If you're in a serious relationship, is it wrong to be somewhat attracted to another person, even if you would never consider dating them or doing anything about it, and you love your partner very much?
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Attraction is something that occurs naturally and cannot be prevented. Your actions towards that person, however, would be under your control and could be considered wrong.
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no this is not wrong. i bet both parties 'fancy' other people as long as there are rules like not doing anything and you can stay in control of your feelings then it will all be fine
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i think it is just human nature to be attracted to different people. I would be happy to jokily discuss why that person would be attractive. If you're calm about it and have a trusting relationship then all's good i suppose.
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of course not, its human nature. You can't make yourself not attracted to someone. Its just humans, we find people attractive, what would make it wrong iss, if you acted upon it, such as making an attempt to flirt with them. But finding someone attractive, is not wrong.
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I'm married,not dead!lol!
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Attraction isn't something you can help, so there's not much wrong with it. However, the term 'wrong' is subject to context, so be wary.
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Here's an old-fashioned view from an old person..If you are truly in love with someone, you have nothing left that is open to being attracted to anyone else, at least not physically....I think you can be attracted to someone with a brilliant mind, or great sense of humor..but nothing of an intimate nature. :)
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Thank you :) I am attracted to their mind and creativity, and yes, I now realize there is nothing wrong with that. Thanks, all :) And I would never, ever, think of acting upon it, as I know that this undoubtedly would be rude AND wrong.
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Nope, we are all human. It is very normal.
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I don't know if it's right or wrong, but I have never been romantically attracted to anyone other than my bf when I was in a relationship. I guess I am lucky because I just don't notice anyone else that way. :D
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No one wants a partner that is attracted to another. Unless your partrner is so shallow that they could be attracted based on physical attributes alone. In which case there isnt much there to be concerned about losing any way.
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Well, it's definitely normal. Is it wrong, though? Good question....
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There are many people out there who are more attractive than my fiance :) and I daresay I DO get attracted. Some intellectually, some just physical...but never yet one who attracts me emotionally because my emotions is attached to my fiance. :) With our partner, what we have encompasses mental, emotional and physical aspects. And that is not easy to find. As long we keep that in mind...just as you, you have sanely keep yourself to your partner out of LOVE. It is perfectly healthy and normal. We have eyes. So it wanders abit, harmless fun really. Relax ;)
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NOTICING AN ATRACTIVE PERSON IS NOT WRONG. ITS BEING A HUMAN BEING. STARING AT A PERSON AND GIVING THAT PERSON MORE ATTENTION WARRENTED (TO A PERSON IN A SERIOUS AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP) IS. CHEATING STARTS SOMEWHERE. USUALLY HERE. BE CAREFULL OF WHERE THESE FEELINGS TAKE YOU.
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No, not at all. I just met one of my guys coworkers on monday. I thought he was very good looking. I never got the urge to have anything with him, sleep with him or have a relationship with him because I love my guy. I just thought the kid was attractive, that was all. I also look at girls and find them attractive or not attractive. Its just a physical beauty thing.
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humm good question , If youre not doing anything behind your partners back.no if its behind their back and you are spending time with them yes.
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its okay!!
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I think that's a good question. I'm attracted to other women all the time. It's completely natural. One cannot choose to whom one is attracted. One can only makes choices about actions. I would never act on an attraction to another woman.
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It's not wrong and in fact it is very normal and necessary. If you are only focused on the one partner, and never, ever look at anyone else or even appreciate another human, how can you possibly live? Every moment without them would be torture, n'est pas? Actually, I find that if I happen to talk to a handsome man or exchange a look with someone, it makes me appreciate what I have even more. And when I see him again, it's just like one of those movies (running through a field of daisies toward each other in slo-mo, corny music in the background). Nah, it's not wrong. He's doing it, too.
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Being on a diet doesn't mean that you can't look at the menu.
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normal, were all flesh and bone, question is how attracted are you to this person , if its somebody in particular then its trouble.
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the only way to stop weeds from growing in your garden is by poisoning it... I prefer NOT to have a toxic relationship. see the weeds, yeah they are pretty wild flowers but they will choke off the relationship you are nurturing so they must be pulled. that does not mean you could not enjoy their beauty while they were there... just don't start nurturing them too.
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If you are having feelings towartds someone other than your partner it is a warning sign that there are serious problems in your relationship with your s/o. Head these warning and try to fix what is broken with your relationship rather than pursuing something with this other person. The grass may look greener with this other person but believe me if you dump your s/o for this new person you will eventually realize that what you thought was a greener pasture just appeared that way at the moment and you will soon realize it's the same old grass just in a different backyard.
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attractions are normal but it is how we react to the attraction that can make things go horribly wrong. handle your attractions with caution and run from temptation before it gets a hold on you.
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I am guilty of that too :( bt luckily the source of this attraction is now gone and i get to enjoy my bf properly again :)
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Thats the whole idea behind the old christian BS of coveting... Don't admire your neighbors wife and all that malarkey..
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Be aware of your feelings. It is human nature to be curious, but it is our hearts that lead us to make the right choices. If it feels the slightest bit wrong to you - then it is wrong.
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my boyfriend of two years and I just had that talk. You will find others attractive its normal. As long as you stay faithful. You may even have thoughts about them like having sex. I know my boyfriend said it didn't bother him if I did that it was normal he just rather not hear about it, but he knows I love him and would never do anything. and same goes for him.
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Attraction is just attraction. It is overrated. It comes and goes. It is meaningless in terms of predicting a long-term relationship. You can be attracted to hundreds of people. It is what you choose to do about it that is right or wrong. You can feed the attraction with your mind and that is wrong if you are committed to someone else. You can flirt and that is wrong. You can follow through and that is really wrong. That assumes your dating relationship is a committed relationship where you are in agreement to only date each other.
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I don't know. If I really like/love someone no one else can get my attention. I would say that attraction is just attraction though.
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attraction is normal and human, just because you are in a relationship does not mean that everyone becomes ugly or not worthy of looking at, it does not matter about where your eyes go its about where your heart is at.
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It's not wrong. I would say it's fairly normal as long as you don't feel the urge or think about acting on that attraction.
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I heared my husband say once, in a joking manner.. "hey hunny, just cause i picked my meal doesnt mean i cant look at the rest of the menu " lol....
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C'mon now...it blows me away how unrealistic people are about relationships. You can't control who you're attracted to, and yes it's 100% normal. You show me a person who says they're not attracted to anyone else and I'll show you a lying sack of shit.
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