by A on March 30th, 2008

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Let's just say that you told a woman she should get an abortion because you knew her baby would have some sort of disability. How would you feel if that same woman came back to visit you with her baby to say hello? (Note: Her baby is healthy and happy).

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by macyxtreme on July 2nd, 2008
I would certainly regret saying that earlier, and tell her so. Then, I would coo at the adorable new bundle of joy.
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- That's what I would do also :). Welcome to AB 2macy2.
  
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by Gi57 on March 30th, 2008
I'd feel like I'd been taught a good lesson in life about how to keep my mouth closed more often then not.
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by Curiosity didnt kill the cat. I did. on April 9th, 2008
wow i'm pretty happy that that person didn't take your advice. you prolly feel like a horrible person, right? besides, i don't think that physical disability (or any other disability for that matter) should be an excuse to abort your child. thats YOUR CHILD! my husband is physically disabled and i couldn't imagine my life without him. he is a wonderful man. he had a tough childhood, but he is a wonderful man and i couldn't imagine being with anyone else.
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- You said it better than me. How does the think it makes a lot of people feel to know that others would rather they hadn't existed. What's the point of 'anti-discrimination' laws in these circumstances?
  
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  by Doubly Ugly on April 9th, 2008
- "wow i'm pretty happy that that person didn't take your advice."
  1- it was not my advice. I am not even for abortion.
  "you prolly feel like a horrible person, right?"
  2- No, not really. I'm not even a doctor. I'm just an 18-year-old girl.
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  by AnonymousGirl on April 9th, 2008
- no problem. i'm just saying there is a reason for every person in the world to be made a different way and we shouldn't start the idea of programming our society towards perfectionism. thats what hitler did, btw. he didn't just kill jews, but gypsies, homosexuals, and yes, the disabled (mentally and physically). we are ALL people and we are all EQUAL no matter what.
  
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  by Curiosity didnt kill the cat. I did. on April 9th, 2008
- Good point. By the way, the "baby" I mentioned in the question is actually my eldest brother. I consider him to be a very successful man. ^_^
  
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by singwell-is off researching a lot on March 30th, 2008
My sister in law was told in two out of three of her pregnancies, that she had spina bifida children. She was advised to abort, but, being RC, she did not. Just as well, because both children were fine. One is a ballerina.
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by Squirrel Face on July 2nd, 2008
Shitty.
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by Zack on April 1st, 2008
I'd feel like the biggest dickhead in the world. So to avoid that, I would should my big mouth and not suggest such a dumbass thing.
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by m1tk44 on March 30th, 2008
I would feel happy for her being so lucky.
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by needtoknow on July 2nd, 2008
If you're close I'd say something..If not, think Id let it go. Im sure she thinks about it everytime she looks at the baby.
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by Miss Anubis loves this season on July 2nd, 2008
Not even a health professional should tell a mother to get an abortion even if the baby has a chance to be born with a disability, it is her choice not the choice of the doctors. So I don't see why this would ever happen.
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- Well, it has happened.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on July 3rd, 2008
- It's sad, so many Health "Professionals" are not being very professional anymore. :(
  
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  by Miss Anubis loves this season on July 3rd, 2008
- I agree.
  
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by bowlermommy07 on July 2nd, 2008
Not that I would ever say this (I NEVER WOULD as I am hard core pro-life), but if I ever did I would feel like a jackass. And whoever said that thing about telling someone with no income to abort, you're no different than a murderer yourself. There is adoption. Same with a rape child. That child didn't get to choose how it came into existence. And NO WOMAN has a right to punish a child for the mistake of a pig (man). If you can't live with the memory, just carry the kid to term and GIVE IT UP FOR ADOPTION. If you abort, you commit a worse crime on the most vulnerable among us. Murder is worse than rape, and there's NO EXCUSE for it.
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- Sheesh...everyone has a choice to do what they want with themselves whether it is a bad decision or not, bad for them or not or whether other people agree with it or not. There are bad things that happen to many, many children that the mothers chose to have, give up or taken away. I'm not against or for abortion, but I do not understand how people "tell" other people what they should do with their own bodies but do not volunteer their own time to help the unfortunate children or mothers who didn't choose to abort. I think ALL women should have the right to do as she pleases with her own body/her own life.
  
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  by Cheery Cherry on July 2nd, 2008
- This isn't an abortion argument. It's a question asking how you would feel. I know you already answered it, but instead of attacking someone else's beliefs in an answer to my question, would you mind commenting on the answer you are referring to itself? The person you intended this for may not even see your answer.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on July 5th, 2008
- LOL, "attacking"? That's an interesting choice of word. I wasn't attacking her, I was simply commenting BM, not the questioner. I am just speaking my mind as she is and that's what these public message boards are for. I respect her for her opinion. I just have my own that is different than hers. I just don't think that labeling other people for their choices that they make in life is accepting other people for their differences...BM just sounds very unforgiving and that's not her role anyway..to judge. I believe that most women who abort children hurt and suffer within and they are harder on themselves without someone else kicking them where they hurt.
  
