ANSWERS: 44
  • Hurt my feelings? Ah, maybe. Well, I felt a bit rubbish. But then I have to remember this is a website. And I have the ability to turn the computer off. Has somebody upset you? :(
  • Of course I have, it comes with the territory. I did absolutely nothing except express that my feelings were hurt and tried to reason with the person. Squabbling with somebody I don't know isn't going to help matters and it makes things unpleasant for other ABers when people fight. It's easier to let it go and let the other person make an absolute fool of themselves if they choose to do so. Not much more you can do.
  • Some of have been mean to me but I don't ever remember my feelings actually being hurt. This is the internet and people don't really know the person they are talking about. And, besides, I have a wicked tongue sometimes too so I wouldn't really be able to cry about it anyway.
  • Yes, one in particular, but i contacted a CL and it was dealt with.. end of story, now i avoid the person in question.
  • As long as I have been online (over 10 years) starting out in chat, and now in Q&A forums, there have always been "mean" people...bigots, liars, obnoxious, rude people. I used to let it bug me a long time ago. I finally realized what sad, pathetic people they are. They are somewhere hundreds, thousands of miles away. Words can hurt, certainly. But that's what contacting a CL, flagging or sending feedback is for. Which is what I do for the obnoxious/abusive trolls we see here. Sometimes I try to talk to them, but it becomes pretty obvious that no amount of reasoning is going to get through to people who are so close-minded. It's sad, really...what must their lives be like that they are full of so much hate? I can only hope some of them wake up one day....karma can be a real bitch!
  • I had a very bad experience with an ABer just shortly after I joined AB. Fortunately for me, there were several incredibly nice ABers who came to my aid and gave me support. They were great.
  • I don't get my feelings hurt on the internet. If somebody bothers you, send them to me.
  • Yes, but it didn't hurt my feelings. It just pissed me off, it would take someone I cared about to hurt my feelings.
  • Yeah one in particular was a little rough. I did nothing for awhile, then requested her friendship, we'll see what happens.
  • Not really hurt my feelings but I have been annoyed by some individuals that resort to name calling instead of healthy debate. The worst is when your opinion is dismissed without logical reasoning.
  • yes a few times
  • Plenty of times.
  • Yes, I used to when I first joined, I used to take things personally.
  • yeah, a bunch of times...
  • not really. i got a little frustrated with someone once, but that's about it thankfully. :)
  • A lot in the beginning but I was new to a computer and didn't know what to expect or how the site worked. I'm sure it will happen again and sadly I'm sure ( through a misunderstanding) I will hurt someone else's feelings.
  • Yes, once. A really long time ago. It actually made me leave the site for a few months. I'm tougher skinned these days, and I speak up or get over it.
  • Yes, and just thinking about it makes me want to cuddle to make it all better . . .
  • Nah.. One time we had to deal with someone who was the equivalent of stepping on dog crap. We were disgusted and couldn't wait to scrape 'em off and be done with'em.
  • yea, i even left AB for a while because i was so mad about it:(
  • A couple times.
  • Yes, just two days ago a user made up a whole bunch of lies about me. At first, I was very hurt, and I cried myself to sleep. Then I realized that the things she said showed more about what kind of person she is, and weren't about me at all, so I got over it.
  • I guess, but I won't admit it anymore than that. XD
  • Nah :) I don't get hurt easily.
  • Of course..and I've hurt some feelings too. You either apologize and talk it through or you stop communicating with that person. Life goes on. No big deal. AB is no different than the real world! :)
  • Yes, a lot, especially when people force me to admit that I'm wrong. Did you know that it would easier for me to find out where the person lives and murder them than deal with the emotional trauma of actually having to admit I made a mistake? Yeah, for real. I'm not a stable person, and I'm extraordinarily sensitive, so it's almost impossible for me not to get my feelings hurt here at least once an hour.
  • Yes, many times before, when I was still taking Answerbag too seriously. There are a few people who still try to hurt my feelings, but I just laugh now, and report them to the staff :)
  • yes, some people don't realize how personally these things can be taken. I try really hard not to take it personally, because they don't really know me!
  • Yea, and i took it very personal.
  • many times, quite sure i have hurt others with a careless comment - stupid thing are easier to say than real feelings
  • Never had my feelings hurt on Answerbag. I've gotten irritated by some answers and comments, but never hurt over it.
  • Yes, I've been hurt, and my heart still does.
  • Yes. Not recently, though.
  • It's happened a couple times. I'm hard to offend, so mean people just make me angry and usually result in my taking a 'break' from AB. Hurting my feelings, however, is much easier to do. In the past, I've just given a warning to back off...but when that doesn't work it's really hard on me.
  • Yes, there have been a few who were mean to me and hurt my feelings. All I can do about it is I avoid their Q&A now. There are enough people here who are supportive and encouraging that it far outweighs the people who are here to hurt others.
  • I reported them to a CL. It works!!
  • ive had alot of people try, But i bitch slapped them
  • not on ThE bAg I hAveN't. but if someone did, they should prepare for the "pain train" to be coming there way! :)
  • Don't ever let that happen , just go onto another subject and don't get involved. There's always bad apples in an enjoyable environment. DON'T let them get to you , laugh it off , you don't know them personally , they're basically cowardly cyber bullies.
  • Yes a group of eminent ladies decided I would be fair game when I was quite new on AB (I think I was rising to quickly) They followed and harassed me on almost every answer I gave. I had no idea what I had done wrong and was emotionally very fragile at the time. That is when bullies strike. I was so upset that I left AB for a while until I got myself together and realised that they were really only important in their own minds and if I allowed them to upset me. Some of them apologised for their behaviour others think they are above apologies. Now I just carry on in my own world answering questions and being friendly with those who wish it. I loathe cruelty for the sake of self enjoyment , it is a very sad person that sinks to such depths
  • Yes, someone did but I doubt they knew it happened. I just carried on as usual and tried to forget it.
  • Yeah, I was just goofing around, and some troll didnt like my answer and just kept negativing me :(
  • Many times. I have been put down because I was poor and told that I was stupid and lazy, etc. I have been DRd (who hasn't) which is telling me that my opinions are not important. and a few other things that I won't mention here because of it is available for everyone to read
  • yes. the only time my feelings were hurt on this site is when someone yelled that i was a "FAGGOT!" in their answer.

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