ANSWERS: 3
  • You have two choices: 1. Buck up, overcome it, remember how in love with her you are and no matter what, she's not that same person and you love her. or 2. Continue to think negatively, dwell on things you can NOT change, and possibly lose this person you want to marry. Very few of us don't have a past these days, Confused. Everyone has SOME skeletons in their closet, be it past lovers, abusive households, former addictions, or simply bad choices we have made and faced the penalties for. I'm sure if you look back over your own life, you will see those things that are... not quite so appealing. This woman has taken you, past and all... you owe her the same respect.
  • Hello Confused. My answer is going to anger you, but I mean it in no way to be offensive. I'm just going to jerk a little knot in your tail. You'll need to grow up, if you are ever going to get past this. The past is the past. If your relationship doesn't work out because of this, I can almost guarantee you are going to have the same struggles with your next mate. Your fiance's past is part of the ingredients list that made her who she is. If you love who she is, it's part of that package, and you just need to accept it. Based on your brief description of the situation, I feel pretty sure that I have had the same reservations. Someone scolded me, and got me thinking straight. Since then, I haven't looked back. Your confidence will grow once you accept. Time to "man up".
  • Ihad the same problem, Did you know about her past before you got together? if you love her you will get over it the longer youve been together , if not youll bring it up in future arguments if you cant respect her.

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