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  • The way I was spanked as a kid is probably the best. Bend them over your knee and use your legs to hold their legs while you spank them. Switches and metal belts are too tough or might be a bit much, for bare hand works well, and the number depends on the offense. However, I would not say it should be more than 30 ever.
  • Spanking their butt, with your hand, if needed.
  • As a single parent, I raised a perfectly well-adjusted child to adulthood and only once in his life incorporated corporal punishment. That was in a moment of anger and I regret it to this day. Time outs and denial of privileges, reward/punishment always worked just as well for us.
  • spank him with words. NOT DIRTY WORDS!
  • I don't think you should beat children.
  • The proper way is not to. Spanking is abuse and should be a class D felony.
  • I don't like physical discipline and where I live it is illegal. But, never use anything other than your bare hand, remember you are much bigger and stronger than your child so should not need anything else to apply a little sting. Always do it over their pants, this is a personal thing I guess but I have always felt that teaching a child to remove its underwear for an adult gives conflicting ideas. As to how many smacks, most of the time three or four is enough to get the childs attention so you can explain to them what they have done wrong and what behaviour you expect in the future. And don't forget to hug your child and tell them you love them afterwards.
  • The purpose of spanking should not be to cause pain, so I really don't recommend a belt, paddle, switch, or any instrument other than your hand. Spanking should be used only to shock the child out of their bad behavior.
  • if it's done with the viewpoint of correcting an unwanted or anti-social behavior, then use caution, because, as you can see, there are people who think that wiping a kid's nose too hard could be considered abuse... if it's ever done in anger, it is wrong though, because the motive is venting anger, rather than an action to correct a child's habitual tendencies that either have, or may yet lead to trouble... if i have repeatedly told my child to not push a sibling's hand toward the fan, and he/she fails to listen, what then...does not using corporal punishment (which may get across the immediate seriousness of the situation toward the child) make more sense than repeatedly yelling at a child who isn't listening and then having to go to court for child endangerment if the sibling's hand becomes severed or mangled in the fan, knowing that the instigative child not only didn't listen, but will likely do something similar again...? common sense works much better than federal laws restricting freedoms... "Fact: It is legal in all 50 states for a parent to spank, hit, belt, paddle, whip or otherwise inflict punitive pain on a child, insofar as the corporal punishment does not meet the individual state’s definition of 'child abuse'." http://www.childadvocate.org/1a_laws.htm
  • what ever you do to punish your kids should be leagal for your boss to do to you. gives it a new look right
  • I dont believe it is a nessecity to spank ur children. you can take other methods to disipline children like speaking to them or taking toys,tv, things they like to do away.. and explain why it is that you reprimanded them. last resort should be to spank..1 or 2 smacks on the butt..not abuse and exlain to them as well..why it is that you hit them. Hitting may cause agression. It can psycologically scar them.
  • Many child advocates and psycologists are against ever hitting a child. And, I agree that not all children need to be spanked. However, there are some who need to focus their attention on what you are trying to teach and this is a way to get their attention. Open hand on the bottom firmly (clothing makes no difference, just not a snow suit or pillow) once or twice at the same time explaining in a calm and reasonable voice why this is happening/will happen/did happen.
  • I don't like the word "spank"/ It implies a repeated action. I think that on occasions, it is necessary to give a light slap, to get the child's attention, but any repeated hitting is abuse. So I would say: the open hand, once (for attention only) and either on the bottom or the back of the hand (if they are touching something dangerous)
  • Spanking doesn't work. If you're too soft the child takes the punishment as a joke, and if you're too hard (as in actually inflicting pain) then the child will get the wrong message and perhaps even become psychologically damaged in the process. You're better off to take away something he really likes, except food.
  • I dont think you should ever physically discipline any child. We have anti-bully laws in school where if your kid physically hits another kid, they get sent home.. then what.. your going to do the exact thing he/she did to get sent home for their punishment? How hypocritical is that? Its a self esteem destroyer, it only causes fear and resentment and not effective at all which is why pyschologists dont recommend it(they do study this stuff extensively). There are more effective ways such as take away a priviledge, give choices and if they choose not to listen there are consequences, i.e. no movie on friday night. This is much more effective but I guess its more work than just spanking.... my child is worth the extra effort and it shows.
  • YOU DO NOT HIT CHILDREN......EVER!!!
  • Quite honestly..... However you see fit, just as long as you're not bruising them, breaking their bones, or breaking the skin/bleeding, then it's nobody's business but your own. They're YOUR kids. Raise them/punish them, how you see fit.
