I've been dating a shemale for over a year now. we've had sex I love everything bout her I think I'm falling in love with her. Id do ANYTHING for her. She asked if she can be the man next does that make me gay if I agree? or enjoy it? answer both.

It could mean you're bisexual, but don't let either of those tags bother you. Be who and what you are. If you are both in love, experience sex as an expression of your intamacy. If some people think that's gay, too bad for them. Do what you enjoy.

u not gay or bi u just making the relateship work it is nuttin wrong wit allowing her to be the man

i am a person who likes people. i am fem but not a shemale per say. i like to look like i can pass for both at the same time. if u are in a relationship with this person and it is fine that is great. if this person wants to try something new in ur adventures that doesn't make u gay or straight but a person seeking a very interesting relationship which could become really special

Go for it, I like when my wife dominates me!

yes and yes my man!

Bi - gay - does it really matter? It's only a label. What matters is not what other people think - including your friends and family - but how you and your lover feel about each other and the choices that you make regarding each other. Were you to try the girl role with her, you may even find that you like it but then maybe again, she may discover that the male role no longer interests or excites her. It may be something that she feels that she wants to try to give closure to her old male instincts as they are shutting down. Sometimes, we just need to know something and the only way to know is to experience what ever it is that will really answer the question. One never knows what deeply buried emotions or new inclinations can surface during open, true love making. My heart really does go out to the both of you and I wish you both well and for her a complete, miraculous and speedy recovery.. Making the choice to stay doesn't make you gay or bi - the decision onlt seaks of what really is important in life - your character. You have more guts and more decency that most people and my hat is off to you. Best wishes - keep us posted on her progress. *warmest hugs*

The definition of gay is having sex with someone of the same gender. Who penetrates who has NOTHING to do with it. This is just a canard guys cultivate to rationalize their same-sex behavior as being straight. Bullshit others if you must, but never lie to yourself. There is too much chance you;ll believe the lie.

If you want to have a full relationship with a true she-male, and you love her, take what comes. Don't obsess about labels. Just find ways that work for both of you to express that love.

actually she just wanted to attempt it. We didn't do it because about a week and a half after posting this she was badly hit by a truck and is paralyzed from the neck down. She was also on life support for a while and they said she wouldn't pull through but she did and now needs someone with her at all times. I have chosen to stay by his/her side though even if it means no sex. It's the love that matters not the sex

jesus fucking christ;

I so wish her luck that u will enter into a relationship with her. she probably is like me and is not able to be the guy.....i am in a very bizzar relationship. I am a girl u know fem guy but really a guy almost trans........i have a friend who i am in love with and he is not intrested in me i think it is so very kewl that u like a guy like me because really we don't get much attention.....i so feel good for ur friend and i hope things word out for u two....if u have any advise for a tran...please let me know....sounds like it works for u

gary

Hi I am a very fem guy...i am just myself and people call me miss.... I have had no changes or meds.....it is all natural and it sucks because i am gay but guys dont like me because i really look like a girl.

listen it sounds like ur in love. hey love is very hard to find what does it mater if two people are in love they are in love.

believe it or not sex is like just having fun so it is just playing. love is the most diffucult thing to find in this world and if u found it kewll.....i would go with a straght guy if he was in love with me...but i would only go with a straight guy if he were in love with me becasue i don't trust straight guys

I don't call you anything but damn lucky to hook up with a she-male. If i was to call you anything probably bi, as your got a girl with nice breasts i guess and a package. Your in heaven man.

i would say yes because any penis up the butt could be called gay.

By her being the man, I expect that means she/he will be penetrating you no? I am an advocate for men receiving anal play. I am afraid though, that you are gay, and have been since you knowingly advanced into a sexual relation with a man living as a woman. Well, at least you're in a state of your life where you are living a gay life. You being penetrated or not has nothing to do with it. You penetrate him/her right? There is another penis attached to her/him (tough when you can't really classify a person's sex). Having sex with him, puts you into gay circumstance. I feel that anything you do with this person would entail participating in a gay relationship. That is not a bad thing. Love is beautiful no matter how you paint the picture

Yes ..ultimatly u r a gay ..Hell to the society .. u go ahead as u feel .. no body is watching u both, how u r enjoying the sex ..8-).

It makes you gay whether he's the man or not.

