How much should I tolerate my boss' cursing me out before I tell him it makes me feel a combo of sad/shamed/anger? Should I suck it up and console myself that he does it to others or do I risk losing the job asserting myself (I have kids and a mortgage)
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I would say by doing so you are encouraging your boss.. though i am not moralizing but we as an employee have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.. I would suggest you to stand up against it.. along with your co workers.. go through this article it might be of some help http://home-family.top54u.com/post/Verbal-Abuse-in-the-Workplace.aspx
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NO - dont put up with this, he is a bully and you keeping your mouth shut about it just encourages him, dont worry about losing your job, you have done nothing wrong, isnt there another boss above your boss that you can complain to?? Your workplace should have a 'zero tolerance' policy, check it out. Get together with the others he also swears at and all go together to complain about him, he cannot and should not get away with this. Too many people put up with treatment like this, and it should not be allowed to happen.
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get a tape recorder, recording him doing it a couple of times, then play it all back for him. he'll probably be shocked at what he sounds like. these guys are so deluded they think they're being normal.
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Hey, cruz! I came in a little late as I read above that you complained already. Thank goodness you did and it worked! He's probably just burning off stress and it's not personal, still it shouldn't happen. I was a bit concerned for you as the feelings you described are typical of abuse victims and those powerless feelings of degradation can make us quite depressed. Good for you that you stuck up for yourself! lol x
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I gather from your comments on another answer that this is no longer a major problem for you? Reading between the lines -- with the risk that naturally entails -- what I suspect is that you're too "nice" in general, and that it makes you a target for people who have anger issues and don't respect boundaries. Some people have an idealized notion about "openness", that we should all be open books and share our feelings with everyone else. While being able to be open is good, being *required* to be open is not. If your philosophy or world-view requires you to be sharing your feelings with everyone, that ain't it. You need to have a choice in each situation, and use good judgment about when it's appropriate and when it's not. So if that strikes a chord, it's good to know the name for this: "weak boundaries". People with weak boundaries tend to become victims of bullies. On the other hand, if none of this is recognizable, please disregard the preceding ramble :)
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suck it up pussy, you look like a bitch and you sound like one too
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Your supervisor should never be cursing you out. That is considered verbal abuse. I had a boss like that once and I flat out told him that I would not talk to him anymore until he could speak to me in a professional manner. I then turned around and went straight to Human Resources. (Note: This guy was a bully, not just with me but with others as well) He ended up getting demoted, then fired.
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