Its just harmless fun, trust him :-)

she would have only sat on his lap if he paid her 2. she would av flirted first but no phisical contct till he's paid her. get rid, he's lying

It happens, you have to pay the dancer to get a lap dance though. My suggestion is to forget it but.... Tell him next time a woman jumps in his lap and does a lap dance it will be me...... AND Do it, dress in a sexy outfit one night and put on some music and give him a lap dance. Then make love....;-).

If the stripper made your b/f temporarily part of her performance it would have all been for show and the benefit (?!) and entertainment of everyone! An actual lapdance with her would have been a separate transaction altogether.

My question is, why do you care? I've been to strip clubs with friends and have gotten lap dances (by women, and I'm a heterosexual married woman)!! Your boyfriend likely told you she jumped on his lap because he knew you wouldn't approve or he may have even felt ashamed... but at the same time, he felt he should come clean to some degree, to keep the lines of communication open. Why would you distrust someone who volunteered information he knew you wouldn't be happy with? It's about fun, fantasy, and entertainment, not betraying your trust. Like Big Daddy said, you may want to dance for him, or even accompany him on the next outing. (By the way, he may find it to be steamier if YOU had a lapdance than if he had one himself!) Good luck and let loose! :)

First off I can't understand the lure of strip clubs. I am far from being gay but I would never go to a strip club to have some strange naked girl shake her ass abd boobs in my face or grind her crotch up against mine. I especially would not be doing this if I was married or had a s/o because it is hurtful and disrespectful to them. If I wanted to see a naked girl shaking her assets in my face and rubbing all over me I would be asking my partner to do that for me instead of going out to a club and paying some strange girl to do it. While getting a lap dance from a stripper may not be considered cheating by many it is also not very respectful of your wife or g/f if you have one. It's also contributing to the image of women being nothing more than just sex objects there for the sexual gratifacation of men which is totally not the case.

ive had the same problem where my boyfriend went to a strip club. no the stripper didnt go on top of him. but me and him do have rules that we follow. just trust him. i understood the fact that he just goes to look. its for entertainment not to adore the girl. he mostly cares about u. i had trusting issues but after a while i trusted him. hes there to look not to think n e thing bad. its like you being able to go to a male strip club. u just knw ur boundaries. its like watching porn but its just live thats all. believe me ive been in that situation so many times. ill go wit him too. he can go all he wants and always have u in mind. but just think about it when marriage happens thats when things change. they dont have time for that because they gona be going home to their wife. so have fun now and enjoy it together. trust me hes just there to look not touch because if he really loves u he wouldnt dare to touch.

So you don't mind that he went to a strip club, just that she sat on his lap??? It's a STRIP CLUB they do that sort of thing! He probably also had a few sets of tits rubbed in his face (strippers do that too), does that not bother you? Either tell him not to go to strip clubs or don't worry about what goes on when he's there.

Most couple who go to a stripclub together are turned on by the show (for the most part). Maybe the girl thought you were into it.

The girls will come over to you when you sit down. They want to see how much money they can get from you. Either by buying them a drink at outlandish prices or by getting a lapdance. Either way, it's just the girl trying to get all his money.

That was a REALLY bad sales technique on her part.

