My g/f (often) says shes going to call around a certain time, and doesn't, is it wrong to be bothered by this? Like tonight, she said she would call me on her break at work, but she never did. I just need words of encouragement to stop this worry. Thanks.
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If she is anything like I am, you will have the boss that wants you to work past your normal break time to finish something. And lunch is NEVER as long as it is supposed to be, so if it's past that time she said she'd call - then she'll probably just wait until later to talk to you. I understand where you're coming from completely...I try to get my b/f to call me once he gets home but he calls usually an hour or two from the time he gets home.
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A break at work sometimes means a smoke (if you smoke), going to the bathroom or talking to another co worker about work/gossip. Just because she didn't call doesn't mean she doesn't care. I don't always turn on my phone, because I don't want any personal conversations overheard. Thats just me, though. Just relax, if your together, assume she likes you, don't turn into one of those controlling boyfriends! UGH! Good luck! :)
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Are you sure she's not just giving you these little promises because she feels like she must so that you will be happy? Just a thought.
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My boyfriend never called when he said he was going to and I was really bothered by it. The truth was though that he was just busy. As stupid as that excuse is, it was true. Be careful though - I got so annoyed and tired of it, he broke up with me because I kept nagging. I hope everything is working out since you first asked this question.
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Just talk to her about it...ask her why she says she is going to call and does not. Sure, she will give you some kind of answer. :)
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I would first talk to her,if she is at work it could be hard for her to call,but I would talk to her first,maybe she is just tired and doesnt want to call anyone,sometimes we say things to make the loved one happy,give her the chance to respond to your worries
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I am sorry, anonymous. I cannot offer you comfort on this because it is just going to happen again. It is a waste of my efforts and a waste of yours as well, sweetheart. Please tell her how you feel. If she doesn't respond by improving, you really don't need the disrespect. Find another lady who will treat you with dignity and who will respect your feelings. I'm really sorry.
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Your not the only one that is bothered by this action... When my boyfriend does it, I get pissed... But I confront him in a calm manner and ask him hey why didn't you call me last night... and the same damn excuse comes up everytime... I got busy then I wanted to go to sleep... Then I let him know it doesn't make me feel right when he does that... as if he doesn't care
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One thing that hasn't been mentioned is that girls and guys for that matter will often say they will call and then won't on purpose. It isn't to be mean, but to try and convey the message that they have more important things to do, kind of like playing hard to get. This is just a small possibility, but ya never know. Some people are bad at remembering to call, or she might be busy. I can tell that you're a great person, and I'm sure that you will be able to talk to her about. My advice is recall and write down specific incidents when it has happened. Study your list and then talk to her. She will probably pull the, "I always call when I say I do," and then under pressure, you might forget exactly when she has done this and not be able to get your point across. Get atleast three examples, she should believe you after this. I hope that everything turns out great. Don't worry!
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the real question hear that i see is this are u so insecure that u need to hear frome her 3 or 4 times a day when she says shell call do u fear that she is with some one else u seem so afraid that she may have a life come on why dont u get a job and maybe ull see it diffrent did it ever acure to u that u are burnen her out with u need to be reasured at every monent that she is thinking of inty u maybe after 3 times a day of call u and asuring u yes she is fine yes she loves u she is feeling smothered what if she had to go out of town for a week and couldnt call would u set hame with worrie and cry ur self to sleep i think u need to man up boy and reolize that if she caled u every 10 minuts that dont say what she is feeling maybe u need a pet to love my advice is let her be her give her some space dude or trust me u will drive her away
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Yes it is wrong to be bothered by this. She's at work trying to earn a paycheck. It's a bit selfish of you to think someone SHOULD call you. Even if she said she would, sometimes life doesnt go according to plan. Maybe she was so busy she couldnt call you. Maybe the boss asked her to do something about the time she said she was going to call. Why am I even answering this question?
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My gf also does that, so i take initiative to phone her lol :P
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My bf does that to me all the time. Its annoying and we fight about it a lot but its really just a matter of inconsideration sometimes. Nothin unfixable. Do
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If your girlfriend said she call, and doesn't then obviously she either forgetful or lying. She should either not say she will call you, or else have a reminder from an alarm or sticky note.Or Why don't you call her at that time?
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i hate people like that..they aren't ones to keep their word..and it's rather annoying...they only think about themselves..its crappy..she should wither say she will call and call or not say anything at all.. don't promise when you cant deliver..talk to her about it..i know how you feel..just reading your question irritated me..i don't know how you could take that good luck
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Don't worry she might have alot to do tonight at work. So she can't call. I'm sure she will call you later and she'll tell you why she did call you on her break. Spme people say I'll call you and they don't call at that time but they do eventually call. I know I say I'll call but then I forget bcause I'm usually playing with my children.
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sounds to me like you are a bit on the clingy side. always a good idea to get upset about such trival things. really, chicks love that. keep it up. I give your gf 1 month to end it.
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People do that constantly, its really just something you have to get used to, she just might be busy or doesn't really check the time and just gave you a ballpark figure. My bf does the same thing and yeah it pisses me off, but I just deal with it and sometimes phone him rather then wait.
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If this is the only thing that she does to cause you worry, then it is really not that big of a deal. She may have had her break time change, left her phone in the car, in her purse, got caught up talking to a friend at break, spent all her break in the bathroom. Was hungry and chowed at the snack machine. I could go on and on with reasons she did not call. Don't worry too much.
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i find that really annoying too. You have to tell her its annoying or she wont know it bothers you.
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