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by gtravels loves her life penguin on April 25th, 2008
As the others said, you seem to be married to a racist. Sounds like you have some real issues to work out and while you do, you might want to show her a picture of this "ugly" kid, the product of a interracial union;)
by FaerieWhings on April 25th, 2008
You didn't know she was prejudiced till now? Find a woman who won't be shamed to have children with a 'brown man'. Mixed race children are often the most beautiful, BTW. My friend has two girls with a black man and they are gorgeous.
by eric on May 25th, 2008
Dude! You married a racist.
by NeverWas on April 25th, 2008
Christ! Even ugly people don't worry about having ugly babies, you love them regardless... she's got some kind of issue.
You can hope that it's just her irrational way of skirting around the real issue and justifying it to you and herself: that she doesn't want any kids at all.
by Rooftopguitar on April 25th, 2008
Wow. It sounds to me like she's racist. I cannot in good conscience recommend a divorce, so I would recommend marriage counselling. You need to address the difference in what you both want for your future and you also need to address the reason behind it. If she's not racist, I fail to see what her problem is.
by Penny The Wise on April 25th, 2008
I can't believe that she would say that. Why would she think her possible children would be ugly because they aren't white? What I'm confused about is why she's married to a man who has darker skin than her- she obviously saw beyond the melanin then- why not with her own flesh and blood? I'm sorry, I don't know what kind of advice to give here.
Good luck.
by LuckyLefty on May 25th, 2008
shes racist dude...
by koldkanuck on April 25th, 2008
Brown men and White women or vice versa make handsome boys and beautiful girl offspring.
Example Coby Bell,and Rachel renee Smith.
by MissJulie on April 25th, 2008
OMG I cannot believe she said that! Was she joking or does she really feel that way? I cannot believe you guys did not talk about having children before you got married because that is very important part of a partnership. I think you should sit down and really talk to her about it and tell her how important it is to you and if she still does not want to have children then you have to really think about how important having kids is to you because that could just be the deal breaker.
by mahwish on July 7th, 2008
forget about her..marry me..i'm a brown woman..hehehe..!
by Anonymous on July 25th, 2010
Cheat on her with a brown woman
by EddieSopranoJr on August 30th, 2009
You should have talked about your views on children BEFORE you got married, not afterwords.
by Lisa A. on July 21st, 2009
I hate to say this but you had it coming. It's obvious you were with her for all the wrong reasons and didn't get to know her well enough before she sprang this on you. This is what I'm talking about in this blog http://viewsonir.blogspot.com about how people get into interracial relationships based on superficiality as opposed to getting to know the person. Next time, find out if your girlfriend's a racist BEFORE you hook up with her. Oh and dump this chick, she's not worth losing sleep over.
by Metty44 on May 31st, 2009
It sounds like right now you shouldnt be thinking of having children together under any circumstances.You have relationship problems which need to be tackled first and urgently
by boobay on May 20th, 2009
This is the most crazy thing I have ever heard. I can relate in some ways. I was raised that white people were dominate over black people. So I married a white man which did not work. I am now married to a black man. He is my soul mate and I will tell anyone. If she has issues with having children because of their skin color that would be a deal breaker for me. As adults we choose the way we personally treat other people so her past should not be factored in. Be true to yourself and any children you may have in the future. Is this really something that will last long term?
P.S. Mixed children are beautiful.
by account closed. on March 6th, 2009
Thats horrible!! I'm so sorry!
by Caramel on January 10th, 2009
Dump her ass , Of course they will be beautifull they will be gorgeous , bieng whote does not mean bieng pretty why did your wife marry you , did she think you were ugly ? if so why did she marry you then , what is this nonsense , leave her get with a women that can appreciate you for the person you are on the outside and inside , this is really unbeleivable how are you even able to want to think of bringin this poor child to life with a women this way , she obviously will make ur kids racist or even just not love them cause they're not white...im sorry for your wife , she has issues and should be with a white men if she has issued with people of color.....Good Luck Sweetheart!
by Peanut on December 27th, 2008
I had a friend who was from an Interracial Marriage and she hated her parents. She came out Yellow with freckles and unruly hair. Not all of us come out perfect like the ones noted. She needed some serious conseling to help her through this way she felt about herself. She said she wasn't accepted from her black family and wasn't accepted by her white family. Thank god times have changed and gotten better. It is to easy to say she is racist and she doesn't have a valid point. Of course you would love your children no matter how they come out. And that is the point. Everyone is faced with adversity with issues whether its color mental or pysical. There are to many to list. It will be how you DEAL with adversity.
