The writing is on the wall for you. if you are the receipient of the words "get my life together", then its adios and goodbye to your girlfriend. these are dreaded words that men fear to hear. You might be one of the lucky ones and she will return. but, don't count on it. I'd close the chapter in this book and start looking for someone else.

No, there is no chance she will come back. She has left you. When she said that she did not know if she would come back, in "womanese" that means that as far as she was concerned the relationship was over. That's the way women talk. They are not like men, they usually do not say things straight. Now it is time to be a man about it, to stand up straight and get over her. It takes time and effort and can be painful considering you dated here for 16 months. But after some time you will get over her and then you will be ready to meet somebody else. You will be ready for a new relationship. Good luck!

Her statement, "get my life together", I think, is the same as "I need my space". That tolls the death bell for the relationship. And, she's letting you down easy when she tells you that you gave her everything she could ever ask for...to me, that's just not a truism, or else, her life would be together. There is always an "outside" chance that she will come back. It has happened to me, and I am now married to that woman, but, like those before me, the more I dwelt on the past..the harder it was to move on. I will say this, if you see this girl/woman a lot, then the earlier she see's that you are moving on with your life and not stalking her for an answer as to what else you could have done, etc..etc....the better the chance that she, in time, might be open to your advance. It sounds to me, either she found someone else or to her, the grass looks greener somewhere else. Keep your chin up, chest out...and move on knowing that at least for the 16 months together, you were happy. You will find that happiness again, with another. Good luck.

this was done to me in May of this year (2007) and it cost me more than just the relationship, it also cost me my job. My girlfriend was an adept deceiver and i just did not read the signs well enough, but i did call her on her crap and ask her about weird numbers on her Blackberry all of a sudden prior to the breakup. So I nailed and moved on. It still hurt real bad though and I may never be the same. BH email me if you need to talk about it berehowsky@hotmail.com

Wow... I just had the same thing happen to me recently... it was my first major relationship... and I've been through hell trying to deal with the aftermath... I tried everything... and I mean EVERYTHING... I'll share with you my experience and what I've learned. Basically she let me down easy, just like your ex is doing with you... mine said "I need to be by myself, I've been in relationships since I was 15"... I was so upset... I went through some serious anger and jealousy problems... I couldn't stand the thought of her going out and having fun without me in her life... it's this attachment which caused the destruction of our relationship. The only way to overcome jealousy and anger is with love... I had to learn to love everyone in my life.. and not just her... basically everyone on this planet wants happiness... I had been egotistic and stuck-up to a lot of people... I had to change my personality... I became a really nice person to everyone ;) Unfortunately this is a very long process and doesn't happen overnight... you have to constantly work on it... I took up buddhism because they teach this directly and I'm very agnostic. Over time I sorted out the issues that killed the relationship but to this day I still feel attachment to her... I made a decision and that was that if I truly love someone then I want them to be happy... if that means that we can't be together romantically... then I will do everything in my power to make that happen. I cut off all contact with her... I stopped going anywhere where she might go... I had to for mental health... I was going insane... I would like to say to you "Try not to keep asking yourself 'will we get back together'" but I know that it's almost impossible... You need to learn to be happy without her... now is the time to change your life for the better... and you can change... that's what I didn't understand... I really hope that you don't go through what I went through because it was hell... if you do think that you're depressed or suicidal then the last thing you should do is put that onto her... trust me... she does care about you... and if you care about her then you'll want her to be happy. Good luck... I don't know if this helps...

If she comes back, are you sure that you will want her? She is making a decision that could close the door to you accepting her again. I hope this other guy or gal she left you for was worth it all.

hey I am a girl who after 2 years with a man after him telling me how much he loved me after asking him to marry me, funny things started happening, I could tell he was lying and sneaking around then finally but we were getting along so well I dismissed how I felt thinking I was crazy. Then one day he came to me and told me he did not love me anymore and was leaving me for another women he met only a few weeks ago. I took him back when they broke up and I am a basket case and now I hate him and can;t stop thinking about how he hurt me. I later found out he slept with his x girlfriends (plural) his xwife and my cousin. That he would sneak out of work to be with them, that he would tell me he was helping mom and dad or his sister when he was really with them. I hope to see him get his karma. I don't kick him out because he pays his way now and I really need the money as I am disable.