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  by Cheery Cherry on July 6th, 2008
- Cheery Cherry, I wasn't even talking to you. I was talking to her. I hope this makes things more clear. "I already know you answered it" is something I thought would imply that I was talking to her, but I guess I should have made it more obvious.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on July 6th, 2008
- My bad :(. These comments often confuse me, especially when the posters don't include the username of the person that they are talking to. I never know who's talking to who. Sorry.
  
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  by Cheery Cherry on July 7th, 2008
- There's no need to apologize. If anything, I should be the one apologizing if an apology is even necessary.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on July 10th, 2008
- It's online communication for ya! It's soooo easy to misinterpret someone online. :)
  
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by Occams Electric Razor on May 1st, 2008
I woudn't tell someone their baby was gonna be deformed unless I was a doctor or a god, or something so I would never tell someone to get an abortion if I didnt know.

I would tell someone to go get an abortion if they were underage, had no income, got knocked up by some loser who would not support the kid and the mother and child would depend on taxpayers to support them.

or if the child was a result of rape
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by Gingerminx on April 24th, 2008
I am not against abortion , but I would not tell anyone to have one, I would tell them that it is a choice they have to make for themselves. If she was told by a doctor to abort for whatever reason I might advise she gets a second opinion before making her decision but that would be all.
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by BlahJay on March 30th, 2008
I would wonder what sort of proof you originally had as the difference between a healthy fetus and that of a fetus developing some sort of prenatal disability is rather severe.
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- This question isn't actually about me. It was inspired by my parents. This happened to them with my oldest brother. The doctor wanted to abort him because he thought he would be born blind. They went back to the same doctor, and apparently there were tears in the doctor's eyes. My brother isn't blind, he's a fairly cheerful guy, he got a job at 15 (when he didn't even have his high school diploma yet) that he still has, he's married with three children, and he's almost 30 now. So, I thought it was inspirational. ^_^
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  by AnonymousGirl on March 30th, 2008
- Considering the difference between prenatal care 15 years ago and now I'd say the chance of the same error happening today would be much smaller.
  
  Glad to hear your brother can see though.
  
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  by BlahJay on March 30th, 2008
- Hopefully you're right.
  That's understandable. Yep. He's a good driver, too, so that's good. :)
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on March 30th, 2008
- Well, you've always got the chance of negligent doctors unfortunately.
  
  By any chance, do you know what the doctor performed to suggest that your brother was going to be born blind?
  
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  by BlahJay on March 30th, 2008
- That's true. Doctors aren't perfect. Neither are we, though.
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  Nope. I don't think he performed anything. From the way I read/heard the story, it seems like he just randomly guessed that there was a possibility that he would be born blind.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on March 30th, 2008
- looool. Well very good then of your mother to ignore him.
  
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by Rollie on March 30th, 2008
Not possible for me, I'm not qualified. Not probable for someone who is.
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by ladylove on March 17th, 2009
I'm assuming this is a hypothetical situation judging by the comments etc...

I think that it is a bad idea to tell anyone whether or not they should have an abortion, it's always up to them.

I personally would not have an abortion just because of a disability. I would love my child no matter what and yes it may be harder work in certain situations. But a large proportion of people living with disabilities get on just fine leading their own lives.

Where would the world be without those people?

Anyway, going off point.

I'd feel pretty embarassed and rather awkward. I'd probably apologise for what I'd suggested before and hope she was cool with it.
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- This actually happened. I wasn't even alive when it did, though.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on March 17th, 2009
- Ah-ha, interesting! It wasn't about you (the baby) was it? If it was, just as well they didn't listen to the friend's advice.
  
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  by ladylove on March 17th, 2009
- Nope. The baby was one of my older brothers.
  
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  by AnonymousGirl on March 17th, 2009
- Oh right, I bet you're glad he's around now :) Good question by the way.
  
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by Tenaciouscj on July 5th, 2008
I'd never say that (a) because I'm against abortion except under very limited circumstances eg. woman with an ectopic pregnancy and (b) because I don't think it's my business to tell somebody that.

But supposing I had, I would feel very foolish when the mother showed me her perfectly healthy baby and would apologise for ever suggesting the idea. I'd also think twice if the situation ever arose again.
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by 773491 on March 30th, 2008
I would wonder why she took the test, because for getting information about the fetus, you have to take a test. And people who are morally against abortion, would never take this test.
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- I'm actually pretty sure my mom didn't take any test to find out.
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