Seriously, why don't I want to pursue a relationship with an alcoholic...even tho I am in love with that person? I need cut-throat advice...
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aloha girl
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Because you know this is a dumb idea. All he's going to do is ruin your life and deep down inside you know it's true. I seriously doubt you even love him. If anything you just want to be the one who saves him from himself. Sorry, girl, it's not going to happen.
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Aloha girl, I'm so sorry. The hard truth about being in love with an addict is that you will never come first with him, not really. An addict's primary relationship is the one he has with whatever he's addicted to. That aside, my dad was an alcoholic and I saw firsthand the havoc and destruction that heavy drinking wreaks, not only the drinker, but also on his family. Life with an alcoholic is chaotic and unstable. How could it be much else? Alcohol distorts perception and manufactures overly dramatic emotions - and heavy use causes pain, pain, pain in families. The ripple effects can carry into the next generation. I know you can't control his behavior. From your question, your situation, as it stands now, breaks my heart. My email address is in the "About me" section of my profile if you want to talk. I understand some of what you must be going through {{{HUGS}}}
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Sounds like you are using your sense instead of your heart. Addiction is a barrier to intimacy. The addict has the substance or the behavior as number one in their life. So, maybe your self preservation instinct (gut feeling) is trying to tell you something :)
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