Sorry to hear it, man... heartbreak can certainly be hard... it can be very hard to overcome... best thing I can tell you is this - you need to find a new interest... it will really, really, really help... there's really nothing else I know of that can help you get over it... sorry... ;-)

I understand what you are saying, this is the only lesson you will learn on how to control your emotions. You need to be strong and beleive that you have split for a reason, she's not your ex because she is good for you. Whether you ended it or her, its over and you need to focus on something new. This will probably effect the rest of your relationships and maybe toughen you up for the next fall and beleive me, there will be a few. I still remember the exact feeling you are describing and to this day (15 years) later. I still feel it sometimes. I cried when I heard he's married, I cried when I heard he'd had a child. I bumped into him last year and guess what? he said he regretted ever letting me go. I dont think you ever get over that 1st feeling splitting with the one you loved. Take care and keep your chin up hunny. We're all with you. x

yes, a loss of a partner whether is is from a break up or a death is the worst pain....ever! Well, one of the worst pains

Going through the same thing. I know exactly what you are feeling and it hurts like no other pain ever. It gets easier if thats any joy. When my first love got a new girlfriend I died inside on the spot, gradually it effected me less and less until the point where I was actually a bit saddened to hear they had split up. The latest ex cheated on me with his current nut case of a girlfriend and that hurts so much more. I kinda force myself to think, well he can deal with the fact that he hangs out with an idiot, who is not well liked and offers people little, and she can deal with his mood swings, lies and capacbility to cheat with little regret. Guess it depends on the way the relationship ended, but I sure can tell you it gets easier. You gotta find things to pre-occupy your life with, as sucky as that sounds. I found it patronising, and still get angry when people say it to me, but dang there is some truth in it. It will get easier with time. You become numb to it eventually, which may not be great but its whole lot better than feeling crushed. I wish you all the best. Just think what other worse things could happen to you (although it can feel like this is the worst right now), and breath a sugh of relief it hasn't!

I feel very sorry for you. Try to think of the future, remain hopeful that you will meet someone much nicer and look forward to the time where it will not bother you one bit. All the best...

You will eventually get over it. You have to in order for you to move forward. No sense in hanging on to the pain/past. Eventually it gets easier with time. As for the worst inner pain you can experience, I'd say death of a close one qualifies. It's never easy to see someone you love laying in a coffin. It's so surreal and incredibly sad.

No it isn't the worst pain you "can" experience, but hopefully it is. At least she is not your current girlfriend who you are seeing with her new boyfriend at least you did break up prior to this happening. She has moved on clearly and this pain is a catalyst for you to move forward, heal and take some time for yourself before meeting someone new. Good luck :)

yes it is a pretty bad pain, but the loss of a child or watching your newborn have to get 3 major surgeries is (too me) a lot worse. But she will feed off of your hurt if you let her see it so, act like you are happy around her and her new man, like you don;t have a care in the world.

it might hurt now but when you find someone else you will forget all about her. And no there are so many things that will happen later that will hurt a lot worse. My mother was diagnosed with lupus and she is dying that hurts a lot worse then any breakup.

The worst inner pain you can experience? Not even close. 1) Seeing a child of yours in pain or worse, terminally ill; 2) When a loved one you have quarrelled with dies before you have had a chance to make up with them.

Sorry to hear about your pain! I know how bad it hurts ;/ Happened to me very VERY recently. I dont think there is any worse inner pain. Acctually... I think maybe Having an alien burst from your chest like in the movie might be worse!but not by much :P Good luck man!

Broken Heart Syndrome -- where a traumatizing incident triggers the brain to distribute chemicals that weaken heart tissue caused by losing a loved one, through death, divorce, moving, a break-up, or other means. I haven't felt anything worse emotionally....the good news is you will heal, the pain will go away, and you will find someone else.

it hurts like a bitch but it is not the worst inner pain you can feel...you will feel better eventually, in the meantime surround yourself with friends and get out and have fun

No, this is not the worst pain you will experience in your lifetime. The death of a loved one is the worst pain.

Not at all,I would have to say losing someone you love when they pass is the worst. You seeing your ex with someone else is going to bother you, until you decide to get over her.

When i was living in Seoul south Korea I dated one of the most beautiful korean girls that I have ever met and things went great for the first year. But then she wanted to go out clubbing with her single friends, I thought i would be the modern man and trust her and allow her to go off every friday night to the clubs. Well gradually she started to become more and more distant. She would go out every friday clubbing in the western pick up bars with her newly single friend and when i would call she wouldnt pick up n the next day she would just tell me that she ignored her phone or that she couldnt hear it in the club. I was so crazy in love with this girl i wanted to believe that she was telling me the truth. I was scheduled to go in for shoulder reconstruction that summer and just 4 days before my shoulder reconstruction she said she didnt want to see me again. I was stuck in a foreign country where it was 40 degrees and very humid she never helped me and for the next 6 weeks i really struggled and lost 10kg and had masses of hair loss. The sling was removed after 6weeks and who did i see with her new american banker boyfriend that weekend in the club yes thats right my ex. I was talking to her thinking things were going ok when he came over and said 'shes with me' he then told me that i wass a nobody and had meant nothing to her and that he had known her for a long time. I have never felt so much crushing pain in my life. My whole life came crashing down around me i was physically and mentally broken. when i asked her if he was telling the truth this she just said sorry. I was devasted a year and a half of my life i devoted to this girl i was besoted i was convinced that she was the girl i was going to marry. She then finished it with this guy he was a very good looking rich guy but he was a player and for months after i would see him with differnet girls. Its now been 5 months and she has a new korean american boyfriend that she works with. I see her out with him and her foreign work friends on the weekends when she sees me she kisses her new man or cuddles up to one of her new foreign friends n we just ignore each other. How could i have fallen so badly for this girl??? and why cant i get over her?? i have lost all of my self respect, im so angry with everyone involved in this situation including myself. Will i ever regain my self respect and forget about this girl??? i now realise that girls that beautiful and sweet can have a selfish side to them and maybe its best just too date a nice good looking girl instead of a model. Ive dated girls before and been completly rational but this time i fell too deep. Shit the pain still hurts but its getting better.

