ANSWERS: 34
  • Talk to her parents. If they can't see reason, I'd keep my daughter away from the 8 year old.
  • Go talk to the parents of the 17 year old.
  • Go to the parents immediately. Even a 17 year old is not valid here. The grown ups need to resolve this conflict before it gets out of hand.
  • I would contact the police and ask what can be done legally. This 17 yr old is almost an adult (physically at least) Tell your daughter to avoid these girls in the future if possible!!!! God Bless and good luck!
  • It is definitely time for a talk with the parents. Unfortunately, they may not be responsive if they have a 17 year old threatening a small child. The 17 year old had to learn it from somewhere. With both the children acting out like that from the same family, it might be best to help your daughter gravitate towards nicer children.
  • If it were me: I would have sent the 9 year old into the house, told the 8 year old to go home, and then smacked the 17 year old square in the mouth and then dared her to call the cops. And yes, I am a 37 year old man saying I would strike a 17 year old girl, but in order to protect my 9 year old daughter, I would do so absolutely and without apology to anyone and without hesitation.
  • I'm pretective of my god-son, I'd smack the 17 year old in the mouth if she didn't back off if it happened to him. I can't stand anyone that can't/won't see 2 side to everything.
  • When your child is out playing there be visible to the others, though not right there hovering, so they know you are watching. That should help keep the brats that are too old to be there away. You child should learn how to solve problems with peers without the interference of teens or parents, unless necessary.
  • I most certainly would have contacted the parents of that 17 year old and let them know what happened. If they are unreceptive, then I would inform them that your next call is to the police and you will press charges.
  • I would myself would have confronted the 17 year old myself. She is old enough to hear it from you, if it was the 8 year old that did that then i would go to the parent. She found it nessesary to step in on an argument with two kids she can take the heat from that childs mother. Obviously she is lacking something somewhere. If i would not face jail time i think i would kick her ass.GROW UP people. kids are kids, this girl is almost an adult. I would maybe think about going to the police.
  • ha depending on the threat I might have called the cops...
  • Go talk to the girl's parents, and tell them about their 17 year old daughter. Let them deal with it, because otherwise, you could be in some legal trouble if you do anything yourself.
  • I definitely would not lay my hands on the 17 yr old and teach my kid that way of handling things. I would go to the parents and see if they were approachable. If not, I would call the authorities to show the 17 yr old that her age is a factor and that it is against the law to threaten anyone, any age. Hopefully to prevent her from continuing this bad habit. I would not think my own child was not above running their little mouth so I would try and see all sides even if I was protective of my child. I would go to the parents first. A confrontation from a hot headed 17 yr old would lead to no good. They would insult my kid and even if telling the truth, I would probably pop-off and then what? Talk to the adults first. Nothing more annoying than a parent who thinks their kids never do wrong. Do not be that parent.. (not saying you are but in case).. just tell them that their 17 yr old should not get bothered by what a 9 year has to say. They should know better.
  • When I was 6, I was bullied by a 14 year old who was the older sister of my playmate. She would use foul language and tease and torment me and nothing was done. Yet, when I finally lost it and threw sand at her face, I got called bad and they were saying I had the evil eye. The most charitable explanation in the case of the 17 year old sister is she felt very protective of her younger sibling. On the other hand, she could just be a ratbag who likes to throw her weight around. I'd suggest not playing with the younger child again because her sister will only keep causing trouble and next time she might lay a hand on the little girl. Talking to the parents is an idea but be prepared for them to be hard to talk to if the behaviour of their children is anything to go by.
  • Well first off i think i would be having words with the 17y/o and her parents. No 17 year old should frighten a 9year old like that, what a bully!! Dont stand for it, i certainly wouldnt.
  • I am amazed at some of the reactions that have been posted. The thing to do would be to talk to the 17-year-old. Only if that didn't work would it be wise to take things further - which would be initially talking to the parents.
  • Call the police. Make a report for intimidation, a form of assault. This is your insurance policy, just in case the teengager follows through with her threat. Better to be safe, than sorry.
  • I just wanted to let everyone know what came of this. My daughter had ran in the house and told me. I went straight outside and confronted the 17 yr old. She ignored me as if I wasn't speaking to her. That pissed me off more, I walked on over to her mother's house. Her father does not live there. While telling the mother, the girl walked up and denied it all. the mother believed her although there were about 7 neighborhood kids who all say they heard the whole thing. I called the police, they went and talked to the girl and her family. They told me that they couldn't do anything unless she actually does put her hands on my daughter. My kids no longer go to the playground unless I can be outside. I'm not taking any chances.
