Never hurt anyone out of spite or malice, even if they hurt you. Next, if you don't want to get back together then you should tell him exactly that. It isn't fair being in a relationship that you know you don't take as seriously as the other person does. Let us know how it comes out!

Hurting feelings is often synonymous with a break up. If you know the break up is correct, you must do what is right for you. Trust yourself.

Well everyones answers helped alot but i am only fourteen!!!

No, it's not "Kinda don't want to", it's "i don't want to get back with him". There's nothing wrong with you feeling this way, you are not being selfish or spiteful, it's just not what you want, and that is all. Sadly, there is no way to tell him this that will not hurt his feelings, but tell him you must. This is not an act of agression on your part and you are not doing this out of spite, it is just the way it is. If you get back together with him, it will be under false pretences and it will only work for a brief amount of time before you end it. Anybody who has done this will tell you that it is impossible to pretend to feel something that you do not and you won't be able to stand it. This has to be done and you have to tell him and he will be upset. Be prepared for this - he may shout and he may cry and seem utterly distraught. Tell him, face-to-face and be kind and tactful. There is no need say "I don't love you" - it's unecessary and cruel. Instead you say something like "I'n sorry, I don't feel that things are working out between us and I cannot see a furture for us together right now". Tell him that there is nobody else involved and that you just want to be on your own (single) for a while. Tell him you need to be alone. He will come up with lots of reason why this is not a good idea and you must decline each one gently and quietly. Do not shout or raise your voice, be calm and in control, do not cry and do not be judgemental. No hurling accusations or apportioning blame. Just stick to your guns and keep saying the same thing over and over. It may take a while but he will understand. Don't belittle him or make him feel stupid. If you have some of his things in your possession (clothing, DVD's etc), tell him that you will send everything over to his house in a cab the next day - and do this, keep nothing that is not yours. And that is that. On a final note, do not tell all your friends the details as it will be the subject of gossip. Instead, don't tell anybody anything other than you both decided to call it a day - and that is was a mutual decision. This way, you will leave him with some pride intact and, years from now, when he is over it, he'll recognise it and know that you really did not want to hurt him but there was no other option.

Don't get back with him if you don't want to!!! Breaking up with him means that there was something about the relationship making you unhappy... Why would you go back to unhappiness???

Lilly, you're so cute! We didn't know you are fourteen. Please focus on school and what makes YOU happy! Confidence is important, and you seem to have it by realizing this isn't such a good idea. Go with your GUT! ; )