This answers your question in a LONG way, its a good read but. Watching strippers is entertainment. For 999 999.99 out of 1 million people out there it’s nothing more. Do guys enjoy seeing it? Yes. Nearly all of the girls are physically very attractive and they are also experts in moving their bodies. Will it excite him? Chances are yes it will excite him to some degree, it’s a natural reaction, we as humans are built to be drawn to certain things, its part of the reason our species survives. Does that mean he wishes you were this or that stripper? Not at all. Does it mean he doesn't find you attractive or there is something you can’t give him? Absolutely not. The fact is its entertainment, generally very social (bucks parties, birthdays etc,) and guys, and many girls, enjoy it. As long as he knows the boundaries i.e. no lap dances you should not worry yourself about it. Do you trust that he loves you enough not to cheat on you? Do you trust that he loves you enough to know what is right and what is wrong? Do you trust him? If not why are you with him at all? A relationship without trust is a pretty pathetic relationship. Also, maybe some of your doubts about him going to strip clubs are based on a lack of knowledge. Many people think a strip clubs is full of (1) slutty women rubbing themselves all over guys touching them, (2) guys touching girls all over or (3) people having sex or performing sexual acts. Nothing is further from the truth. Unless you dish out cash for a personal lap dance generally a girl will generally not touch you at all (sometimes they will sit on your lap and try and entice you to spend your money, but even this doesn’t happen often). If you dish out cash you will receive a lap dance only, nothing more, no relief of any kind, no sex. These girls are not about to give out services like that for the price of a lap dance, most of them are strippers because they respect themselves enough not to go and sell themselves for sex, even though they are attractive enough to fetch 10-15 more money doing that than stripping. I think the major problem here isn’t anything about going to strip clubs, it’s the lack of trust you have for him. That needs to be addressed NOW. Ill say it again, if you can’t trust him, why are you with him? If you do trust him but this just gets to you well you have to start being more mature. Maybe deep down at an unconscious level you know that in a reverse situation you would do something wrong so just can’t bring yourself to trust him in the situation, If you COULD do it how couldn’t he? In which case you need to ask if I would do that why am I in this relationship. The best relationships are honest, trusting relationships that are in tune to REALITY. Any girl that wants there guy to find ONLY them attractive is living is a fictional dream world, the fact of the matter is he doesn’t have to find ONLY you attractive rather he has to ensure he only wants (and does) to act on those feelings of attraction with you. I have a girlfriend that I love very much; she’s beautiful and quite sexy. Have I been to strip clubs and would I go to strip clubs even though I have this great girl? Yes I have and yes I would, in a social setting, for entertainments sake. Do I ever find other girls attractive or even more physically attractive? Yes. Would I ever act on those feelings? Never. Love is a lot more than physical attraction and my girl gives me something no one else in the world possibly can. On the reverse I trust her enough so I wouldn’t have a problem at all with her going to watch male strippers, as long as she knew and respected the boundaries. And I would be under no illusion that she wouldn’t find the guys very attractive and even be turned on by them, after all its what they are there for.

Let me just say as a ex-strip club goer. Their nothing wrong with going to a strip club with the intentions of just having plain fun. Now, some of the girls will do tricks (sexual favors) for extra cash (that I do know). The girl jumping on his lap is normal behavior of strippers. They all do that. That's their job. They provide the fantasy and you provide the money. Is a give and take situation. They push lap dances because that's how they make most of their money. Please understand this. But is ok innocent fun as long as you both are into it. If one party disagrees (most likely the girl) then is NOT ok. Respect each other and your love and trust will grow stronger. How do I know? www.Monsterette.com - Women's training camp.

Things like that happen in a strip club. It's inevitable.

My husband had went to a strip club and got a lap dance from one of the girls. I didnt knw about this until i went to the gyn doctors and she told me that i had an std called trichomonius it is a parsite that lives inside you until you get medication. He told me that she was fingering her self unbuttened his pants and stuck her hand down their tuching his penius. Now i have gotten this std because he couldnt say no. he told me that he did pull her hand out of his pants but it was to late the std already transfered.

well, i fink for anyone in a relationship to go and watch sum sleazy slut at a lapdancing club is fucking discusting. it is just off limits. Thankyou sweetguy for being the only sane person on here, u sound like a real gentlmen. By the way, whoever said going to a lapdancing club is just for fun...Holy shit. Anything that makes somebody so upset that they have to write into answerbag for advice is in NO WAY...FUN!!! This is people were talkng about, this is feelings at stake...You dont just go and watch another woman when ya have one at home!! Its like going shopping when theres perfectly decent food in the fridge..JUST POINTLESS. I can only hope that one day...u find your boyfriend watching sum tart rub up against him and get all hard and sweaty over another girl. yeah then come back here and tell me oh its ok..My husband was all hard and hot over another girl but its ok it was just a bit of fun...And tell me you dont feel like shit.

and did sumone say its a lack of trust? well no bloody wonder going out with a womanising pig like that..I wouldnt trust mine either. What a complete lack of disrespect!