  • look at who raised up the 17 year old... you can't do much of anything unless the parents enforce proper punishments for doing wrongful things..the mother most likely knows that her daughter did it, but perhaps her daughter has gotten into much trouble already that she's trying desperately for the proper authorities to stay away and prevent anymore loss of monetary losses because of it.. in this case, the best thing you can do is to report what happened to the police, this way they have it in their history that you called before about this situation if there was ever an unfortunate chance that this young adult would actually assault your child in the future. furthermore, i'd prevent my child from ever going to that particular park alone or without you.. and if you did decided to go to that park.. make sure you're around eye witnesses in case if that 17 year old comes back.
  • Advice the sister not to bully young kids and bring your daughter back.
  • Honestly? I would say if its still affecting your daughter, or she feels threatened. Press charges, you never know the girl could actually follow through with those threats, maybe not to your daughter but the next little girl who argues with her sister.
  • 1) The girl's sister has acted in an irresponsible way. This is not the behavior that you expect from a girl that age. However, you got only the view of your daughter. I would have first confront the 17 year old, but without escalation. Just ask her if she could justify her behavior in some way and give my view of the situation. I think I could find out if it is possible to make her understand her error and make some excuse. Tell her that I would not allow this to happen in the future. 2) I would try to evaluate the risk for my daughter. If I don't trust that 17 year old, I would not let my daughter play on that place again without watching, or at least keeping a eye frequently on them. Or I would manage to have also some other bigger children that I trust on there who could protect her, and tell them to keep an eye on them and call me immediately if there were a problem. 3) On occasion, if similar problems persist, I would also contact the parents. But be prepared that depending on how you present the situation, they could also support their daughter. If there is no possibility to make them reflect about the problem, you could mention talking to the police about it. If nothing can be done, just don't let your daughter play there alone or tell her to go home when those children appear on the playground.
  • thats absolutely absurd! It may seem a bit over the top, but i would file a police report on the threatening just to cover any future problems. Depending on what the insults were, it may even be disorderly conduct.
  • ask the 17 year old for her number and give it to me hahahahaha jks fuckin slap her out
  • Honestly? I don't know. Too many children lie to make themselves look innocent, so it's hard to tell what to do. You already did what you could do, so deal with your own child and explain to her that it's not wise to get into stupid arguments on a playground. That's a good way to avoid that kind of thing from happening again. It doesn't mean it won't, but still. My brother has been accused of beating up a guy younger than him just because he was jealous my brother scored a goal, but my brother did nothing to him. He got suspended for it, too. I have also been accused of trying to hurt a young child, and I never intended to hurt her at all. I was just trying to get her to go to bed. I didn't threaten her or anything. She was just trying to get away with staying up way past the time she was supposed to be sleeping. This was at camp, by the way. Obviously your own child is going to look out for herself and protect herself just like that woman's 17 year old daughter is going to protect herself. I'm not saying she's lying, but I am saying you can't really know for sure unless you were actually there. Therefore, you need to deal with your daughter. If you believe she is innocent, then treat her accordingly and explain to her about what she can do to prevent this kind of situation from happening again.
  • tell the 17 year old girl to get a life and fuck off
  • KICK HER ASS
  • Beat the shit out of their mom for raising such idiots!! Then kick the shit out of the 17 year old.
  • I would call the police.
  • same thing happened with my sis she was playin gwiht a few friends and then one of the girls sisters came and started insulting my sis my sis called her a bitch back she smacked my sis and i a 12 year old boy kicked the shit out of that 19 year old bitch then called the cops got a restraining ordered and my mom and dad sued for battery and ausaltfor my sis and me because i overheard and told her fuck off retard then the bithch smaked me
  • A 17 year old was threatening an 8 year old? I would put out a formal restraining order on her and her family. Tell the mother and father that if their 17 year old comes near you again you will show her what a threat to someone means and that when you open your mouth there are repurcussions.
  • I wouldn't make a big deal out of, I certainly wouldn't call the cops unless she physically harmed your kid. Talk to the parents or write them a letter. Your approach can resolve it in your favor, don't insult or threaten them.
  • say these words to the moom. she goes for my daughter in gona fukin go for you!
  • Verbally warn her not to do it again and if she does, tell her parent/parents. If this still doesn't work, notify the authorities that your child is being harassed by a 17yr. old and that you want a restraining order against her. :)

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