I don't think any one really gets over their first love, thats if they are honest about it. Yes it's normal to feel upset thet your ex has found some one else, you have moved on with a new boy freind as well. So, in time you will feel more comfortable about your exhaving a new love in his life.

Any pain related to losing someone you were in love with is normal. If you didn't feel anything...well, that I would say would not be normal.

i know that it is hard to get over your true/first love.. (so you thought)but is it because he is getting engaged, that as the saying goes, you always want what you cant have? is it just because hes about to be married that you think your starting to hurt more? i think i would feel the same way, i wouldnt want to be with him, but just because now that he is getting married, id feel as if my heart was still broken, but again i would think that the only reason i think this is because i wont be able to have him again.

TOTALLY NORMAL AND OKAY....I MADE THE MISTAKE OF LEAVING SOMEONE I LOVED FOR AN EX WHEN I FOUND THAT THE EX WAS ENGAGED.....ALL I DID WAS BREAK UP THEIR ENGAGEMENT AND RUINED MY RELATIONSHIP.....I NEVER SPOKE TO EITHER AGAIN.....I HEAR THEY ARE BOTH ENGAGED...IRONIC...

I think it's natural and normal to always hold a special place in your heart for someone you once cared about and loved, even if the relationship didn't work out.

If it was just a break-up, and there were no real ill-feelings or abuse, then: Part of it has to do with the fact that you DID think he was the "one and only" for a time, and now that he's COMPLETELY "off the market" (therefore you don't have a fall-back, if anything happens with THIS bf), is causing a bit of anxiety. And, part of it has to do with the fact that he's ENGAGED before you. There IS a competition factor when you break up with someone, even if you still love them as a friend - YOU want to be the first to get an s/o... YOU want to be the first to be engaged... YOU want to the be the first to marry. You lost the race, so feel bad. You can SAY there was no "fall-back" plan or no "competition", but deep down, it's there. And it's normal. If there WAS abuse or animosity in the break-up, the above will STILL hold true, at least the competition part... And THAT'S normal, too. (With the abuse angle, there's also the feeling of anxiety that the new woman will end up worse than you. With the animosity angle, there's the "well, what's SHE got that I ain't got" feeling.) Either way, except maybe the anxietry over the abuse issue, it shouldn't usually last too long, especially if you can view it as "at least he's happy".

Blue eyes, in my 23 years here on this silly planet, I have learned that the one is hard to forget about, until you meet the next one, Thats what I did, and thats over now too, I dont know if this helps or not, but Im lookin for the third one, maybe shell be the one...

Yes.

I've been with my husband for 8 years but that didn't change the broken hearts I sustained before him. It's made my life better and he's changed my definition of love but breakups hurt and heartbreaks leave scars. There are people from my past that will always be remembered for that hurt, no matter how old I get, and when I see them doing well there's a tinge of jealousy there. On one hand, I want the best for them, but on the other, I want to see them hurting over me still. I want to know that I wasn't easy to get over for them either. I guess that's just the human heart.

Yes. You had very deep feelings for him. Him becoming engaged raises up the "what if" factor, even though you don't have feeling for him anymore. It should pass in a few days.