That's your spawn! Take any action you need to keep them safe and comfy!

maybe ask your ex he should know' then maybe ask her ex about it' because she might not be truthful'

You have EVERY right to ask ANY questions you want if your children are ever in her care or around her often. I would not hesitate to ask her any and all questions that I could think of.

If you are on friendly terms w/ her, I don't see why you wouldn't have asked her or your ex by now. I would be concerned but people don't have custody of their kids for a lot of reasons & not all are bad. I just had to sign over custody of my son to my brother-in-law in order for him to go to school in Ohio. he was getting into too much trouble w/ his GF here in Florida & was failing school. The only way for me to get him bakc on track was to pull him out of the environment he was in & change his whole life. His dad was a little reluctant, but I am the one who raised him since he couldn't be bothered & he has no choice but to trust my judgement. Maybe she doesn't have them for financial reasons. A lot of parents lose custody becuase of that, unfortunely.

Of course you have a right to know they are your children after all, she might be a nice enough woman but when she doesnt have custody of her own children i would want to know why especially since she is going to be in their lives now that she is with their dad! Its your right as a parent to know!

I am definitely struggling these days with trusting my exhusband with the kids, because last year I (we) found out that his nephew that he was using to babysit the kids on the ONE day that he spends with them ...so he can go to the GYM.... molested their 8year old cousin (my kids were 5 and 6 at the time), I realize: what is this about blindly trusting our exes? On top of that, hecompletely didn't deal with what happened with his nephew, I went through the entire process alone of fiing a police report and getting counseling and everything after the kids let on that something had happened. Apparently he says that he was abused as a child and nobody ever helped him and he never told anybody..... so he just couldn't deal. Well, I didn't know how to deal either, but I had to look out for our kids and I did..... but the bottom line is that this eroded the last bits of trust.... I absolutely do not have peace anymore when I "hand the kids" over to him.. i just cannot handle it. It doesn't seem right. It's been a year now and the anxiety and panic is mounting. Of course we have a right to look out and be vigilant for our childrens' safety!!!! I feel that I can onlly answer to myself about whether I did what I thoguht was right in handing the kids to their dad when It doesn't feel safe to me anymore, when I don't trust him and don't feel like he IS a dad. He just jumped ship completely!!! BUT, I THINK THAT ASKING THE WOMAN WHY SHE DOESN'T HAVE CUSTODY MAY NOT BE THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEM!!!! Could you ask your husband to obtain that info or express your concers to him and more importantly than anything, DO YOU THINK HE IS AS CONCERNED FOR THE RISKS FOR YOUR CHILDRENS' WELFARE AS YOU ARE? How old are your kids, also, and do you have good open communication with them???? Do they know about your concerns??? Good luck

Just ask!

Negative; I would have your ex-husband find out; you want to remain diplomatic, but if you are at all feeling your children could be in danger, then find out before she spends time with them again. Also, take clues from your kids; do they like her? Ever mentioned anything 'funny' about her?

You have every right to know. These are your children and no question is "wrong" or "nosy" when it comes to the safety of your kids. I would be worried if she as a mother became upset with you asking her this. She should understand that you are protecting ur kids.

you have the right to ask and expect an answer. you do not have the right to make life hell for them because you do not like the answer.

Not only do you have the right....you also have the responsibility. It could be a perfectly reawsonable explanation, such as she didn't have enough money to pay a lawyer for the custody battle as he did, or it could be something much worse. I wouldn't ask her anything other than what state the custody hearing took place in. Those things are a matter of public record. Go find out for yourself. You don't have any reason to trust anything she says because you do not know her, obviously.