Anything anyone can tell you right now, will probably seem callous and distant. I can tell you that the pain you feel is the pain of clinging to something that's gone. Until you can let go, you will hurt. Unfortunately, the process is that of grief, and there's a road you have to walk before you can let go. It is a cold and lonely road, but when you reach the end, you will be stronger. Some will tell you to find a way to avoid this pain. But you know you cannot fool yourself. The only way to fix this is to get through it. The pain will subside. That sounds pretty dark, from where I sit. Hope it helps a little.

death of a pet also hurts

Nope. Try a heartattack or appendicities, now, that's pain!

Yup, that and having to burry your own child

Death of a family member?? Uh, losing a child? I'm sorry, if you think THAT is the worst thing you can go through you need to toughen up or you won't be able to cope with a real problem. God I am insensitive... But seriously, come on man.

I've heard it's the death of a child that's the absolute worst. But definitely what you're experiencing is one of the worst feelings possible. Whether it's a loved one, child, pet, or ex, the grieving process is the same. The intensity determines how bad it is, which I think is why it's worst with a child since that's the purest love most people ever know. It gets better, but the worse it is, the longer it lasts. That's the thing that really sucks about love. It usually burns you in the end.

It's in the top 3 in my book...

It's certainly one of them.

No it is at this moment but it will go away with time pretty soon she will feel that way and more than likely think about how she could have changed or better things for your alls relationship after she sees you with someone, when she is the one on the outside looking in for the first time.

I find that being cheated on is much worse. That's not to say that that kind of heartbreak isn't painful, though.

you just have to force yourself to think happy thoughts. even for your recent girlfriend and her new friend. you have to want the best for them and then you will find the best for yourself. Look for the good in every bad situation. It is there waiting...for you.

well the good news is yes it prob is, i am going through the same thing, i am a firefighter student and my own partner, the guy i ran into burning buildings with and trusted my live with, is with my ex girlfriend and we just broke up so i know how it feels, if you are a good guy ppl will notice that and you will get far in life and be respected and one day she will notice that and it will hurt her like she is hurting you now. that is a given, its funny how the tables turn and karma catched up with you. and think of it this way, alleast you cant be hurt any worse on the inside right...?

No, the worst pain is when they still love you but leave you because they want to find someone who can give them the life you couldn't but still want to be your bestfriend.

Im sorry you're hurting. My ex's GF doesn't make me hurt... She makes me throw up in my mouth a little.

I got an answer for you, my dad used to tell me this because he was having heartbreak with women; Son, in this world that we live in, dont love somebody else more than you love yourself. and he was right, I dont care what anybody else tells you, just remember that, take care of number 1 thats you and love yourself more than somebody thats just going to leave anyway; your ex-gf is not important, you are; go get a new one; and make it clear to the new one, she can be replaced in a week.

it depends on how much you loved them, how long you were with her. etc.. Some say this pain is worst than death. because you never have to know they didn't love you back, or you never have to see them, once they are dead.. good luck sweety it does get better.. I promise..

No! The loss of a loved one is. But as far as "romance" relationships breaking up, all I can say is, I KNOW the level of that pain. It IS difficult! But the older you get, the better equipped you are to understand that, "If it wasn't meant to be. . . . it wasn't meant to be!"! And you'll move on with you life MUCH easier!

Do the same thing to her. Get a really hot girl with big boobs, and pretend to be her girlfriend. Believe me, she'll get really jealous... ;D

i'm sorry your in pain my heart goes out to you. but i think it would hurt more if you caught her in bed with someone else or she's dating your friends. and the worst thing ever is if the person you were with was completely fake and was just playing a role to use you. take care.

No, it's not the worst, and it's probably not the last time you'll experience it. Time will help, but move on. When you know you are indifferent you will know you are OK.

It feels like the worst thing in the world at the time. It does get better though and eventually you'll look back on the memories you shared in the good times with a smile but not want to go back there because you'll have moved on.

Finding a purpose from this pain has helped me. Warning: every now and then those feelings come up when you think they have passed. Remember that you get better at handling these emotions with each occurance. Be gentle on yourself.

It's good for you. You gotta take your medicine. It will make you a better man later.