Good luck
by drea on October 27th, 2008
I am a white woman, with two beautiful biracial girls. Talk about gorgeous. My oldest has brown hair like me, with perfect spiral curls, and dark-lashed blue eyes. wow. she has flawless, sun-kissed brown skin, and is amazingly beautiful. My youngest has the same hair as her sister, but she has mesmerizing brown eyes that change from light to dark depending on what she wears, and her lips are like angelina jolies. what perfect angels I have,and i thing mixing two races are great, because the kids will get the best of both worlds.
by chris r on October 14th, 2008
WTF you married a racist woman who probably inwardly looks down on you
by Kiss A Fat Babys Ass on September 18th, 2008
There are some really beautiful mixed race people,so I don't know why she would feel that way.
by Theby on September 11th, 2008
Maybe she is using your colour as as excuse because she does not want to have ANY children; period. Did you not talk about children before you married? I think what your wife said was very insensitive and cruel. Maybe you need to take a second look at your relationship. Hope you can work things out. If not, it may be time for you to start again elsewhere with someone else. lol
by Brina on July 22nd, 2008
My kids are beautiful. Hasn't she ever see mixed children? Everytime you see one make sure you point them out to her.
by MicMic on July 21st, 2008
Wow! If she loved you it wouldn't matter and that is something really hateful to say. She should not judge you or your future children because of what she has experienced after you got looks. Good luck on this one. Even if she is coming up with excuses on why not to get pregnant she still shouldn't steep that low.
by memphis804 on June 30th, 2008
Nooooo way. I've seen pleanty of "mixed" children and they have thee most amazing skin complextions, the color skin they usually have is like a tan its wonderful! and ur wife shouldnt even care about that she should love you enough to know the kids will be beautiful because they are her own/
by PLewis on June 17th, 2008
divorce the racist bitch. y did she marry u in the first place. she tinks black kids r ugly. i'd kick her white ass so hard she'd regret she married me.
by Ms. HeartBeat on June 8th, 2008
Sir, I read your response where you stated that you two had "talked about this" and that she was "coming around."
Don't believe the hype.
She is giving lip service to the idea so that you won't leave her, but she has already stated her true belief about a child that comes from your union. Babies should always be loved and desired by their parents, not looked on with shame, embarassment, or disgust.
You are trying to force her into believing what you believe and giving you what you want (a common male behavior when it comes to females), but in this case you are treading on very dangerous ground. Why? Because you won't be the only one affected by her confused, negative feelings.
I've seen White women with mixed race children walk off and leave them with their fathers and go to White men, having nothing else to do with their children or the child's father. Is that what you want for your babies? If not, I suggest that you acknowledge and respect her desire not to have mixed race children.
I also suggest that if you really want to have children that carry on your gene pool, you look elsewhere. The woman can also be White, I'm not saying that. I'm just saying that you really need to accept reality, stop trying to force her to do something she doesn't want to do just to please you, and get what you want in life from a woman that wants to give it to you.
This ain't that woman.
by wildflower1313 on May 30th, 2008
Since when does not being white, make a child ugly? It's difficult for me to even begin to comprehend how a woman could feel that way.
by PT girl 08 on May 25th, 2008
Mixed babies are the cutest!!!!
by Freddy Says remove all moderation points on May 25th, 2008
You should talk and listen, but mainly listen. She has the fears that all mothers have, not necessarily about the kids but about their future.
Perhaps she sees more hardship for mixed race kids than you do, perhaps your view is right, perhaps hers is. Much of this depends on your community.
