His cheating 3 times in 2 years is probably more like 50 times in 1 year. do you really believe, having a baby is going to stop him? no, it will only compound the situation. If you are determined to have the baby, go it alone. he will never be there for you, when you need him.

If he loves you for reals, stay with him. (it's just like the backstreet boys song: "I don't care who you are, where your from, what you did, as long as you love me." tehe...this is probrably the oddest answer you'll get) you take care okays really try to find out about his true feelings!

I would say that the odds of this baby being a wake up call are not good. Marriages that are created under the circumstances you describe don't have a very good record for lasting. This is not to say that it would not work out between you two. There are always exceptions to the rules in these types of situations, but the odds are not good. If you two can't patch things up, might I suggest another alternative? Consider adoption. Despite what certain elements of society would have you believe, children really do do better in a two parent home. Children do need to have the example of both a mother and a father so that they know how they are supposed to behave when they grow up. So, please consider this option as well.

It's very, very unlikely. From my observations if anything when a guy isn't commited enough to deal with a monogamous relationship, talk of a baby is more likely to make him run a mile than it is to encourage him to stay. Its true he may decide he'd like to play responsible Dad and make plans to start a family with you but I think with that level of cheating it is HIGHLY unlikely to last. Even if it was just you, I'd be inclined to tell you to stop playing mug to this guy and give yourself a little more respect, but now you have a child on the way this is even more important. The risk of letting him stick around is just too great. I grew up in a home with a cheating parent and it ain't nice to deal with to say the least. If you have a boy, do you want this man to be his role model? If you have a girl, do you want her to grow up thinking all men are cheating, lying and unreliable? You have to think of your child's psychological well-being as well as your own. Get as far away from this guy as you can, cut the ties, and don't stand for it any more. What you do about your child is entirely up to you, but I feel that bringing the baby up alone, although hard, would be a far lesser evil than trying to sustain this relationship. good luck.

NO I REALLY DONT BELIEVE SO. AND WHY I DONT BELIEVE SO IS BECAUSE IM 6MONTHS PREGNANT AND MY EX AkA MY BABYS FATHER CHEATED ON ME AND I TOOK HIM BACK ONCE. THEN HE WENT TO JAIL, SO I WAS THERE FOR HIM ... [[STUPID ME]] I WROTE HIM ACCEPTED HIS CALLS PUT MONEY ON HIS BOOKS AND ALL THAT WELL HE WAS IN THERE FOR 4 MONTHS THE BEG. OF MY PREGNANCY AND WHEN HE GOT OUT I WAS THERE FOR HIM THAT SAME DAY I HAD A PARTY FOR HIM AND ALL THAT "WE" WERE SO HAPPY RIGHT? NO NOT RIGHT I GUESS. THE NEXT MORNING I HAD TO LEAVE TOWN FOR 2DAYS BECAUSE I WENT TO SEE MY SICK GRANDMOTHER. AND WHEN I CAME BACK HE WAS NO WHERE TO BE FOUND. SERIOUSLY. WHEN I WENT TO HIS HOUSE HE WASENT THERE I WOULD CALL. NOPE NOT THERE. WELL I TOLD HIS MOM TO TELL HIM IT WAS OVER. SO IT WAS ABOUT 2 WEEKS THAT I HAD BEEN BACK AND WE HADENT TALKED ONCE. WELL HE HAD HIS SISTER CALL ME (TO SEE HOW I WAS) AND I ENDED UP ON THE PHONE WITH HIM. SO WE STARTED TALKING AGAIN. LITTLE BY LITTLE WE GOT BACK TOGETHER. 2MONTHS LATER HE CHEATS AGAIN THIS TIME WITH 2 NEW GIRLS AND I DUMPED HIM AND NOW WE ARE JUST "FRIENDS".

let him know the situation but i'd say he's not worth the hassle, yes it will hurt but it'll hurt more if you stay with him and he keeps doing the dirty on you...

Being a guy, I cannot understand how he would continue to cheat. But then again, I would never have cheated in the first place. I would encourage you to keep the baby or give it up for adoption. But I don't know what to say about the guy.

It really depends so much on your boyfriend. There is a lot we don't know about him. Let's not be unfair to him, and at least give him the chance to be a solid man. Only time will tell. Sounds like the two of you might appreciate seeing the movie "Knocked Up" together. It's just a Hollywood feel-good sappy story, but maybe it'll get some ideas going, in the right direction... Here's the link: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0478311/ Anybody can grow up, when they decide to. Only he can show you which way he'll actually go.

cheating should be against the law, and drugs should be legalized. Cheating is so bad to do... PPL should go to jail for it

raise the little one yourself you will be happier

This kid will NOT be a wakeup call of any sort for him. If anything he will see it as a new reason to cheat or even leave. But I welcome you to the world of single parenting. A kid does not need to be a part of two people arguing because "dad cheated on mom again".

