Went thru my longtime b/f's phone & found text msg to a female coworker "it feels better after talking to you" among other daily contacts w/her. outside factors say he's not cheating but something emotional could be going on, to confront or not?
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zumie328
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You need to talk to him. Emotional cheating is just as bad. I know I am going through that. It can turn into more. Better to find out now. Communication is important.
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Hell yea, he's your bf. Did you have trust issues that caused you to go through his phone? It sounds like there are bigger problems then just him chatting.
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ugh. i have a boyfriend and I have a male friend. I love talking to him. He talks to me about his girlfriend and if he's mad at her and i do the same thing. We usually just try to calm each other down and show each other we are over reacting. He's told me how good it is that he has me to talk to. I feel the same way. We meet for coffee and blah blah blah....nothing is going on. you can ask him about it. Ask to meet her. If he doesn't want you to be her friend then there is something wrong. If he's excited that you want to befriend his friend then you should trust him
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Well, first you're going to have to tell him you were going through his phone without his knowledge which, at least in my relationship, is completely off limits. It could be he was talking to her about a work issue, it could be he was talking about and issue involving his relationship, it could be he was asking for advice on something... If it bothers you, talk to him about it. Keep in mind that everyone needs an outlet and not every platonic friendship becomes a sexual one. Communication is what will keep your relationship together, not checking up on each other.
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First of all, you've basically wrecked any hope of lasting trust in this relationship by going through your boyfriend's phone. Secondly, this is a far cry from cheating. It's completely possible that you are projecting your own suspicions onto a perfectly innocent situation. If you're really worried about it, talk to him about it calmly and rationally. That may be difficult, since you will also have to admit to him that you went through his phone first.
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It's most likely harmless. That's the bad side of reading someones messages - you can easily read into them. I chat with friends, male and female, about my relationships. If someone read part of a conversation, it could be interpreted the wrong way very easily. If you want to, you can confront your boyfriend about it - but you have to admit to snooping in his phone. That means if you come out guns-blazing in an accusatory fashion, you will end up on the losing side and nothing will get accomplished.
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Maybe you should stop over-analyzing things. Snooping generally does more harm than good. Would you want him to read through your messages and conversations with other people? I don't think so. Well, you know what? What isn't okay for him isn't okay for you.
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