So listen, and do not sell or force your views on her, hard as that may be to resist. But find examples to show her where she may be incorrect.
by kelana on May 25th, 2008
Why don't you bring her around to meet families of same mix marriage as you do. Give her time to observe those beautiful children.Don't be hasty. Give another year for whatever decision you plan to make. Good luck.
by Jane on April 25th, 2008
WWWWHHHHAAAA?
all i have to say is that you should listen to the advice of these nice folks on AB, they seem to be giving a lot of good advice.
i'm sorry.
by Nelson - Jetpacking from bed on April 25th, 2008
So your wife was OK with a mixed raced marriage, but she thinks that your potential kids will be ugly because they are mixed race? Sounds to me that you married a borderline racist, and that perhaps you married her for the wrong reasons and didn't talk and get to know each other well enough before getting married.
by kourageous kitty on April 25th, 2008
my advice would be to leave and find someone else who feels the same as you do. as your choice to have children is too bigger a sacrifice. and you would end up hating each other in the long run. as for her reasons, your colour or race shouldnt come into it. it didnt matter when she married you.
by mermaide on February 3rd, 2009
Then how she married you ? and why she married you!? when you are in love you will see your baby the most handsome guy in the world. I am a white girl and I am engaged for a black guy and his face for me is like an angle and I dont like white people anymore. If she love you she will have your baby , she is making excuses . Or if you feel that she loves you that means she dont want kids and she is just making excuses . Good luck brother
by Gods_Little_Girl on February 2nd, 2009
I think tanned kids are adorable. You just have to show her some pictures and get her used to the idea. However, I did know a couple that had a husband that was white and the wife was black, and they ended up having a pure white girl and a pure black boy. that could happen too. Besides, she will end up loving the child no matter what. Just tell her. I think mixed kids are sooooo cute.
by illimitato_hustla on January 25th, 2009
Only you know her enough to determine if she is racist and the woman you want to stay married to or have kids with. It is easy to say leave a person but if you a married then you must have strong feelings for her. Does she know that her comments are affecting you? Maybe you two can talk about it together. It is important to get all the issues out before you commit to being parents because kids come with issues that you didn't know existed before. You also may want to tell her how important it is to you that someone raises your children to be proud of who they are. But most mothers will look at their child as the most beautiful thing in the world no matter what color they come out. Well, your kids won't be as cute as my beautiful mixed children lol
by Anonymous AAA on January 25th, 2009
Since she married you , she is unlikely to be a racist . Maybe she feels insecure or not confident about her choices & has lack of self confidence too . I agree with "Rooftopguitar " : go for a professional help rather than a divorce Good luck :)
by manpower1977 on February 6th, 2009
my bro i am a brown skin fella thus like u and it pains my heart to hear such a story o k.Well i will start by saying that she does not love u and really man u got figure out what to do with that relationship.Well there is this one point when there is some sort of mistreatment as a result of race factor,people always jump to the conclusion that it is racism it does not end there it is more than that.so i term it stupid and uncivilised there is only one difference between people the way they think.
by C-man on March 9th, 2009
... sounding racist here i know... we still live where there is color prejudice white dont like cuz they black and blacks dont like em cuz they white srry dude your screwed or... not
by LARRY on January 21st, 2009
SHES WRONG,LOCO CABASA,SHE NEEDS COUSELING,TO BAD THESE ISSUES DID NOT COME OUT BEFORE MARRIAGE.EVERY BY RACIAL CHILD I HAVE EVER SEEN ARE BEAUTIFUL IT NOT ALWAYS THE OUT SIDE PACKAGING IT WHAT YOY INSTILL IN A CHILD THAT REALLY MATTERS,DOUGHT MY WORDS ASK PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA. GODS BLESSING TO YOU AND YOUR WIFE.
by palmyrajo on March 6th, 2009
If you were pre-marriage I would say that you seriously need to re-think this relationship.
But since you're already married, you'll need to work with what you've got.
Did the two of you not discuss the possibility of having children before you got married?
Is it possible that she just does not want to be a mother? Is so, i would not force the issue. Any person, male or female, that says they do not want to have children, SHOULD NOT HAVE CHILDREN.
Any mother can assure your wife that any baby she has will be beautiful to her and to you.