Having sex with a guy - whether you call that person "he" or "she" - means you're gay. Don't worry about the 'man next door,' thing making you gay. You're already gay. Enjoy it.

I don't think that would make you gay, but it could possibly make you bi.

no it makes you open to the relateship it is nutin wrong wit it

Dont let some kind of stereotype stop you from being with someone ifyou truely care about them. If you enjoy what happens then you are enjoying being intimate with the person you want to be with. How could that be bad?

some super shemale stars are more male than straight men as suzana holmes cuartney cokks nefertiti and many else

I do not believe that it is gay and if it was and you mean it that you are in love then why care sex does not make you gay but who needs these titles any way and why cant every one just be happy with there other dont you think that this is more important.

if you are happy and love her you kinda become one anyway so labels are out the window.

I am a woman who has been in a long term with a shemale. I helped him to feminize since he was 15. We been together for 16 years now and I couldn't ever d
ream of of anyone better than my beautiful Rapunzel Princess "man",who is as beautiful on the inside as "she" is on the inside. He's beautiful like a woman but loves like a man

yes i think it does make u gay, slightly, but enjoy it, if u really want to

Its only gay if the balls touch

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Making the choice to stay doesn't make you gay or bi - the decision only speaks of what really is important in life - your character.

I did top-bottom-oral-anal with my first TG lover, and I really liked being bottom. I call myself genderqueer paratrexual, and I love it. I'm a cismale.

your bi nothing wrong with it at all. i'm just a little jealous sounds like your having fun.

oh wow that sounds so sexy! i would love to get dominated by a shemale!

You're dating a man who has had some surgeries to look like a woman. That already makes you gay or bisexual, regardless of whether you let "her" screw you. If you like male genitals then you're not straight. If you're still attracted to women, then you're bi. Otherwise you're gay.

I think you should go with your true feelings I was there once and realized what truly made me happy. If you have some questions I have started this blog to detail my transition into become a trans lover. http://shemaledatingblog.com

What can i say, if you love her that what matters plus you enjoy doing sex with her? that is good LOVE HER AS SHE LOVES YOU.To be honest to you makin love with another person like you "DUDE IT A GAY THING".dont worry you are a gay sorry to say that

that dont make you gay, just a freak. hell yes do it i fuck my husband in the ass all the time and TRUST and beleive he aint gay.

being gay applies to doing it with the same sex on a regular basis and being attracted to the same sex, since she isnt either i dont see how this makes anyone gay or bi, society will need to find another label for those who enjoy sex with someone with a body between male and female. Do what feels right and enjoy yourself.

Personally I'd think you were straddling a fine line, but there are plenty of straight guys who like their ladies to strap one on and give it to them straight. These guys, as far as I can tell, are straight. You could think of yourself as being in that category, just with a real strap-on

enjoy it. you are inlove
you knew the score going in.
many man like anal sex and have gf, wife, or one night stand, use a dildo on them.

Yes and yes but who cares, do you know how good it would feel.

I dont consider you gay or Bi. its like a whole different catagory. some shemales are soo hot. i watch shemale porn all the time. and its so hot. some of these shemales look better then girls do, I prob wouldnt be able to suck on her cock. but taking it would prob be enjoyable since it feels amazing when my girlfriend gives me a blowjob while giving me head since it hits your prostate, which is like the Gspot for men and can make you cum without touching your cock.

I would say you are already bi-sexual by virtue of the fact that you are doing things with a person who has a dick!

If you enjoy it, you're still bisexual. If you dont enjoy it, you're still bisexual. Basically, you like both cock and pussy, and this shemale gives you the feeling of both.

Fuck the world -- who cares. Have fun and do what you like. Nobody cares in the end.

I am straigt man love women very much can't even stay one day without woman.. I dislike gays even straigt men's sex movies turn me off and bored..
What is the point to have shemale girlfriend but she is not the man they are named as shemales not shefemales !!you get better to find a female looking homosexual who can never be the man. two cokes can be friends sometime but always fights.. so if she will be the man it does't make gay but makes you asshole.. but you do what you like and do it secretly...

I am not sure if it does or not but why beat yourself up just be happy and in love love the one you love to hell what others think I would give almost anything to be in your place.. I have had feeling for Shemales for some time and would love to meet someone who is over 40.. you are the lucky one!!

oh wow that sounds so sexy! i would love to get dominated by a shemale!