ANSWERS: 43
  • Either you accept all of me, and my faults to, or you find yourself someone else. I've been put in that position, and no, I wouldn't change.
  • If they're perfect in my eyes, I should be perfect in their eyes too I suppose.
  • Yes if I really loved them.
  • I would be very happy and honored to give up a vice in exchange for being in love with the perfect person for me (provided she wanted me too...) Making yourself better is a great way to show your commitment.
  • It depends. if it was something that put them in danger-even not so seriousely, such as smoking, yes
  • If she asked, sure. Especially smoking, that benefits both of you.
  • My ex boyfriend tried and was never able to stop smoking for me. They have to want to stop.
  • thats hard b/c anything that you do you have to wanna do it for yourself but take into consideration the person is only considered about your well being!!!!! and that would personaly show me theres a problem with what im doing! marina, 17
  • Yes, if I could see the logic in it.
  • I would try, but then again I wouldn't want to be with someone who would break up with me over it..
  • If they willing to give up being the perfect person, then I'm totally prepared to compromise too :)
  • Perfect person, something like an oxymoron,ha. Yes, if I found someone special, I would. I don't smoke so we'd be ok:)
  • Yes, especially if they didn't ask me too.
  • its harder than most non-smokers realize.. i thought this guy would quit for me.. but he ended up just doing it behind my back.. so much for that huh?
  • I think we enter relationships with people and expect them to conform "or pay the price". I wouldn't expect someone to change something to fit my likes or dislikes and although I probably would do it for them I don't think it is healthy to give up something you enjoy simply because someone else doesn't like it. Too much sacrifice breeds resentment.
  • First, I'm not a smoker but my boyfriend is & I hate his smoking habits. But to answer your question, yes, I would quit smoking for the person I love but my point being is that, although I may not exactly know off hand how difficult it must be to quit smoking I do know that the only way to really quit a habit like smoking is to 1st & foremost do it for yourself; while keeping in mind how much it will make the person you're with feel... so much happier & proud of you for not smelling like a cigarette butt... & you'll live longer, too. again, do it for yourself to make yourself healthier & happier because ultimately, you'll make the person you love happier & healthier, too. good luck!
  • If you fell in love with the perfect person, would YOU accept them even if they do something you really hate? I think the best answer BOTH questions lies in the REASON any person would consider changing their behavior for another person. If the reason is because you have a serious and sincere desire to do right by the other person, in consideration of their beliefs, then the answer should be YES. If the answer is because you are 'giving in' to 'demands' or out of a personal sense of 'I'm sick and tired of hearing about this', then the act of changing the behavior is insincere and is, in fact, really an insult to the other person because it's based upon a lie. If you want to change your behavior to please another, then do it for hte RIGHT reason(s). Otherwise it's a hollow gesture at best. Yes, I would, and have, changed some behaviors my wife does not like.
  • Already have done just that! Quit smoking because it was bad for me and I want to stay around and make her happy and she felt sad that I smoked. : ))
  • The PERFECT person would accept me for who I am, faults and all.
  • If somone loves you they should (in most vcases) except you as you are. But if the reasons arent selfish ("I hate kissing smokers") and are to help better you ("Smoking isnt healthy"), then I would...or atleast cut it down a bit.
  • That's exactly what I did. I quit smoking for her birthday while we were dating.
  • Absolutely, but within limits. I've got some bad habits that I could drop but I'm not going to drop them all for a woman.
  • No i wont.... cos to make him/her remain perfect i will have to be imperfect... since everyone lacks perfection... it has to be either me or the person,..
  • Depends on what it was. Most things I think I would stop, but if it's something I really love to do that they don't like for some reason, then they'd need to get over it. Like...I don't know, if I was with someone that didn't want me to follow my dream career or something, I wouldn't be down with that.
  • their is nothing more powerful then true love, so if its true love then you will be wiling to stop with out doubting it
  • I would do my best to try. Relationships are about compromise, after all.
  • Awwwwwww of course if you really love that person then yes you should be willing todo anything so yup!!!! (Thats so sweet) :)
  • yeah. my guy said he would quit smoking for me. i don't have an issue with smoking. sometimes smoke myself. but, he's a hard core smoker. yeah, his "i'll quit for you" didn't last that long...doesn't matter...i still love him...i just hope he doesn't get lung cancer...
  • Something destructive like smoking yes. Something positive or spiritual, maybe not.
  • You mean, they were going to lord the relationship over my head if I didn't? Or he would leave? Screw it. I don't DO heavy handed tactics.
  • In half a heartbeat.
  • It depends what it was. Something destructive like smoking drinking etc then yeah but something like giving up long time opposite sex friends because they were insecure then oh hell no. my friends mean more to me than anything and if someone I loved were that insecure about them tha they would ask me to give them up then I obviously am not the right person for them.
  • I would try not to do anything they hated.. but if they still found things it would make me wonder if they really love me or not!
  • Oh Yes! it would have to be at the beginning of a relationship though.
  • Well smoking is an addiction and usually if you are in love and you are happy, usually things like that will stop dependin on how good you feel with this person, if you are in love and they don't like it, try and stop, it will not only make them feel better but you will be healthier! -Jessica Edgell soon to be Zeidler.
  • no, i wouldn't. no body can stop me from smoking.
  • No, i wouldnt change any part of myself just because someone saw floors in me, even if the person meant the world to me...but smoking may be a different thing all together because it can harm you & the person.
  • I fell in love and stopped smoking. It was something I had already decided to do, I just stopped procrastinating.

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