Yeah. It'll be a wake up call. For him to cheat even more often. Come on. Just move on.

3 times in 2 months? Damn! Move on. ...and mix in some rubbers.

A baby? Tell me your working and have an HMO. If not, don't expect taxpayers to fund your endeavor. Bringing up a kid is not easy, its costly, and if you think its going to be a wake up call for him...you have no business hanging this over his head. It'll turn out to be a WAKE UP call for YOU TOO, should you go through it. My advice, neitheir of you sound responsible...haul yourself down to Planned Parenthood, and get an abortion. If you can't afford to get an abortion, then you have no business raising a child on state's monies. The child will be the one who suffers from poverty, and parents who lack any responsiblity.

Well,whatever happens just prioritize your future baby's health and also your health..We can never tell if it should be a wake up call to your boyfriend.^_^

I know you want to believe the best, but I think he's not going to be good for you or your child. I would move on. I'm really sorry about your situation.

hey wake up if your boyfriend cheatted on you in the first place why would yo goo back with him the second time?

well I would move on fast, but no one can actually answer that for you as far as I can see. Whatever you do, I wish you and your baby much happiness!

No, people don't change when they do that shit so often. You have a personal decision to make, but this is a saying that I personally think people should live by: "Never count on someone changing, they might, but never count on it". (Note: this is an old quote adapted from a gender specific saying, but I felt this might be more helpful)

Sweetie, babys don't solve anything, it may encourage him to grow up and take responsibility, maybe he would stop cheating. On the other hand, it could make him go out and cheat even more, either way, you deserve so much better! Even if he did stop cheating, for the babys sake, it's still not for your sake, not because he knows what he's doing is wrong! Walk away and find someone who knows how to treat you properly ... I mean are you really ever going to trust him? It's important to sustain some kind of civil relationship with him for the baby's sake ... that's if he's mature enough to handle the situation. But do yourself a favour, there are plenty of guys out there who would treat you so much better, good luck with the baby =]]

Move on... before you have to deal with a guy who is the father of your child plus the father of many other children from other women. It's going to be tough being a single mother, but even tougher dealing with a boyfriend who is unfaithful and then some.

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior so it's highly unlikely.

No, you can't expect a baby to patch up an ailing relationship. In fact, you can't have much of a relationship if this guy is cheating so much. I think give him the heave-ho and raise your bubs on your own.

Oh, Darling girl....do better for yourself and that child. Find a life for yourself which excludes jerks and people with no personal integrity.....this man would be a ROLE MODEL for that child....imagine!!

Move on sweetie, if he has cheated on you 3x in 2 months, he doesn't respect you and it seems like he doesn't have the ability to committ to you. You need someone in your life that will give you the love and respect you deserve.

don't move on. Firstly let him know, find out his response and then make sure to go to court to see he makes his child support payments for the next 18 years.

I was about to answer, but the kid's about a year old by now. Anything I say can and will be used against me. I hope she didn't marry the snake. Raising a bastard child all alone is better than being married to an adulterer.

First of all I am really sorry that you are going through this right now. Nobody deserves it. I am in a similar and maybe slightly more complicated situation right now. Regarding your question, I believe it really depends on your boyfriend. Do you feel that he will step up. He may not be a good boyfriend, but he may be a good father so regardless of whether or not you two stay together he should still be involved in the child's life.

It takes a man (sperm) to get you pregnant. It takes a father to help you raise that child. Babies don't change people. They just add pressure to an already complicated situation. It seems like the sperm donor (kid) has issues of his own. He's just not ready. Yes, he has options but so do you. You need to find a real father for your child and leave the kid at the playground. How do I know? www.Monsterette.com - Women's training camp.

Wake up, smell the coffee, get rid of that loser and make sure to get your alimony.

Dump his ass! Single mothers in america do it EVERY DAY. You can survive on your own. Find a guy who will help you and your baby grow and flourish!

If you have a supportive family. Just walk away. That is really all you truly need to raise a child. By that I mean surround yourself with people that love and respect you. Cause sweetie your not getting that from the ''cheater''..Give him a choice to be a part of the child's life, But for the love of G*d if he can't be emotional and financially responsible for not only what he has done but for the well being of the both and step up to being a father. Cut that man out of your life.

Raising a child is not always easy. You should just talk to him. See if he is willing to step up to the plate and be a dad. it will all ways be good to get extra help with a baby.