  • Hitting a person on the street will get you arrested. Now, why would anyone think that hitting a child is permissible? I had a boyfriend who required that I allowed him to hit our future children. I will not tolerate that. The boyfriend is gone and I'm glad my kids will not be subjected to corporeal punishment.
  • The concept of "spanking" makes me sick. How dare anybody hit a child. It's despicable.
  • I think a light slap (light for you, hard for them) is good. Bare, gets more of a sting. Open hand and about 3 slaps I thinks. I'm not a terrible person, but I know that a good spanking when I was little set me in line..Mom was OFFICIALLY in charge. Also, spankings should be used VERY VERY VERY SPARINGLY I've been spanked ONCE in my life..
  • I think that a spanking on the bottom (bare or over pants or whatever) with the hand is the only way to go. I believe that spanking is often necessary to teach a child consequences for their actions and the seriousness of what they're doing if it's wrong. I would rather not have to spank my children, but if you tell them time and time again not to do something that's hurtful to them or dangerous for others, I don't know what else people think they're going to do. I don't approve of spanking with any object though. I tend to think that's just beating your kids with something. A hand should be enough.
  • When WE were growing up, it was a yardstick, one (for attention), or two (once the butt's tenderized by the first) for pain, and it was for various infractions. No one (including us) ever thought my parents (dad, actually... Mom said, "Wait until your father gets home") were abusers. They were administering punishment that was feared by us, for something we did wrong. Both of them would have to agree to the punishment, and Dad was NEVER angry when he administered it. When I had kids, my then wife, tried the "no corporal punishment" approach for a short time with our first, and it didn't work. Our rule was "HAND only (so you can feel it yourself); ONE swat (for attention) or TWO (for pain, depending on the infraction) (In public, ONE swat ONLY if you can't get the kid to stop doing what they're doing - and CRYING isn't something spanking will stop!); on diaper (padded butt) or pants (enough protection); and NOT in anger (you can swing harder than you intend, miss the butt, etc.). AND NO slapping, but I did use the "flinch slap" (stopping short, then touching them) a few times - for instance when I CAUGHT my son in a lie, or they were smarting off. Time out was timed, and had to be in a spot they could NOT see the TV, or do anything they really wanted to do (no sending to their bedroom, etc.) IF we used it - In other words, they HAD to hate it, or it would not have been effective. We also (I did, anyway) tended to LECTURE them, even when we were trying simply to explain WHY they shouldn't do what they did. (They HATED lectures like that! ;-) ) I don't believe my siblings utilized this type of punishment (though at times, I thought they should), and they were also pretty effective. (I don't know what happened when we weren't there!) I think it depends on the children and the adults involved more than anything. All of our kids grew up pretty good.
  • I wouldnt ever lay a hand on my child, if you ever hit them hard enough and they brouse, you are in serious trouble. I would never take the risk. Verbal discipline I think works best, and besides how would you like to get spanked or hit with something, just because you did somethin wrong. Your still a person and I don't think anyone especially a kid deserves that. They don't know any better. If it was on purpose then they do deserve it but you should be the better person and not spank them or whatever. It like child abouse,not in an agressive form but it still is, bruses or no bruses. Spanking is wrong.
  • I don't see what nudity has to do with a spanking. Over the britches is fine. There is no sense in demoralizing the child; that defeats whole purpose of discipline! Plus, if you blow the trust they have in you, then you have a lot more to worry about than a kid who just isn't paying attention in an isolated incident. And I have never - nor will I ever - hit my child on the face. I also never EVER hit when I am angry. EVER. EVER. I spank for two reasons - to get thier attention when I have exhausted reasonable requests, or to make a desperate point, like when my 3 year old decided to ride her bicycle in the street today. You think I let it go with a mere talking to? Would YOU?
  • YOU should NEVER EVER EVER hit a child no matter how old they are or even if they are teenagers. there are other ways to punish children, because after you hit them and teh pain is gone physically they are gonna resist and mostlikely do teh same thing again, not to mention i think hitting is abuse, and ABUSE IS TO LAST A LIFETIME!!!
  • I have 4 boys. On the first offense they get a bare bottom spanking. If they do same thing again, they get 5 with the paddle and the rest with their pants down. The paddle is always a last resort.
  • Here is the latest allowable forms of punishment, currently acceptable by the courts: A swat on the rear is okay as long as its on the rear only and over clothing. Never use a device, like a wood spoon, paddle or switch. You want to discipline your child, not assault him. Do not cross the line with punishment. Remember, they are children and not adults.
  • a shovel with nails through it should do the trick
  • there is no proper way because not all the kids are the same. it sucks that everybody thinks they know the perfect way to discipline a child. what works for one child will not work with another. i've been punished by hand, switches, belts, and extension cords and not to the point where i have horrible scarring and bleeding. today, i am healthy, mentally stable, and very happy. however, it is unfortunate that other children have mental issues even when they have the same punishment as i did. so again, there is no proper way.
