I'm bi and still a virgin at 20. Lately i've been having some sexual dreams involving girls and started to think i might be a lesbian. how can i know for sure?
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sandra
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Does it matter? Just enjoy being who you are. Labels are so confining.
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Honestly, I think you just have to experience it. There's not a huge difference in lifestyle or personal choices between being lesbian and being bi, aside from the obvious. You don't have to choose between the two. Do what makes you happy and what feels right, and dispense with labels, just as Gingerminx says. It will fall into place for you, but you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what to call yourself.
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20 is a wonderful age. But sadly, I spent a lot of my early 20's trying to define myself. Lesbian, bi, straight? I wasn't sure and sometimes it felt like it changed week-to-week. When I finally decided I was a lesbian, and that I would say it- and live it- I had a very slight understanding of what defining myself as lesbian actually meant for me. I know a bit better now- I'm 30- but even still I learn new things about being a lesbian all the time. Be as you are, but be careful when your looking for a label. I'm a daughter/girlfriend/bestfriend/student/writer/potter/architect/madonnafan/lesbian. I could go on...but I can see your eyes glazing over. :)
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