short? I have never figured it.
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Because he, and even I break it down ... It's gotta be broke for me to stay.
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sometimes women who are abused by their father as kids will grow up thinking they deserved it and will then look for someone like their father. If a women has low esteem anyway due to whatever circumstances, then they may believe that they deserve the abuse. My mom did. My dad had her convinced that she was a failure and couldn't make it without him so she put up with a lot of crap. Society /media tells women that they NEED men to succeed and women who don't have real high self esteem sometimes believe that. For my mom, she barely had a HS education and was afraid of my dad but she was more afraid to leave him because she didn't know how she could make enough money to care for 2 kids. A lot of women are that way.
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I have a theory about that. I have no personal experience...it seems to me these women grew up in homes in which their mothers were constantly being abused..physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually..so that was where they developed the "sense of worth" or "worthlessness". You can only live what you know..so they seem to seek out abusers of their own to further the "tradition". If you are raised in a healthy home, where respect for all is predominant, you would not put up with that crap for an instant! :)
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I think it is the way you were brought up as a child. I always had it hammered in my head that girls were the weaker sex. It was their job to keep a man happy and men were the bread winners and they deserve to come home to a hot meal and a clean house. So I married a abusive man until one day I just snapped and went off on him and I realized that I did have a back bone and he never abused me again. And I taught my daughters to never let a man abuse them.
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It is kind of like brainwashing. The abuse, both physical and psychological, reinforces the fact that the woman feels worthless. She must feel pretty worthless to start with to go back to him after the first hit. She is isolated both by her abuser and herself as she is ashamed of what is happening and does not want anyone to know. My abuser was a sociopath. He lied and cheated all the time. He also had drug problems. I put up with a relationship like that for 1 year. He actually threw me thru a window. The only reason it stopped was because in the end he tried to murder me. It was a blessing in disguise. After he got out of prison he followed me to another town and tried to see me. I got such a shock I literally almost fainted. By the next day I had moved to another town again. As far as I know he is back in prison how for trying to sell drugs to an undercover agent.
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Since you're looking for the cheating angle, it's an interesting question. Sometimes, women do not see this as abuse. However, when there are serial affairs, I'm with you that it is abuse, sexual abuse. People often don't understand that sexual abuse of a spouse does not just mean rape. It can mean withholding sex, forcing demeaning sexual acts upon them, etc. BTDT with my ex. It often still has to do with self-esteem. It also comes from a lack of understanding that it is abuse. A lot of the same reasons for women staying in any abusive relationship apply. However, there seems to be an additional level with these situations. Society does not see cheating, even serial affairs, as abuse.
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Because of the media and so forth a lot of women think they are supposed to be perfect in all ways. And, so, since they aren't able to, they develop a sort of inferiority complex which makes them vulnerable to men who will take advantage of them, abuse them, etc. That's one theory anyway....
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sometimes they think o it will never happen again he just got a little angry or no i my love and care can "fix" him well that's what i drew from a lifetime movie i watched
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Because women are stronger than men. Because women were chosen by God Himself to nurture life. Because women are patient. Because women are long term planners. Because women can make or break men. Because women are honest. Because women are the pillars of the society. If it were not for these women, we would not have had Einstein or Newton or Jesus or Moses or Roosevelt or Churchill or Mendela or Gandhi or any of the great people who lived on this earth and left their mark. Women know and understand their value but they also know that they have a greater purpose of building the society. Let us not misjudge their qualities as a sign of weakness. I've seen my wife give birth to my child, only then did I realise the pain these living angels undergo for all of us men
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