  • S[anking can be avoided depending on how dstrong the childs personality is and how early theyve been taught right and wrong. I've only been hit a few times in my whole life, mainly because I was told form day one what was right asnd wrong. I think too many people think children wont and cant understand that at an ege, which they can. A paddle/switch/belt may be too tough and can actually hurt the child, witch you probably know is not the goal. I dont feel like the child should ever be bare. Once you start going through forms of "pain" (worse then a few butt taps to teach a lesson) its child abuse. A few hits, 10 at the most, and with clothes on.
  • well, smack em damn hard if you want them to grow up rebellious and possibly abusive. but it has been made Illegal for a reason. There is no RIGHT way. You are demeaning yourself in their eyes; you are resorting to a childish level by hitting them. It's like a child who smacks another kid for taking their toy truck. Grow up and handle the situation in a mature way. Explain to them that their action is not tolerated and that there are consequences - possibly take something away for a little while, no T.V. for a couple days, whatever. You don't want to teach your child agression - no matter how angry you are, you're an adult, right? Believe it or not, a slow, almost monotone, low calm voice is chilling and they will listen to it. Time for you to grow up if you're a parent.
  • i think that if the child is over 3 under that i would never spank my child i would jus smack with my hand over there close jus hard anough that they relize that what they did wasnt right an also besides that punish them by taking there privialges away
  • Trust me, I've been around people that do that, and it does nothing the kids do something wrong and they just go sit on the time-out-chair, come back and do it again. Sometimes you need to scare kids slightly.
  • Hot frying pan,bare, would be painful, but i've never tried.
  • Hand only and just one or two smacks. I think it is wrong to pull their pants down to spank them too.
  • Not to spank them. If you can't control your kids without hitting them, you should reconsider your abilities as a parent, im my oppinion. I'm glad i live in a country where it's been punishable by law to hit your kdis for more than 20 years
  • I think you should spank them not hard, just enough fo them to know that what they did was wrong. Over the underwear or clothes. I think a hand is the only thing you should spank with because it shows that you love them. about 10 spanks.
  • my mother use to whip me with a belt and it worked out quite well.
  • This is ridiculous. you dont have to hit your kid to get it into their head that they have done something wrong. by the time your spanking them they have already forgotten the feeling they had when they were caught doing something wrong, so spanking them just gives them the feeling you dont like them. what you need to do is when they have done something wrong, confront them by bending or kneeling down to their level and looking them straight in the eye (they will most likely look away because it will make them feel very uncomfortable) and tell them in a very deep and stern voice "dont do that that is wrong and you know better. Im not mad, but you are in trouble" its simple and to the point. dont give them a long speech about how they did something wrong because after 45 seconds you will have completely lost their attention. please, dont hit your kids.
  • No, your child has the right to say NO,would you like to be hit with a paddle,switch or belt,over or under?we do not abuse children or any person,instead of abuse help the little ones,people like you scare me,not for me but for the children,go with your paddle or belt or perversitate to a grown-up and leave your children with a helper,life long!
  • Spanking is for people who are to lazy and ignorant to actually comunicate with their children. Its the easiest way to stop bad behavior at that moment, and it's the fastest way to raise children to believe that when they are angry and people don't do what they want that violence is the solution. parents have confused the idea of respect with fear. You can never take back what you do to your children, they may never say it to you but deep down they will resent you for it. Why not try asking better questions like.. how do i get my 2 year old to stop XYZ> you might get some useful information if your more specific about the behavior that you want to correct.
  • I dont usually spank my child. She really dont do enough to get it but when I do, its with my hand and shes fully clothed.
  • Just exactly what it takes to make an impression on your child and not one jot more. Each child is different, so there can't be hard and fast rules.
  • My mom spanked me bare bottomed, over her knee, with a wooden paddle and gave me around 20-25 smacks as a teenager. When I was younger I think it was maybe 5-10 smacks with the open hand.
  • I do not know any proper way but my mom used the following way. It depends on my offense. The moment I know she is going to spank I will wear two jeans. Her method is first spank with a metal brush over pants. If it was more then over one jeans. Further over panty. And then the bare bums. she generally starts with 20 and sometimes go upto 100 if I am that bad. Ocassionally she will take out the belt and generally hit over underwares seldomly bare bottom.
  • I'm giving you a -5 because your question is f'n sick, as you are most likely as well. A Child should never be hit under any circumstances. Man that's disturbing. Go get some help for yourself you piece of sh*t. You make me sick. Jonathan

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