In my humble opinion, mixed-race children are unusually beautiful.
by Anonymous on March 5th, 2009
Brother,
Take a hike. Your wife is still in the 60's where Martin Luther King tried so hard to overcome prejudice. This is the 21st century and time surley has changed for the better. Your wife is prejudice get it man. Doesn't she realized that mixed children are exotic and most of them are the most beautiful people in the world. Tell your wife to watch Ugly Betty on tv and she can look at Vanessa Williams and Salma Hayek and not to mention Halle Berry and Mariah Carey. So, who's ugly here???.....Woman, wake up and smell the coffee. This world has black, brown, yellow and red in it.
by aberom69 on February 26th, 2009
I am A Brown Man and she has got to go bro !!!
by dbrooks91 on December 24th, 2008
Well where do I get started with you. You need to have a heart-to-heart discussion with your wife and then decide where you are going from there.
by megachen on December 15th, 2008
Divorce her because beauty is not restricted to color and if she does think like that she should see a therapist
by CoRoNa_ChiCK ILOVEMYH@TERS on December 14th, 2008
WOW!!!! that is not right, it kinda sucks that you find this out after 2yrs of marriage, it makes you wonder how she feels about other people kids who are not white, who says that what kinda s##t is that. As much as i love my bf who i have been with for the past 5yrs who is not white, if he ever told me that are kids wouldn't be cute because they would be half white and not fully spanish i would tell him adios, that would just change everything for us and how i feel about him, if i was married to him i would divorce him.
by KagomeShuko on December 10th, 2008
Mixed race children and people are very beautiful! Why not have children?
by kiwisoccer on December 10th, 2008
WTF
Show her a pic of me on my avatar i turned out alright even though i am not white (dad white mum brown)
Maybe she should goolge pics of mixed children before she judges something she has no idea about
by Anonymous on December 22nd, 2008
Dude you should tell her that the kids will look more white than brown. I am a brown man who has a cousin who is a brown man happily married to a white woman with five kids and the kids look way more white than brown not that white is better than brown...It's just the way it it is. Tell your wife that she is very immature and needs to grow up !!!
im 36 he is 41.how will i know if he is falling in love with me
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OOOhh! is SHE ugly!!! I wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole! Why do people INSIST on bringing these ugly children into the word? Heartless people for sure. The poor thing doesn't stand a chance at fairness. What a shame. :-(
by Anonymous on April 25th, 2008
Beautiful child! How many months is she?
by 45454 on April 25th, 2008
She's about 480 months now! Isn't she a cutie?!;)
by gtravels loves her life penguin on April 25th, 2008
ah so fragile at that age
by 45454 on April 25th, 2008
lol, great answer!
by Rooftopguitar on April 25th, 2008
Thanks to everyone who answered my question above. She was not prejudiced at all when we were first dating. Her hatred for my race and color started when she started feeling that we are looked down upon by brown people because of our union. White people in rural America also give us the stare when they see us together. So we are still coping with the realities of being of an interracial couple.
My wife used to be quite fat and considered herself unattractive when she was younger. She lost that weight before she met me and is really very pretty. But deep within she is still very insecure. Both of us are considered very good looking by people who know us so I am confident that her fears might not come true. Yet she is adamant on this issue. I have realized lately that she is also terrified of pregnancy and getting fat again after.
I know she is making up excuses for not getting pregnant but I have had several discussions on this matter with her already and seemed to have won her over
by Anonymous on April 25th, 2008
Maybe she is so afraid of bringing back that insecurity of being fat, that she hurts you. You and your wife are very similar to my bf and me now except over this issue of children. I want to have his children in the future, but i also used to be fat and lost it b4 i met him. For a while i would still put myself down, telling him he could find someone better, more attractive. I relate to ur wife in the sense that we both hurt the people we love because we dont wuite love ourselves yet. The saying is true...u cant love someone else until u love yourself. I now have gotten over my past and love myself. Maybe discuss her real reasons...ask her why she could be so hurtful, get info out of her.
by Liev4life38 on July 1st, 2008
does anybody have the number of the lady in the pic ?
by xccentrix on November 14th, 2008
I'm pretty sure Halle Berry has an unlisted number;)
by gtravels loves her life penguin on November 14th, 2008
Gees, I didn't know she's Halle Berry. Now I'm not confident to call her :(
by xccentrix on November 14th, 2008
Yeah. Might want to rethink that;)
by gtravels loves her life penguin on November 14th, 2008
well first of all, marrying a white woman knowing your probably going to have kids is something you ought to discuss with her, why is she going to marry you, and expect to have a white baby, you can't help what color you are..she's probably racist, all im sayin is you need to talk to her about it. tell her how you really feel.
by Lindsey D on August 13th, 2009
why tell her how you feel, just ditch the bitch !
by xccentrix on September 23rd, 2009